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Nov 30, 2009, 09:44 PM
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I lost my last friend (other than my bf), who I've known now to 4 years to someone who's "more emotional", and more fun.
We were offered the 2 bedroom we wanted but now we can't take it because the friend isn't ok rooming with just us. I have no more friends. I don't want to see her again because it would be too painful. I want to leave this city
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Nov 30, 2009, 10:05 PM
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Oh, turquoisesea, I'm so sorry!!!
 That was a terrible, insensitive thing for her to say. I hope that you don't let it get to you and remember that her not wanting to room with you is NOT your fault. In fact, if she is going to forgo on an apartment with friends for a reason like that, you may be better off not living together. Does your boyfriend know anyone who might be looking for some room mates? Sending you lots and lots of hugs. 
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Nov 30, 2009, 10:22 PM
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Well that wasnt' the reason, her reason is a mix of not wanting to let the other friend down and fear of not getting out of her lease.
not sure about another roomie, the whole point of looking for a 2 bedroom was to room with her I just wasnt admitting to myself that she saw me that way, "just facts".... thanks Rebecca
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Nov 30, 2009, 10:48 PM
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(((Turquoise))) So sorry this has happened to you 
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Nov 30, 2009, 11:29 PM
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(((((babysteps)))))
(((((Rebecca))))) Thank you so much for your kind words and understanding. I'm calmer now, when I create a post on PC it's often when I'm feeling overwhelmed, so my post is not always clear. Something I need to learn is how to understand what I'm feeling and how to deal with it better. In this situation I do not know how to react. I have felt abandoned by many people in the past two years. I wonder if this is a reality, my perception of events, a mix of both, or something else altogether. I know for sure that one was definitely abandonment. Others are not as sure. What I don't know right now is how to react. My initial FEELING was to not meet up with her again, and not to bring it up ever. I am thinking this is probably too harsh, and I at LEAST owe her an explanation of why. I am not sure being friends with her is healthy for me? Or is it? I'm confused right now and now sure how to handle myself. thanks for letting me post, I am in a spot where if emotions come up I am unsure how to deal with them and need somewhere to talk things out and get advice 
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Dec 01, 2009, 08:54 AM
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My regrets, Turquoisesea.
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Dec 01, 2009, 11:14 AM
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I could try to give it more time.
Personally I'm really hurt and feeling really depressed from all this. I guess the one thing I'd have to choose quickly would be about this weekend and her birthday. She has wanted to bake Christmas cookies over the weekend, and her birthday is on Monday. For both events the other friend will be there, and even alone I dont know how I can deal with seeing her now. As for right this second I don't want to do anything, not practice, not even eat *yes I know, I'll eat*, just nothing. So I'm not sure what to do next
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Dec 01, 2009, 11:39 AM
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((((((((((turquoisesea)))))))))))
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Dec 01, 2009, 12:45 PM
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((((((((((((((( turquoisesea ))))))))))))))))
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Dec 02, 2009, 07:14 PM
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I lost my best friend a similar way very recently. I thought she was someone that could understand me because she seemed to be in a similar situation as I was-but she turned out to be a totally different person than I originally thought.
It's very hard to lose a friend like that. I keep questioning myself about what I did wrong. Towards the end she was constantly telling me things to put me down (I was a lier, I was "childish", a b****, etc)...and I'm really trying to overcome that and tell myself that it's not true. |
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Dec 02, 2009, 07:34 PM
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