[TishaBuv]

I have no right to feel this way and I don't even understand why I do. My ex boyfriend got married years after we broke up and lost touch, and years after I did. Since I learned that he married an Indian woman, now every time I see one I think of them and get jealous.

I wonder what made him love her and not me.

I feel so dumb for thinking about him at all, but I'm never going to stop.

I think this is the strangest OCD. Any ideas for de programming my brain?

[sarah putney]

I understand. My sons dad who was my 1st love and only love is in a relationship and is very happy. We broke up in 2006. I dont understand why it makes me sad. I am no longer in love with him. I guess in a way I will always love him and that is why I feel some jealousy towards him being in a relationship.

Not picking you over her doesn't mean she is better than you. You are as valuable without him, may be even more valuable. This isn't a healthy way of thinking to compare yourself with others. Everyone is unique. I suggest to forget the past (including not knowing anything related to it if it isn't helpful to you) and focus on the future.

[Ansley Wyman]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I have no right to feel this way and I don't even understand why I do. My ex boyfriend got married years after we broke up and lost touch, and years after I did. Since I learned that he married an Indian woman, now every time I see one I think of them and get jealous.

I wonder what made him love her and not me.

I feel so dumb for thinking about him at all, but I'm never going to stop.

I think this is the strangest OCD. Any ideas for de programming my brain?

The reason here might not be Jealousy or you were not perfect for him. I guess, it is just that he can't accept you or the feelings were not the same. Don't worry, there will come a time that you will find someone else even better than your ex. someone who will really love you and accepts you for what you are.

Well I understand. My ex-husband is on the surface living a fabulously happy life with his fiance. If I have any jealousy though it is over the life they are living (he didn't want to do anything or spend money when we were together). I did for a time question my own self worth. Perhaps she is a great person. But then I ask myself would I really want him back?