[lindee]

I'm sorry that I'm not much good for anyone here. I do a lot of lurking. I am not good with words. They never come out the way that I want them to. I am so afraid of saying the wrong thing and ending up bringing someone down.

Today I have read some wonderful posts. I don't understand how you all can say just the right things to help someone feel better. I can't.

I have been brought to tears today on PC. Both good tears and bad. I wish that I had important words for you all. Sometimes just to let someone know that I feel for them and want their hurt to go away but I don't know the right words I will send hugs. They are sincere if I go to the trouble of sending them. But now I read that maybe my hugs are only hurting people. That is so far away from my intentions. I am SO sorry if I have hurt someone with my hugs.

Anyway, I am just rambling again. Sorry.

I am sitting here crying as I type. I finally talked my pdoc into letting me try without antidepressants. I have been off for about a month. But for the last week or two I am realizing that it may not be a good idea. I so want to be drug free. But...

Well, anyway again. I come to PC to be among people who are suffering like me. I need to know that I am not unique in my pain. I need to know that I am not alone. I don't come often simply because it is hard for me to get off the couch. Let alone pour my heart out. But now I find out that what I do do is hurting someone, my hugs. I'm sorry.

Enough, my emotions are coming too easily these days.

[Berries]

Originally Posted by lindee

I'm sorry that I'm not much good for anyone here. I do a lot of lurking. I am not good with words. They never come out the way that I want them to. I am so afraid of saying the wrong thing and ending up bringing someone down.

I have never been brought down by you!

Originally Posted by lindee

Sometimes just to let someone know that I feel for them and want their hurt to go away but I don't know the right words I will send hugs. They are sincere if I go to the trouble of sending them. But now I read that maybe my hugs are only hurting people. That is so far away from my intentions. I am SO sorry if I have hurt someone with my hugs.

You have NEVER hurt me with your hugs. EVER.

Originally Posted by lindee

I am sitting here crying as I type.

I'm sorry you are crying.

Originally Posted by lindee

I need to know that I am not unique in my pain. I need to know that I am not alone.

You are not alone!!! We are going through the same things.

[depressedalaskan]

Originally Posted by lindee

I'm sorry that I'm not much good for anyone here. I do a lot of lurking. I am not good with words. They never come out the way that I want them to. I am so afraid of saying the wrong thing and ending up bringing someone down.

Today I have read some wonderful posts. I don't understand how you all can say just the right things to help someone feel better. I can't.

I have been brought to tears today on PC. Both good tears and bad. I wish that I had important words for you all. Sometimes just to let someone know that I feel for them and want their hurt to go away but I don't know the right words I will send hugs. They are sincere if I go to the trouble of sending them. But now I read that maybe my hugs are only hurting people. That is so far away from my intentions. I am SO sorry if I have hurt someone with my hugs.

Anyway, I am just rambling again. Sorry.

I am sitting here crying as I type. I finally talked my pdoc into letting me try without antidepressants. I have been off for about a month. But for the last week or two I am realizing that it may not be a good idea. I so want to be drug free. But...

Well, anyway again. I come to PC to be among people who are suffering like me. I need to know that I am not unique in my pain. I need to know that I am not alone. I don't come often simply because it is hard for me to get off the couch. Let alone pour my heart out. But now I find out that what I do do is hurting someone, my hugs. I'm sorry.

Enough, my emotions are coming too easily these days.

(((((lindee)))) Hope you get to feeling better soon. I don't know which thread you were reading but I have in the past see just hugs. This to me is a good thing. I myself know how hard it is to respond to some posts. Not sure why but I feel I have nothing to offer but understanding some of the time. So I send hugs to let the poster know that I did read and do care.

You should never be afraid to post here. Everyone is different in their own way and we all believe differently. One answer may help someone or it may not. We will never know that but our ideas can be taken into consideration. That is all we can do to try and help. It is like religion, we do not all believe the same way and if we did, how boring would that be?

Thanks for your thoughts. Hugs for your day.

[Fuzzybear]

lindee you've never hurt me, I'm so sorry you're in pain.
I agree with Berries and alaskan
please take care

ps I often feel the same as you do, posting "only" hugs. Thank you for sharing part of you with us today.

[Naturefreak]

lindee you are a part of this family at PC .
Hugs , words , they are all intended to show our support.
That we care about each other.
Everyone is different , when it comes to posting .
Just because someone has a full page of words doesn't mean they care anymore than someone with a simple hug. That is their way
of showing support . There are many times I just give out hugs
because I don't feel I have the words that will make a difference.
And when I do have the words , my intentions are good , but
not always that helpful. All we can do is TRY.
Nobody's perfect , and none of us are the same.
Hugs

[*freak*]

Lindee, I'm not good with words either. Sometimes I feel like you're feeling right now and I wish I could write beautiful posts like others do. I often don't know what to say. You know what works best? Writing what you feel. Nothing less, nothing more. If it's only "I'm sorry you're feeling so down, but you're not alone and I care" it's okay.

I don't know what happened and I don't know how could hugs hurt somebody... But a lot of people here (including myself) post just hugs to show that they care... I don't see anything wrong with that. A reply with only hugs in it would make me feel better. So, please, feel free to post. It's okay sending just hugs, I'm sure I'm not the only one who appreciates them

Take good care of yourself

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((lindee))))

First thank you for posting. For reaching out and taking the chance to trust us and open up even a little. I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Sometimes it is all I can do to come here and read and sometimes I cannot do anything but say a prayer for them. Even a hug is hard sometimes.

Your hugs are not hurting anyone and sometimes a hug is more than anyone needs. To know that someone is there and cared enough to read and reach out the best you could. Sometimes, just because you care enough to hug is something to someone who is hurting.

So many times I read and reread, and I need time to think of what to post or say. Your words and hugs are never judged. Sometimes all you can do is all you can do, and that is okay.

I know the feeling of sometimes not even being able to get up off the coach, not even having the strength to push the on button on my computor. But everytime I do and I come here and post----the words, no matter how small you think they may be--mean more than you could know. And I understand or I am there----lets me know I am not alone, even in all the aloneness I feel.

Knowing that it is not in the words but in what is said. I am no writer but I can understand where someone is at times. Sometimes closer than they even know. Sometimes, just meeting them right there.

lindee, I am so glad you posted. You are not alone in how you feel. Know that you are important and your words how ever small you may think they are and your hugs speak volumns. Thank you for caring enough to let us know how you were feeling.

I send you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. I know that right now I am not in a good place either, but sometimes just reading others words----lets me know I am not alone. We care about you and are so glad you are a part of pc. Know you are loved and understood.

dps

[lindee]

Thank you so much you guys. You made me feel so much better. Now I'm crying again I'm all drippy.
Thanks for all the HUGS!

lindee

[*freak*]

You're welcome I'm glad you're feeling better

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((lindee))))

Anytime my friend. You are worth every tear and every word.

dps

[depressedalaskan]

((((lindee)))) Something that I do is: I write my posts and threads in yahoo mail compose. Then I can reread what I have typed and hit spell check. When I get what I wanted to say in type I cut or copy and past it to my post or thread. Some times my mind does not work good enough to just type out an answer or post. Hugs for your day.

[Rohag]

((((((( lindee! )))))))

[Michah]

Lindee,

Why are you so hard on yourself?........for you are on the path.......as with all of us.....

Some times are bad, some times are not so bad........some times are good

All is in flux.........all things evolve.......and we are doing it with you......

You are not alone.......your hugs do not hurt........you are precious.......and you need to tell yourself so.......even if you don't feel it.......

For it is more that what we tell ourselves.......than what others tell us.......

Take really good care of you, babe.......for when you feel like contributing......there is a soft pillow here to lay your head.......a hot cup of tea to warm your hands........and a kind word for the soul.....

By feeling.......you are participating.......in the most amazing and fundamental way

Big Hugs,

Michah

[Amazonmom]

I always LOVE hugs. I assume that hugs are sent to comfort someone.

I am no good at writing big profound posts like lots of people here, I am afraid of typing something dumb.

[wotsup45]

others like me

[gimmeice]

((((((((((( Lindee )))))))))))))))))

I often just leave hugs for the same reasons that you have posted, the words don't come easy for me either.

[ADHD1956]

Lindee