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Old Sep 27, 2017, 10:57 PM
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What is somewhat unusual though that it causes you extreme depression and anxiety. It's somewhat unusual to be that depressed about being unable to go on vacation right now and having to wait till spring etc

Having to postpone a vacation due to work schedule or other obligations etc is fairly normal occurrence. Happens all the time. Your extreme reaction to it though appears to be out of proportion hence a suggestion about therapy (maybe you are in a wrong kind of therapy)or other treatments to help you deal with it.

Yeah I could see how people would think this. But what's really going on is that I feel like I haven't had enough experiences for my age. I see all these people traveling in their early 20s and it makes me feel like I am behind. So having to wait another 6 months isn't just having to wait another 6 months, it's adding another 6 months to the already long time I spent not living my life to the fullest. It's not so much about being inpatient or unable to wait, it's more about feeling regret for letting so much pass me by.

And then of course there is also the anxiety about aging and how that will affect my social experiences while traveling.

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There is also absolutely nothing wrong with wanting or having sex or meeting people. I see no issue with it. I think it's somewhat an issue though that you aren't meeting people or having sex yet you are extremely upset about not doing it. So maybe not therapy but life coach could be of help? Somebody to help you with developing strategies?

I believe good therapist or life coach CAN help you to develop skills and strategies how to meet women.
Actually my therapist suggested a life coach and referred me to one. However, it turned out he was in another state and was expecting me to do Skype sessions. He also charged way too much. However, my therapist actually said that she can't help with with skills for talking to women because that is not her area of expertise.

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Old Sep 28, 2017, 01:58 AM
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I'm 62 years old. I don't consider myself old or ugly. I travel a lot. Age is just a number baby!
I agree 110%!

I hope things work out for you, Shadix. I've traveled internationally a few times and I had great experiences seeing different cultures, etc.

I'd think it's easier for a man to meet women locally, am I wrong? I was too busy exploring during my travels...hookups never crossed my mind. I may be in the minority, however. I need time to get to know a man and for us to form a mutual, deeper connection than hookups.

Maybe just hit a red light district? Seriously, it could be interesting.
Thanks for this!
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Old Sep 28, 2017, 05:31 AM
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Yeah I could see how people would think this. But what's really going on is that I feel like I haven't had enough experiences for my age. I see all these people traveling in their early 20s and it makes me feel like I am behind. So having to wait another 6 months isn't just having to wait another 6 months, it's adding another 6 months to the already long time I spent not living my life to the fullest. It's not so much about being inpatient or unable to wait, it's more about feeling regret for letting so much pass me by.

And then of course there is also the anxiety about aging and how that will affect my social experiences while traveling.


Actually my therapist suggested a life coach and referred me to one. However, it turned out he was in another state and was expecting me to do Skype sessions. He also charged way too much. However, my therapist actually said that she can't help with with skills for talking to women because that is not her area of expertise.
If this therapist can't help then look for a different one. You might need behavior therapy. And you can find life coach in your state, but I agree it likely won't be cheap

Feeling regret over something and worrying about aging isn't abnormal. But if it prevents you from enjoying your life and moving forward then it becomes, don't want to use the world abnormal, but let's say: concerning.

Honestly being able to wait for something and not lose one's mind over it is a sign of growing up. Not being miserable that other people have something and you don't is sign of growing up. Wanting something that you can't have is normal but accepting that you cannot have it right this minute is a sign of growing up.

If it doesn't come naturally to you, you mind need to look for better professional help or maybe more accurate diagnosis. Accurate diagnosis might lead to better treatment. Did your psychiatrist ever look into ASD for example?
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