I couldn't sleep last night. I was having all these negative thoughts on how no one acknowledges my existence. On how reaching out to everyone was another opportunity for disappointment by treating me as worthless. I feel because I don't have much to offer at this point in my life, people just don't bother with me, especially when I am asking for help. When I say help, I mean something like connections for work. I really struggle to find a job, and my applications don't even get acknowledged. If my situation continues like this, I will probably end up in the streets in a couple of months as I have no where else to go. All my family and friends don't care about me. I don't know what to do. I am very anxious and depressed.

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I think for me, personally, if anyone was looking for work leads, I would feel hard pressed for definite job prospects. I'd probably ask them if they tried the local career center in my area or some temp agencies?? It wouldn't mean that I, personally, wouldn't care nor have concern, but my own hands would be tied.

Sorry that your family isn't showing concern

The people I reach out to are working in companies that probably have vacancies. They could just mention them and refer me. Nothing more. But they are unwilling to do this simple thing, because they don't care very much. The irony is that when I contact them, they tell me I need connections, while that's why I was contacting them in the first place.

But it's not just about finding a job. It's when I contact anyone without any reason. Many times I message people I know asking how they are doing, they reply by saying they are doing good, and that's it. They don't bother asking back how I am doing, let alone initiate a conversation. I called family on Christmas twice, and they were "busy", but didn't call me back when they were not!! I mean nothing to everyone. Everyone treats me as worthless and with disrespect as if I don't deserve it. I only wish I can be independent and move on with my life instead of trying to keep a thin connection with people who obviously don't care.

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Originally Posted by Sans Nom

I only wish I can be independent and move on with my life instead of trying to keep a thin connection with people who obviously don't care.

Sounds like a goal. A much needed one, as well.

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Sounds like a goal. A much needed one, as well.

I agree. That sounds wise Sans Nom...no sense continuing to pursue connection with people who aren't really open to it. We all need to be as independent as possible. How's your relationship with yourself? Have you tried working on that. Sorry you are feeling so badly.

Sans Nom, this meditation really helps me when I feel isolated and lonely.

I hope it helps you.

Guided meditation: loneliness (Source: YouTube)

Guided meditiation for inner peace and help letting go:

This one focuses on motoric meditation...you might prefer it

So many different styles out there, you can pick one that suits you.

I want to find a job to be independent. Without a job I cannot do anything. I went to live with my parents for while, and it was humiliating. They tried to control my life because I wasn't working. When I was working, I purchased presents to them, and invited them to restaurants. I felt independent and more confident. But the last time, I felt like I was a burden to everyone. Let alone the people who kept investigating why I was not working. I couldn't go out to avoid people's questions. I didn't know what to answer. I felt ashamed to be in that position, and allowed people to look at me like that.

Originally Posted by Sans Nom

I want to find a job to be independent. Without a job I cannot do anything. I went to live with my parents for while, and it was humiliating. They tried to control my life because I wasn't working. When I was working, I purchased presents to them, and invited them to restaurants. I felt independent and more confident. But the last time, I felt like I was a burden to everyone. Let alone the people who kept investigating why I was not working. I couldn't go out to avoid people's questions. I didn't know what to answer. I felt ashamed to be in that position, and allowed people to look at me like that.

Are you currently unemployed? What is the barrier to finding a job? Do you need to look in a different area for a while...you said you didn't get responses to your applications? Does your resume need a review or new format?

How old are you Sans Nom? Approximately.

See my thread here. I am in my mid to late 30s. I believe that my resume is good. I think the problem is something else.

Originally Posted by Sans Nom

See my thread here. I am in my mid to late 30s. I believe that my resume is good. I think the problem is something else.

So there was a prior gap of two yrs but now it's been only a few months? What was your reason for leaving last job without another job to go to? Resigned? Fired? Laid off? Do you have at least 3 strong references?

You mentioned difficulty transferring from academia to industry...if I have that the right way round. Do you have the appropriate credentials for the industry jobs? Is this transfer feasible? You could go back and speak with your college professors...they could give insight into the field transition or link you to a former student who already made that transition.

Originally Posted by Sans Nom

See my thread here. I am in my mid to late 30s. I believe that my resume is good. I think the problem is something else.

"something else?" What do you think the problem is? How are your interview skills?

Two main points I think:

- is what you are trying to achieve realistic based on your current credentials and lack of industry experience? Do you know other folks with a similar background who were successful in this transition?

- do you need to alter your goal here to something more obtainable?

Well, I don't get interviews to start with. My academic supervisors don't care, too. I mean, they are nice and we have been talking from now and then, but when I talk to them about my struggle, they seem to be inclined not to do anything, including not giving any insight or connect me with their previous students. I told you, I am nonexistent and worthless to everyone. I have the necessary credentials, but maybe a little overqualified for most jobs, but I see others manage to find a job. Not me though. It's all about connections, I believe. Recruiters get 100s of applications, and mine seem to be lost every time in the pile. My gap simply was because I couldn't find a job after I finished my contract.

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Thank you for the detailed information about your situation. You certainly have been through a lot of stress and I am sorry for that. I have a few ideas for help with your job search. I'm heading out for dinner and I'll send you some thoughts later.

For now, please be good and kind to yourself. Eat some comforting food. Try a relaxing hot shower or bath. Play some music you enjoy. Watch a film you love. Things can get better for you Sans Nom. You deserve to feel happy and well.

Peace and healing energy to you

"Hope"