Maybe if I write these thoughts down I’ll do a better job of staying on this track. Reading and writing has always been good therapy for me. Discussion with like-minded folks also helps a great deal.

I have the mistaken idea that life is “supposed” to be the way I want it. It’s not something I readily admit but I need to face it. I’m hung up on my desire for everything to be the way I want it versus appreciating the many blessings in my life.

I’m currently reading about how the human brain focuses in on the negative... not the positive... as a survival instinct. I’ve gotten hung up on the negative - long past it serving any purpose for me.

Every day I’m now interrupting my own negative thoughts and looking at the good side of things. I’ll never get over the negative things if I don’t stop dwelling on them. There is good and bad in everything and life is never going to be exactly like I want it... but it can be a wonderful life if I accept it as it is.

Recently I’ve experienced more self awareness than usual... and while I don’t like some things I see... there is also a lot of good that I don’t give myself credit for.

Confidence in myself, compassion and acceptance with myself... that’s going to take some work. It won’t just happen. I have to practice being positive and accepting myself as well as others. It honestly feels like a daunting task. I can do this though. I truly can. I’ll need a lot of reminding because every day I second-guess myself...

Sisabel, I love that you wrote this here. I hope it was helpful for you. It was helpful (and inspirational) for me! I struggle with this too. I am more negative and it does feel wonderful to focus more on what went right. And you can do this. Reiteration and reminders are a wonderful thing and help me too.

You can do this! Step by step. Inch by inch. It may not be a linear process.


I will be back tomorrow to remind you

Originally Posted by KnitChick

Sisabel, I love that you wrote this here. I hope it was helpful for you. It was helpful (and inspirational) for me! I struggle with this too. I am more negative and it does feel wonderful to focus more on what went right. And you can do this. Reiteration and reminders are a wonderful thing and help me too.

You can do this! Step by step. Inch by inch. It may not be a linear process.


I will be back tomorrow to remind you

Thank you so much KnitChick! Nobody can do this for me but it sure helps to have support. Your kind support warms my heart and encourages me. ❤️

Originally Posted by Sisabel

Thank you so much KnitChick! Nobody can do this for me but it sure helps to have support. Your kind support warms my heart and encourages me. ❤️

Love your attitude! So true that we are the only ones who can help ourselves. And you are welcome!

[ShadowGX]

Ahh yes, "thinking positively"... Something easier said than done, but I do try. Some days it feels so impossible, and it's very hard not to compare with other people who have what I need... All we can do is try though, right? First step to success.

Here to cheer you on today!

Originally Posted by KnitChick

Here to cheer you on today!

KnitChick you are such a dear soul.

I should start a “brain retrain” support thread.

Today I interrupted my negative thoughts to replace or at least add a positive thought. I also made a focused effort to say positive or neutral things and avoid saying anything negative. It felt good. I am remembering there was a time this was more like the “real me” and I’m wondering what changed along the way. It must have been years ago now. I didn’t even notice the change happening.

Thank you for thinking of me. I really appreciate it.

That is great. Yesterday I wrote a gratitude list. Today was stressful but I talked it out with someone.

Originally Posted by Sisabel

I should start a “brain retrain” support thread.

I would love that. If you don't, I will.

Originally Posted by KnitChick

That is great. Yesterday I wrote a gratitude list. Today was stressful but I talked it out with someone.

Great job!!!!! One day at a time. ❤️

Originally Posted by KnitChick

I would love that. If you don't, I will.

You are most welcome to start it if you like. I’ll definitely be a follower. ❤️