[so_punk_rock]

Ive been righting quite alot lol. Recently i realized how detrimental my thoughts are to my mental health. I love this certain celebrity. Hes like one of my idols but i just realized that i need to let go of him...so to speak. I need to let go of the thoughts of him. They comfort me temporarily and depress me eventually. He will always be one of my idols but i have to realize that i have my own life i need to live. Has anyone ever had someone who invaded your thoughts like that?

Hi there!

I can totally relate, having OCD (which for me, includes tons of intrusive thoughts), I have experienced many unwanted thoughts/obsessions about celebrity figures. It can be quite debilitating if the thoughts occupy the mind to a point where real life isn't being lived. Personally, I often go into my own thoughts to escape the negative aspects of the real world...not sure if that's one of the reasons you do it.

For you, are the thoughts created, intrusive, or both? (For me, it's both). If they're created, then it will be easier for you to stop the thoughts than if they were intrusive.

I still struggle with obsessions in general, and something that helps me is trying to do things in real life that give me pleasure, and usually I'll feel as if my time spent in real life was much more fun than time spent in my own mind. Do you have any hobbies that you enjoy? Exercise? Art? Sports? Anything works.

But also know that any obsession is hard to quit. So if you end up obsessing about this celebrity figure and feel guilty about it, try to forgive yourself and move on. It's ok to be a little obsessive about a celebrity, but your life is more important than theirs.

[Lisa Michelle]

I've obsessed with celebrities before but I think it's been a healthy amount. It's quite a 'female' thing to do, I think, perhaps more common with teenagers. I don't think there's any harm in it unless it gets in the way of you living your life.
I think it can ruin relationships, in a way, I mean, I have never found anyone I liked in real life as much as I've liked certain celebs, lol. People have a lot to live up to because I've had some mega crushes!

I wish you luck anyway in 'getting over' your obsession a little bit. But remember admiring and having respect for somebody is ok, too, you don't have to cut them out of your life completely, I think it's positive to have an idol, someone to look up to.

x

[Junerain]

yes I had a 'psychic' connection with david letterman...he even seemed to read my very thoughts on his nightly show...became consumed with him...went to see his show even..

real life began to step in and take over,,,I found a job I loved, friends I loved...THIS HELPED..

It sounds like this obssession is only leading towards the ultimate end of depression

my advice is GET THE CELEBRITY out of your head & get involved with life!! Who knows where I would have been today if Dave still occupied so much of my precious mind....

[so_punk_rock]

thank you all for your advice..it is very much appreciated. its hard to figure out what helps if you think your the only one going through it. i also think if i go out and live my life then i wont even care to think about him anymore. my thoughts are both of my own doing, and intrusive. i think if i actually went out and lived my own life like a normal person i probably wouldnt think about him so much.

[Junerain]

In what way aren't you living your life- staying in, etc?

Dont try to define what is 'normal' or not.....there is no such thing, we all struggle in some way....some more than others...that is all


I am not normal & proud!

[so_punk_rock]

im kind of hard on myself by nature lol. i think that i had this whole fantasy realm since i was a kid i just never realized it. i remember daydreaming alot as a young kid. i probably used that as an outlet...i just never understood it. i dont really have that much of a social life and my imagination has always been wild. this has been something like a crutch and i havent even realized it. how do you live a social life when you have next to no friends?

[thine_self_untrue]

I obsess over persons/things all the time. Always have.

[Junerain]

Yes, I was such a daydreamer, so caught up in my own mind/world/emotions for so long..

Believe me, I regret all that wasted time......I wish i could have those years back..


I suggest joining a support group, or a church, or a book club, or even singing karaoke at a bar, taking a class...SOMETHING to get you more friends, so_punk_rock..even a significant other one day

What are your interests? How are your current friendships going?

Any favorite things to do that bring you into reality, catch you in the moment??

[Lisa Michelle]

so punk rock, I can relate to you using fantasy as an escape. I did it as a child also. I would have characters in my head. Whenever I had free time I was being SOMEONE ELSE. I was never me in my head.
SOmetimes now when I get particularly stressy I do the same thing. I have this character and I imagine THEIR life and act out scenes in my head, instead of thinking about me and being me. It's only in my head now but when I was little it was all about roleplaying, so I would talk and BE that person and actually act out the scene. But now I just think it.
Not sure if this makes sense.

And I also have no real friends so I don't know how to start going out and 'having a life'. Maybe there is a group you could join, a support group or something for a hobby or a class?

[Evening]

I know exactly what you are saying, my obsessions and fantasising are something I have done since I was little, and I'm so used to it now that it is more real for me than reality. It actually has an affect on my life because I'd rather stay at home and live in this delusion more than anything else. I've been late for appointments and missed getting to the shops before they close because I am daydreaming too much.
I have become obsessed with certain people over the years, it used to be cartoons and things when I was a kid but now it's real people. I won't say who they are or anything, but I couldn't imagine NOT fantasising. I fantasise almost every moment I'm awake. I have created this whole world in my head. It's like the insane thing that keeps me sane. In fact I've never even told anyone about it until now. How I've managed to keep it such a secret. I would never see anyone about it, it would make me feel even more nuts. That and I don't know what I'd do if I had to stop.

[Evening]

double post

[Junerain]

(((((((((((hugs for everyone in this thread)))))

(((((may we find what we need in day to day reality))))))))))))))

((((((((((((may our very dreams come true))))))))

[carrie-19]

So punk rock I know the feeling. I went though a phase of obsessing over a singer from a band(so cliché yes I know -_-) . He was jus everything I ever wanted to be. He too suffered from depression so I always thought hey if he can get through it so can I. But it's hard sometimes because you have to realize that you cannot live the same life and altthough you can look up to them youcant be them.
I'm not obessed with this person anymore but sometimes when I feel really down I go back and listen to the music and just kind of indulge in him lol it's comforting (:

[so_punk_rock]

wow i didnt really how many other people were affected by things like this....i will take your advice and try to look for groups or anything to become more social. i pretty much think about a lead singer also.....i kinda indulged myself last night and i feel like some type of addict. lol. i know im not gonna stop fantasising overnight........i just dont want to lose grip of reality

Good luck, so_punk_rock. With the interloper gone you can fantasize about getting your GED.

Be well.

[Junerain]

Take it slow, so_punk_rock.....

one small step at a time....

one group..

one new interest..

one less hour fantasizing

one more hour doing something productive

even being a part of this website and being one the helper-alongers

[Evening]

Originally Posted by so_punk_rock

wow i didnt really how many other people were affected by things like this....i will take your advice and try to look for groups or anything to become more social. i pretty much think about a lead singer also.....i kinda indulged myself last night and i feel like some type of addict. lol. i know im not gonna stop fantasising overnight........i just dont want to lose grip of reality

I am surprised also, I never told anyone because I thought people would think I was a nut job. Well, they probably think that anyway but at least I know I'm not the only one who does it.

[Junerain]

We are not what others think of ourselves...we are OUR OWN opinion of ourselves..

We all struggle in some way.....nobody here seems like a 'nut job' to me, we are all beautiful in our own way

[so_punk_rock]

I feel like i have to deal with this everyday but it gets better with time. I wrote a poem a while ago and i kept thinking about it today. It relates to this crazy imagination of mine....


Dreamland:

Dreamland, dreamland, beautiful as can be,
i know the dreamland is coming to torture me,
take me, give me, everything i desire,
my friend, the dreamland, will through me into the fire,
wanted, granted, drown me in your pool,
i dont believe in nothing real but i believe in you.

if fictional characters count, I've obsessed over them since I was a kid. I think it's like escapism...

[so_punk_rock]

that is exactly what it is

[so_punk_rock]

I feel like i have to deal with this everyday but it gets better with time. I wrote a poem a while ago and i kept thinking about it today. It relates to this crazy imagination of mine....


Dreamland:

Dreamland, dreamland, beautiful as can be,
i know the dreamland is coming to torture me,
take me, give me, everything i desire,
my friend, the dreamland, will through me into the fire,
wanted, granted, drown me in your pool,
i dont believe in nothing real but i believe in you.

[siempre nada]

Right now I'm obsessed with someone at my school. Now that I think about it, its bizzarre how she's invading my thoughts so much yet I barely talk to her or see her at school. She in herself is a nice person nothing special in particular, yet I use her dissapproval of my..strangeness as a gauge to my own worth. I guess I feel like the more she approves of me the more I should approve of myself. In the end I never end up happy. If someone ever does fully like me (almost never happens) I run away from them, get even more severely depressed, find a new person who hates me, and start the process all over again. Its quite sad really..

[sugahorse1]

I tend to obsses over people - I make them the cornerstone of my life. IF they are not there for me, I feel terrible and panic.