[Fuzzybear]

I’ve been told that therapy is only for people who are “well”.

.....

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

They're crazy!

[Sunflower123]

I agree.

Who told you that Fuzzy? because whoever did are totally wrong.

[Fuzzybear]

A psychologist who I paid for

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

A psychologist who I paid for

In what context did she/he say this to you? May be the context can help us understand her/his logic, which seems pretty incorrect. I am usually hesitant to evaluate any situation without knowing the context.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

I had a similar experience. A shrink met with me once and told me I would be 'too much' for his therapy group. Actual words.

The context was, the one hour a week therapy I was receiving at the medical centre was not enough. I became suddenly desperate, and told my regular therapist that.

I didnt expect them to come up with a magic solution but I was young at the time, and had no idea what to do with this feeling.

He made this comment and sent me home. It really hurt my feelings.

[Thunder Bow]

What did he mean by "well"? If you were "well" why would you need a therapist?

[Fuzzybear]

This psychologist decided I hadn’t made “significant change” because I didn’t want to get involved with some job (With some aquaintances irl) So as I hadn’t made “significant change” - as in having empathy for family who had no empathy for me, and agreeing to do a job I had no interest in... I wasn’t “well” enough for therapy. He was bored with me, he said I wasn’t “endearing” and progress was too “slow” (he said the latter in a much crueler way)

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

I had a similar experience. A shrink met with me once and told me I would be 'too much' for his therapy group. Actual words.

The context was, the one hour a week therapy I was receiving at the medical centre was not enough. I became suddenly desperate, and told my regular therapist that.

I didnt expect them to come up with a magic solution but I was young at the time, and had no idea what to do with this feeling.

He made this comment and sent me home. It really hurt my feelings.

Grrrr I’m sorry

As you know I’m also in the uk

I didn’t know what to do with the feelings the therapist stirred up .. was he deliberately trying to hurt me? To make me angry?

A shrink told me there was “no point” in seeing him (the shrink) more than once every 3 months . He hurt my feelings too and confused me

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

This psychologist decided I hadn’t made “significant change” because I didn’t want to get involved with some job (With some aquaintances irl) So as I hadn’t made “significant change” - as in having empathy for family who had no empathy for me, and agreeing to do a job I had no interest in... I wasn’t “well” enough for therapy. He was bored with me, he said I wasn’t “endearing” and progress was too “slow” (he said the latter in a much crueler way)

So sorry to hear this, but not shocked.

"Significant change" sounds like one of those phrases they use when they're overworked and under-resourced and trying to force people through the system.

To others who haven't experienced it... yes, they really will make the patient feel they are to blame for these things.

Fuzzy, so sorry. It's hurtful. Especially to open-hearted, sensitive people.

Once, I had to pretend I was taking an antidepressant so I could get therapy.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

So sorry to hear this, but not shocked.

"Significant change" sounds like one of those phrases they use when they're overworked and under-resourced and trying to force people through the system.

To others who haven't experienced it... yes, they really will make the patient feel they are to blame for these things.

Fuzzy, so sorry. It's hurtful. Especially to open-hearted, sensitive people.

Once, I had to pretend I was taking an antidepressant so I could get therapy.

Thank you it’s kind of crazy making

I was completely honest with this therapist ... I didn’t tell him everything (I didn’t trust him).. but my honesty didn’t help. His mistreatment of me was.. sub optimal

I’m sorry you had to pretend you were taking an antidepressant so you could get therapy

Another doctor (a GP) told me none of their patients have been helped by therapy ...

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Yes, it is insane some of the things they say.

I have a cool, practical approach to them now.

The private therapist I saw for a short course wasn't like this. It's the system that makes some of them act this way, I think. The private therapist felt like a friend. She got tears in her eyes when I was telling her about my past! Unbelievable! About six weeks later, she popped into my workplace just to say nice things.

Therapy is certainly not only for those deemed as 'well'.

It sounds like he was frustrated by what he saw as lack of progress (I might be wrong but that is how I am reading it) but he conveyed that in a very abrupt and inappropriate manner. It really was not okay to judge a client as 'endearing' or otherwise.

From what I have read lack of progress with clients is one of the hardest things for a therapist to cope with, but there can be many reasons why. Certainly if you did not trust him sufficiently I would say that would be a major factor.

PS - edited to add like Purple,Violet,Blue I also had a positive experience of therapy, but mine was an NHS contracted therapist. A relative saw the same therapist but did not find it helpful. Sometimes it's dynamics, lots of things play into the mix.

What? That's ridiculous. She/he probably doesn't want to deal with someone who seems like they can't be helped. Therapy is for everyone.

[Fuzzybear]

There are some real tools in the field of “psychotherapy”. Maybe they are “too sick” to be therapists

I fell for this dudes lies not completely but he did a lot of harm

I no longer trust any therapists or doctors. (In “real” life) So, “thanks for the.... help”

(Not about anyone on pc)