[coachllama]

Lately I've been very sad (if you have any inquiries as to why, you can feel free to look at my other threads) and I thought as time passes by I would be getting better.

I have been doing everything people, books, websites, youtube videos, my parents, my therapist, and my common sense have been telling me to, but still I get worse and worse as each day passes.

I feel like at this rate I'm just going to fall deeper and deeper into depression.

Does anyone have any advice for me as to how I can avoid me getting sadder?

[idontknow13]

Sorry, I have no words or advice as sadness just overwhelms me also but I can offer you hugs

[3velniai]

how about doing something what you really enjoy instead of what common sense tells you, something that would make you smile just a little. From what you write it looks to me like you're doing things you think you should do, and not what you'd really like to. Maybe I'm wrong, idk, it just looks like it.

[bluebird2]

Are your medications where they should be? Are you doing what you enjoy doing? How can you bring a spark back into your life? What about nutrition - are you eating the right foods? (Some research points to low levels of certain nutrients as depression causes). Or excersing?

It's hard. Your condition is beatable!

[Rohag]

Hi, Coachllama!

I took a little time to read and scan some of your earlier posts and people's replies. As I don't want to contribute to advice overload, here are a few general observations that may or may not pertain to your immediate situation:

• A first break-up from a first real relationship is often exceptionally traumatic. Some people can get over the trauma faster than others.
• Dealing with multiple life changes simultaneously can be overwhelming.
• Few people can healthfully manage multiple simultaneous life challenges without outside help. Even with help, too many simultaneous challenges can be crushing.
• It's easier to overcome a destructive habit in its early stages than in its intermediate or advanced stages.
• 3velniai makes an excellent point. I've told my son to "want your own wants." In a world where you are constantly bombarded by parents, friends, agencies, and businesses telling you what you should want or buy or be, it really is a struggle to discern your own, deep, pristine desires - the things you desire for their own sake, things that touch something inside you and not because they impress or please someone else.
• Distraction is a decent way to manage mild to moderate angst. Activities providing immediate rewards - making music, playing games or sports, etc. - frequently work well as distractions.
• Even the best advice or treatment or self-care can take time to work, and sometimes doesn't work at all.

I wish you well, I wish you success...no, I wish you your own success and your own happiness!

[marjan]

It's really good that you are seeking help and you are aware of your situation....most of the time, people ignore and deny their problems....

You are so young to go through depression...I am suspicious that you may have hormonal changes in your body....I'm not a doctor, but our brain and body has been govern by all these Chemicals in our body....

However, the good news is that you can help yourself and get out of the depression and sadness....

here is some recommendation which helps me day to day and I wish I knew this secret ingredients when I was at your age....

1. have faith...any kind....faith will warm of your heart and make you stronger...
2. meditate and pray....try to learn meditation, you can either read about it or take a class....You can start with just 5 minutes meditation....
3. Keep in your mind that past and future don't really exist, stay in present moment....we usually think about what has gone wrong in past and we are worry about the future....and funny thing is that, past has gone and we can't do anything about it...also, future hasn't been happened yet and we don't know if even it will happen!!!!
4. exercise....be as active as possible, then you can get connected with positive energetic people
5. see if you like dancing, you can go to dance classes....but you should be strong and persistent....
6. read aspiring books and quotes....somebody at this site recommended me this website http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/ it's awesome...read it...
7. each time you feel you want to drink beer, then replace it with fruit or exercise....then you feel proud of yourself for overcoming something that cause you addiction
8. take one day at a time....slowly...
9. think about funny stuff that has happened in your life and laugh about them again and again...even think about the misfortunes and laugh...they are like a movies!
10. don't give up....you got to try everything to find the one that is good for you....

we always try to find happiness outside of ourselves...but happiness is within us....I personally found out if I'm not happy and comfortable with myself, if even I am in a relationship or between thousands of people, still I feel so lonely....

take care of yourself and tell us when you feel better
we are here for you
with love
Marjan

[coachllama]

Thank you so much for this advice

and a special thanks to rohag and marjan for such nice advice, I really liked how it was in the form of a list. I feel like maybe I can tackle each one of the things you mentioned one at a time and hopefully it will make me feel better.

And 3velniai you make a really good point about doing what I want to do, I guess that makes sense because I've been trying to approach this scientifically but maybe I should just do what I want

Bluebird: thanks for the advice on bringing a spark back into my life, I definitely need to do that.

I don't know: It's okay that you don't have any advice, but a hug is just as good

[marjan]

good that we can help each other here....well most of us have gone through bad days of depression and it's good to share the experience together and find a way to control it.
I personally don't agree with any kind of medications or drugs....
I have never achieved anything by taking medication, even didn't fix my sleeping issue!!!!
I found out over years that it's me, my own thought that are monster...and if I find a way to control them, then I will be relaxed and comfortable....
Also, I found out, I have to stay away from stressful situation and people...then I'm more relaxed!

take care of yourself and don't ever give up on yourself...You are so young and you can find out how to control your emotions....remember that "your emotions are YOURS not YOU!"

[*freak*]

I hope you feel better soon