[turquoisesea]

I've gotten used to posting out a lot of my feelings and problems. And for once this isn't a mental health... thing but... I feel like I need to get some feelings out, and I luv all of you on these boards sooo I hope you don't mind this post.
But ya... I'm EXTREMELY nervous, scared... I feel like even at 21 I'm just a little baby entering a very large and scary world.

In the process of buying a car. It's used... the owner seems upfront, I'm getting it checked by our family mechanic... I won't have to take loans or anything...

its scary because of the responsibility - the money.... monthly /anual costs... fear of not finding a job... hope that having a car with increase that chance... but it's a lot of pressure suddenly applied in just 2 days.
Having a car overall would be a great thing - freedom, MUCH better chance of finding a job. Just again, I hit moments of TOTAL FEAR... deer in headlights. Can't get my mind off it... constantly nervous, scared, tense, afraid of something going wrong, unseen costs, just anything.


So, asking for hugs, reassurance, advice, anything really.
*hugs to all*

And for those feeling down, LOADS of hugs, and remember to feel free to PM if you ever need to talk

[3velniai]

(((turquoisesea)))
have you tried to concentrate on the freedom you will get after you buy that car or the increased chances to get a job (one that you would like a lot), distract yourself with thoughts about where you would like to go and similar stuff. And the extra costs... Oh well, you'll have a good job and you'll solve this thing if it ever happens easily, because your new boss will pay you a lot. Right?
Do you like to drive?

Hello this is Starlite

I wanted to express my feeling on life out there.

It is scarey, but that's really all part of everything - even getting better in our inner situations.

Voicing you fears is a very good thing. From here you will always find strenth.

All through our lifes we come upon scarey things. World always chaning, new therapist, new neighbors, jobs, different stages of baby growing up.

Believe me I'm 48 and it is still not an easy thing to go out into the world each day - never knowing what to expect.

And even thought it might have been a little un-easy that day ....
I'd come home and realized 'hey I made it - wasn't fun, but did it'

[googley]

((((((((turquoisesea)))))))
I just bought my first used car yesterday. I know what it is like. It feels so overwhelming. Just remember that it will be over eventually and look forward to that point. There is only so many steps to buying a car. I wrote mine out so I could check them off when I was done with each step. I found this really helpful. Good luck.

[Miracle1986]

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[depressedalaskan]

((((turquoisesea)))) I think that you are doing everything right. Having the family mechanic look at the car is the best thing to do before buying it. The rest will come as you go along. Just remember to trust your mechanic if he tells you not to buy the car, don't. Good luck..

[turquoisesea]

thanks so much everyone =D

unfortunately my Dad was the one who talked to the mechanic and didn't get certain ... well important infomation such as adivce on price... It did show up some issues that aren't too major but ad some small cost to the car so I'm figuring it out with the current owner... we shall see.


Thanks everyone for the advice. 3velnai - yes, I need to hold onto that.
and the more I've been going through the situation, the better I feel ... it' just... I want the stress over =P
thank you everyone =)

[justfloating]

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Good luck with your new car. A vehicle is a great thing to have!

[Fuzzybear]

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[Tumnus]

Turquoisesea, you're way ahead of where I was when I bought my first car (when I was 19). I had no family mechanic to take it to and only trusted the seller because it was a professor from my university. I needed it--like you--to get a job, and the freedom was amazing! One thing that helps me deal with car fears/frustrations is looking back on all the times I had to bum rides from other people and being happy about giving rides to others now instead. The ability to help others never grows old.

[JayS]

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