[Zararose]

My car was broken into a few days ago, while it was just sitting in my driveway. My wallet with my card and identity were stolen. Now before you go ahead and victim blame me "you stupid girl why did you leave your wallet in your car". Well I'll have you know that I don't usually do this. There were a number of unfortunate incidents that lead me to leaving it in there. I also have a right to leave my items in my car and not have them stolen.

The worst part is my parents house was broken into a few days later. Just a coincidence? Or did they see my old address on my cards and decide to randomly go and break in? Most likely.

I'm blaming myself. I feel absolutely terrible I don't know what to do with myself. I am out of pocket only $100 ( to fix my window) and probably a little more to replace my cards. But they had doors broken and expensive jewellery and phones stolen. Things they can't replace.

I wish they had broken into my house instead. The guilt is killing me.

The other thing is, I told them that my car was broken into but I lied and said nothing was stolen. And then this happened. I am afraid of my parents and this goes back to my upbringing. They would have blamed me and told me off like a little niave girl.

But I've had my wallet stolen once before years ago and this never happened. I didn't even consider that something like this would then happen to my parents. It didn't even cross my mind. A house is a house? Why target one particular house out of millions?. But I guess that is what thiefs do. Would my parents have stayed home from work? But then the thiefs wpuld have just waited until they were away? Woudl anything have been different if I told them the truth? Maybe they didn't think something like this would happen? I didn't. Maybe it is just a coincidence?

I feel really horrible about myself right now. I'm blaming myself and thinking I'm the worst person in the world. I don't really know what to do from here.




My mental health has been really unstable recently. Last week I was feeling suicidal (I mean I felt an overwhelming urge to not exist, to die and disappear , but I have no intention of ever doing anything) and now my mental health is plummeting again. I'm going to try and do a workout but my head is in so much pain at the moment.




Okay so maybe lieing isn't a good thing to do. But if I told them now they'd get even angrier at ne

[WishfulThinker66]

Were these belongings out in the open?

Regardless, what an invasion of your person. I have had a car broken into and while there was absolutely nothing of value in it everything was rifled through in their search for something. I felt so very much violated. It has happened too more than once. The worse part is that on both occasions they left the door open draining the battery and damaged the molding on the door at the glass (they used a 'slim Jim' device). Whomever it was must have been desperate.

I also had someone attempt to break into my home. Thank goodness for my large growling dog who chased them over the rear fence. I have no idea why my house was targeted as at the time I was just scraping by and nothing about the property indicated any affluence which would have invited such an act. I worried for weeks and weeks and kept the dog close.

Are you able to take any measures to prevent or reduce the chance of this happening in the future? What did the police have to say?

The blame here belongs entirely with the people who broke into your car and parents home, not you. I know it's hard to see that right now, but I hope reading those words will help it sink in. You had no way of knowing your car would be broken in to and no way of foreseeing the house break in following. In fact, you dont even know the two are related.

From what you have written, you fear your parents for a reason. Do not beat yourself up for lying if it's what you felt you needed to do in the moment to protect yourself. Even if you were honest, no one would assume that a house break in would follow a car break in. It just happened.

You need to try to slow down your mind. Playing the "what if" game is self torture. I've been there. Its one more trick mental illness uses to break us down. You have to remember, just because you think it, that doesnt make it true. You are not a terrible person. You are the victim of a crime and none of it is your fault.

*hugs*

[CepheidVariable]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirlRises

The blame here belongs entirely with the people who broke into your car and parents home, not you. I know it's hard to see that right now, but I hope reading those words will help it sink in. You had no way of knowing your car would be broken in to and no way of foreseeing the house break in following. In fact, you dont even know the two are related.

From what you have written, you fear your parents for a reason. Do not beat yourself up for lying if it's what you felt you needed to do in the moment to protect yourself. Even if you were honest, no one would assume that a house break in would follow a car break in. It just happened.

You need to try to slow down your mind. Playing the "what if" game is self torture. I've been there. Its one more trick mental illness uses to break us down. You have to remember, just because you think it, that doesnt make it true. You are not a terrible person. You are the victim of a crime and none of it is your fault.

*hugs*

Excellent reply. I agree with it all and don't really have anything to add, other than anyone would be upset by what happened. Try to go easy on yourself and focus on your mental health. You and your well-being are what can truly not be replaced.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, Zararose I agree with what all the others have already wisely said better than I ever could. None of it is your fault. You could not predict that someone woul have broken into your car. And you can't know for sure whether or not that was relate to thhose thieves breaking into your house. Please don't give up. I understand why you'd feel guilty. But it's not your fault. You must be feeling very violated right now. You don't need to add more difficulties on top of that. Please try to be kind to yourself. You're a wonderful person, I'm sure of that. Things like this can happen. It's not your fault. You're definitely not alone in this. I'm so sorry you feel like your parents would scold you. It's definitely due to the bad experiences you've had with them in the past. It's your choice whether or not you want to tell them or not. Please don't give up. Try to hang on. You're strong, I know that. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this

[Medusax]

I am so sorry, Z-rose....I would be FAR from depressed if this happened to me. In fact, I would be dangerously angry. One thing in this world I HATE it is a thief. I have many ideas on how they should be dealt with.

[divine1966]

I am so sorry. I had car broken in to twice and my house was burglarized twice (different house and completely different area). It’s awful. I look at it as it could be worse: someone could be home when they broke in or your car could be stolen with you actually being in the car. Not your fault that happened. Those evil evil criminals