Stuck in my own head at work

So - I need an outlet for this. If anybody is willing to read a confused post, please help me?
I love posting in the forums because a) it is easier for me to write than to talk
and b) because of the reactions
So. I don't really know what's going on with me. I can't even say what my problem is, and I feel insecure because of that. Like I have the need to reach out, but I don't even know what this is about.
I work a lot lately and I have money problems because I broke off contact to my dad. At work, almost all of my colleagues have partners, kids, "normal" families and they all seem so confident and happy (I can see they truly are loving, happy people and I am happy for them). I just feel like such a misfit, because I come from a broken family with lots of abuse/drinking/etcetc. and I often feel so negative.
Then also I have just had a breakup with someone I really love. I am still so so so very sad and desperate because of it.
I don't know if it is the situation and my reaction (being sad, feeling inadequate, physical issues like headaches, back pains, heartaches, self doubts) is responding to that, or if I really am different from the others and a broken person and others stay away from me once they realize how broken I am.
I just don't know. I have so much on my plate and my head is about to burst. I have no energy and my chest hurts. There are too many thoughts in my head.

Coparing your self to others is a sure way to feel bad about yourself. No need to do that. See a Therapist if your feeling over whelmed with to many thoughts.

I'm the same way! You are not broken, neither am I. We are just trying to cope. Keep your head up and keep trying... Or as Yoda would say there is no try, only do!

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Hey there
Having lots of thoughts running around your head isn't nice, I get that & if it's similar to how I sometimes get, they're often so jumbled I can't make head nor tail of them to the point I don't even know what I feel anymore.

I notice you prefer to write rather than talk. Writing things down kind of almost forces some degree of processing what the thoughts are. Maybe you could try sitting down & just let the words flow, no matter how random you think that maybe, when you read it back there's a chance you'll see where some things might fit. Even if it doesn't, just getting them out of your head can sometimes provide the relief and a bit of mental space to not feel so overwhelmed.

I'm sorry about your break up too, it hurts I know, and will be adding to the jumble of thoughts & feelings. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time & permission to feel however you feel about it, the loss of a relationship is like any other loss and takes time to get over and deal with emotionally.

Finally as happy & confident as your colleagues may appear on the outside, it doesn't necessarily mean that is the case. People in general are very good at putting on a front for the rest of the world when behind closed doors things are not so good. You may be comparing yourself to false fronts. Please don't ever think you're alone in how you feel. You only have to read through the posts on here to see all nature of things people are wrestling with and trying everyday to cope & make it through. Many of those posting may be like me to the rest of the world all is well. Only a handful of very close friends & two family members know the truth of my ups, downs, struggles and mental battles with myself. Well that small group & the community here! But that's where posting here comes in. I can be me and be accepted as I am & get help into the deal.

I wish you all the very best & send you hugs.

Your confusion and feelings mirror my own. I feel like a misfit at work as well. Almost everyone is coupled with someone. They're well adjusted, successful. And then there is me...and I'm just...problems. So many problems.

I can't really give you advice on how to cope with this, because the solutions elude me as well. But I wanted you to know you're not alone in feeling this way. Talking and getting it out of your head is definitely good for you. Like you, I'm a quiet person and don't openly talk about my problems with anyone. So places like this are a great place for an unbiased ear.

Keep expressing whats inside of you. Maybe keep a journal (I have a Captain America one!) and try doing something creative. I recently bought a therapeutic adult coloring book of geometric shapes. Bought a box of 96 crayons, and just work on it. Its very soothing, and with colors comes out how you're feeling on the inside. So its like inexpensive art therapy. The book I bought also has pages for journaling while you color. I got it at Walmart.

Find something that brings you comfort and peace. Drinking tea and spending time with my cat takes me to a better place immediately. Certain music does as well. I'll never forget telling my supervisor my problems, that I had a traumatic life, and he told me, "You need to find something that brings you peace. Think of a place, a person, a thing, a thought, anything, that brings you peace. And go there when you feel like you're losing control. Come back to control. Because you are always in control."

Hopefully this was helpful. Take care of yourself.

I suffer as well. Sometimes it is writing that helps. Sometimes I am helped by talking to my counselor. I rarely talk to a friend because I feel the struggles I have are so overwhelming that I think it is too much for a friend. Stuffing it all though hasn't helped. Might be better to let it out little by little. I try to speak with my husband but it doesn't always go well. I have many real hurts that I am aware of and I feel like they have just multiplied and gathered like a large lump. All is hard and painful to get over. Hard to know where to begin but sharing here helps.

Thank you guys. It is a relief to read what everyone has written.
It does feel like a large lump in my throat at times, and the more I beat myself up about it, the more mistakes I make and the more insecure I get.
Peace of mind would be good! Thank you for the tip, TryingToMoveForward! I was actually looking at colourig books the other day and I ordered one yesterday
Also, I decided to maybe be a little more respectful towards my own feelings. I remember having heard or read something like you should acknowledge what is there without judging it, before dealing with it.
I hope we all find ways to cope and be good to ourselves & each other