Intense hatred for ex-friend. Can't function.

I actually think it's the "behind my back" part of it that bothered me the most. Like... we're supposed to be friends but you can't tell me you're seeing my guy? Proves that she knew she was wrong. And when she found out that I found out (I raged to a mutual friend), what did she do? Apologize. If she didn't know she was wrong she wouldn't have apologized.

I can't really see why you think he's more to blame over her. Can you explain some more?

I think you're being way too black-and-white about this.

Some things are black and white.

That dude wasn't ever yours, AND you HAVE a bf.

Sure your feelings got hurt, and like I said, I know it sucks, but you put yourself in that position by cheating on your bf in the first place.

Fact remains that girl didn't steal anything or anyone from you, and you're no better than her because just as she went behind your back, you've been going behind your boyfriend's..,

It is a cousin - who I once thought of as a sister - who did a really stupid thing and put down my MI that caused me to cast her aside.

I'm not sure who initiated that step to meet alone, your friend or the guy, but in either case, the guy has made a free choice. Your friend was wrong, but also the guy was wrong. Neither should've accepted to meet behind your back, not that fast. Sure your friend has the right to love and be loved, as you have that right, but there are legitimate means. I would be pissed off if I introduced two people I know and discovered the next day that they are meeting behind my back, even if we are all platonic friends. It doesn't sound right. For your BF, as I said, if you aren't happy with him because he is not around all the time, set yourself free. It's better for both of you.

I agree. Good posting. The OP has no right to be angry at anything. NO RIGHT!! I feel sorry for the friend, at this point.

Original Poster, I noticed you said that your friend of 6 months was really nice to you, but then you say you think she stole him on purpose and pressured him into a relationship, which is not nice, so I'm confused. I pretty much agree with what everyone else is telling you. That he wasn't yours to begin with, you have a boyfriend already, and you knew him for 2 weeks. I am sorry you are hurting though. And I do think you have a right to feel your feelings about it. Feelings are feelings and we feel them regardless of logic. You asked how you can forget about her (my advice is to forget about him too). Make some new friends. Do some things you enjoy. Learn about the way life works (I don't mean this in a condescending way either. There are all things we need to work on and learn). I think someone here posted a link to moving on for you, which sounds helpful. I wish you the best.

Really? Its not like anybody is married or engaged. Everybody is single. I think this is a free country. And im sorry but i wouldnt wait to ask permission from somebody who is cheating on their bf.

OK, now everyone is using the BF cheating thing as an excuse to invalidate her feelings, and I don't agree with that. I didn't say it was right, but what they did wasn't right either. The fact is that she introduced two people she knew, and almost immediately began to meet alone without involving her. The BF thing is irrelevant to the story here. We can argue what a free country means, but people who go around me although they met through me doesn't represent freedom in its correct way. There is a difference between what you can do, and what you should do. If you can do something, it doesn't mean you should do it. Maybe it doesn't affect you that people who met through you to meet alone in less than 2 weeks, but it does for me, unless my goal of introducing them was for them to meet alone.

You're missing the point. The OP has NO RIGHT to expect this booty call guy to stay loyal to her when she's not being loyal to her BF. That's the pot calling the kettle black, it is.

I think you are missing the point. Even if she wanted a platonic relationship with the guy, still what they did wasn't right. It has nothing to do with cheating on her BF. It's the principle. And the OP was pissed on her friend not on the guy, maybe because she knew her for a relatively long time.

Anyway, it seems this will drag us to some arguing. The bottom line is that the OP has a problem, and expected us to help and support her. I'm not sure if she found either. People make mistakes, we all make mistakes. So, please don't tell me what's right and wrong, try to help her if you can. I'm out.

Thank you so so much for having my back on this. I know it wasn't right to do that to my bf but it doesn't have anything to do with the fact that my friend betrayed me in an even worse way.

Yes, you get my feelings exactly. She met with him without involving me in the slightest, as if I were nothing but a stepping ladder for her to get to him. I knew him for a full week by the time I introduced them so it's not like I just met him. By that time, he was very clearly MY friend (with benefits). The worst part is, I didn't even want to introduce them! I was forced to.

But hey. You lose some you gain some. Hopefully true friends are in my future. Thank you again.

I never expected loyalty from him, that's why I'm not upset with him. I expected it from HER.

I'm sorry hun...but relationships are a 2 WAY STREET...who exactly have you been LOYAL to in this situation? ?
BF...cheating is the opposite of loyalty.
BFF...dumping your friend and calling her horrible names over a random side dude...that doesn't fit any definition of Loyalty that I am aware of...

Oh the side dude...yeah..the person you have known the least amount of time and have had the most meaningless relationship with outta the 3...yeah You are acting vaguely something like Loyalish towards him...

Time to do a Values and Priority check darling!

Im not talking about loyalty. Im talking about being adults out in the world. Not in a group of friends like kids on a playground that you tell what roles to play in a little game. Even knowing somebody for six months is a very short time. Im more concerned about why it upsets you so much.

A clarification. I just don't agree on people going around me if they met through me so fast. I'm not sure, though, if calling the guy "your" friend is legitimate as if you own him. In any case, I would ditch them both. Find people who appreciate and value you. I prefer to be alone than to be around people who have no consideration whatsoever. I don't sign up for that game. Also, me validating your feelings and saying that your BF story is irrelevant don't mean to give you a pass on that issue. You have to do something about it, too. Sorry to be blunt in this post, but I don't want to be misunderstood. I hope these responses have opened your eyes on what's right and what's wrong. Good luck