Self - Destuction?

Lost71 · Sep 02, 2009, 07:01 PM

No idea if right forum but when I feel down if I don't hurt myself, I'll trash my house or hurt friends! When will I grow up and how?

Rohag · Sep 02, 2009, 07:55 PM

Hi, Julia! I see you've already been to the SI forum, but, if I understand correctly, that forum is full of dangerous triggers for you. I have confidence in the moderators here; just start talking and they'll move the thread if it becomes necessary. Your friends here will follow.

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Originally Posted by Lost71

when I feel down if I don't hurt myself, I'll trash my house or hurt friends

As a person of intropunitive tendencies, I have some discomfort in approaching this topic. Sure, all these are dysfunctional ways of dealing with powerful pent-up emotions. Ideally, it would be better to identify and resolve the underlying pressures so the volcano doesn't erupt in the first place. Ideally.

Less ideally, but perhaps more realistically, do you have something you could break over and over again, something designed to be broken and easily reassembled? What about an absorbing adventure game with lots of crashing and fighting monsters? I don't know; I'm grasping at straws. The idea is finding ways (plural) to release those emotions harmlessly.

I've got my thinking cap on for you, and if you want to send me a stinging PM, I'll receive it with a smile, knowing you didn't do something else.

Naturefreak · Sep 02, 2009, 08:17 PM

Julia

Lost71 · Sep 02, 2009, 08:20 PM

((((((((((Rohag)))))))))))

First of all, Thank You for respondin!. I'm using distraction tactics tonight. Something I have always taught kids I work with! But as regards something that can be broken again and again...I'm it, friend!

But ((((Rohag)))) I am trying to be non-self harming, hence breaking my house instead of me. Great idea about a game though!

I LOVE that idea!

I understand my underlying issues, i just have to swallow the advice I give kids and do as I say to them!

Again, thank you for responding and understanding. And yes, maybe I should exercise self-care and stay out of trigger forums?

Many Thanks and much Peace to you, ((((Rohag))))

p.s. Thanks for offer of pm but you are too sweet to hurt like that, friend!

Lost71 · Sep 02, 2009, 08:22 PM

((((((((((((Babysteps))))))))))))

You have no idea how much your care means, dear friend!

Seabirdanne · Sep 02, 2009, 08:23 PM

Lost71

ADHD1956 · Sep 02, 2009, 08:44 PM

Julia

Lost71 · Sep 02, 2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Seabirdanne

Lost71

((((((((((Seabirdanne)))))))))) thank you

Lost71 · Sep 02, 2009, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ADHD1956

Julia

((((((((((ADHD))))))))))

You're such a special friend and I wonder if you even know it, dear one?

depressedalaskan · Sep 02, 2009, 11:30 PM

((((Lost71)))) I don't really get angry any more but in the past I have. This is what I did. I had a splitting maul and a log in the back yard. When I got angry I took my anger out on the log. Now mind you I was cutting firewood for a living so these things were already at hand. But you could get a nurf bat or something to take your anger out on a pole or something. I don't know but better than trashing the house.

Hugs for your day.

Sabrina · Sep 03, 2009, 03:14 AM

(((Lost71))) I am sorry you are struggling

Berries · Sep 03, 2009, 09:05 AM

((((((((Lost)))))))))

When I get MAD, I visualize socking, stomping, obliterating someone evil!!!!! At the same time, I am on my bike or on a step master. I ususally feel better afterwards.

Lost71 · Sep 03, 2009, 09:21 AM

Thanks for that idea ((((alaskan)))) ...considering I have a big walled garden, I should have thought of that myself.

Hugs for you, friend

Lost71 · Sep 03, 2009, 09:23 AM

((((((((Sabrina))))))))

The struggle isn't so bad with friends like you all!

Lost71 · Sep 03, 2009, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Berries

((((((((Lost)))))))))

When I get MAD, I visualize socking, stomping, obliterating someone evil!!!!! At the same time, I am on my bike or on a step master. I ususally feel better afterwards.

((((((((Berries)))))))) ...a punchbag sounds a good idea for that one

hugs for you ...

depressedalaskan · Sep 03, 2009, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Lost71

((((((((Berries)))))))) ...a punchbag sounds a good idea for that one

hugs for you ...

Punching bag - good idea..

Hugs for your day.

Tumnus · Sep 03, 2009, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by depressedalaskan

Punching bag - good idea..

Hugs for your day.

I had a punching bag growing up. Good heavy one. They're perfect for when you feel like hurting someone or yourself. Can mildly hurt your hands with no lasting effects and feel like you're beating up your problem at the same time. Also, can be aerobic exercise. Nice combo! It may have helped me deal with raging hormones at the time, too.

Lost71 · Sep 03, 2009, 10:05 PM

I doubt a punching bag would help right at this moment but thanks for sharing, Tumnus. Hugs for you.

lynn09 · Sep 04, 2009, 09:43 PM

Sorry I'm so late finding this thread (((((Julia))))). I'm not sure I have any suggestions for you, but when I'm angry, I clean - clean out closets, drawers, and clean everything. Gets rid of the pent up anger, and I end up with a clean house for a plus! Hope you feel better soon.

Berries · Sep 05, 2009, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Lost71

No idea if right forum but when I feel down if I don't hurt myself, I'll trash my house or hurt friends! When will I grow up and how?

Are you feeling any better? Have you found any constructive ways of venting?

What about art? Do you paint, draw, sculpt?

Lost71 · Sep 05, 2009, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by lynn09

Sorry I'm so late finding this thread (((((Julia))))). I'm not sure I have any suggestions for you, but when I'm angry, I clean - clean out closets, drawers, and clean everything. Gets rid of the pent up anger, and I end up with a clean house for a plus! Hope you feel better soon.

((((((lynn)))))) ...Thanks for replying...and thanks for always being here!

Gotta say though, if you get angry as much as I do ...you're house must be spotless lol.

Much Love and Hugs to you, friend,
xox

Lost71 · Sep 05, 2009, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Sabrina

(((Lost71))) I am sorry you are struggling

((((Sabrina)))) ...sorry can't remember if I replied to this post or not but thanks, hun!

Peace and Hugs to you,
Julia
xox

Lost71 · Sep 05, 2009, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Berries

Are you feeling any better? Have you found any constructive ways of venting?

What about art? Do you paint, draw, sculpt?

Berries, I am feeling a little better today. Just been so up and down lately but I'll get there.

So far, until I can buy a punchbag (not joking lol) I just go into the garden and kick something about.

I did used to paint and stuff. Haven't in a long time. I did get a guitar a few days ago, in the process of fixing it up with new strings etc just now. I know that will help coz I'll need to work hard to re-learn it again.

Peace and Hugs to you, Berries! xox

Berries · Sep 05, 2009, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Lost71

I did get a guitar a few days ago, in the process of fixing it up with new strings etc just now. I know that will help coz I'll need to work hard to re-learn it again.

That is fantastic. I hope your new guitar gives you hours of pleasure. I wish I could be there to hear you play.

depressedalaskan · Sep 05, 2009, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Lost71

Berries, I am feeling a little better today. Just been so up and down lately but I'll get there.

So far, until I can buy a punchbag (not joking lol) I just go into the garden and kick something about.

I did used to paint and stuff. Haven't in a long time. I did get a guitar a few days ago, in the process of fixing it up with new strings etc just now. I know that will help coz I'll need to work hard to re-learn it again.

Peace and Hugs to you, Berries! xox

Bring the guitar to the party. You can play for us.

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