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Mar 27, 2018, 06:59 PM
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I recently wanted to start going to the gym, so I can become stronger physically and mentally. I have a benchpress machine in my house, so I started wanted to use that. But, problem is every time I go up to do the bench press or weights I get extremely self conscious. I feel like I won't be able to progress no matter what because all my life everyone has made fun of me for my strength. Telling me I'm always weak, every time I go up to even do weights I think of my brother or my father tell me I'm too weak to do it and that I'm not strong. I don't know guys, it just is very hard for me because I WANT to exercise. I want to get better. But there is part of me that thinks I won't, and I will always be this weak person.
I just have an issue. I even have social anxiety because when I was younger I was bullied a lot. I'm always afraid I will be rejected by someone else, because when I was younger I always was rejected. I hate talking in front of groups because I think they will think I sound stupid, or whatever. I get afraid to talk to people. I do it anyway, but it's hard. It really is. I'm trying I really am. I just need some solid advice. |
 MickeyCheeky, mote.of.soul
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Mar 27, 2018, 07:20 PM
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Hi, my thought is how can you prove “them wrong” if you don’t try? Push through the worry, the thoughts, the past and prove to yourself you can do it. It doesn’t matter what others say your the only one in charge of the choices you choose. Allowing others to dictate your future will keep you in bondage to pain, rejection, hurt and a self defeating mind set. If if these exercises are in small amounts they prove you can do them. It’s an “internal choice” not an external choice. Push forward my friend.
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Mar 28, 2018, 12:46 PM
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Bullying is all about control. Time to break free from that Control. Got to start somewhere.
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Mar 29, 2018, 03:58 AM
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I have use the Smolov Jr for bench pressing with my clients and it has gotten them stronger pretty quickly if you stick with the program.
Here you can read about it. Smolov Jr. Program - Smolov Squat Program
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Mar 29, 2018, 05:40 AM
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 I'm sorry you were bullied. But don't let those people control your life: you can do it, I'm sure. 
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