What IS Wrong With Me???

What is wrong with me? Why am I so undesirable, that all I attract is rejection? Other guys can say and do anything and still keep a woman, even evil things....I have to watch EVERYTHING I say and do or it will be misjudged or misunderstood and never forgiven!!!!!!! All I want is to be loved and give love and feel the intimacy of woman, but all I get is my hopes raised and then gutted with one misstep. I am just a human being with the same longings and desires as every other man...and I believe I am a good person...SO WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME????

HORSECAB!! DO YOU WANNA TALK??Did somethhing bad happen?

Just feel like giving up when a woman can put up with a guy she claims has raped her, and forced his way into her apartment, and is verbally abusive with her...and she can't forgive me for wanting to have fun with a web cam....

Thanks for your concern feeling sad...

Horsecab, Im really sorry. Of course i care, I really hate seeing people struggle and upset, I dont know why people forgive and cant forgive certain things , wish i had a magic ball to help me understand , but your a good person and you obv care for her a great deal, so i hope everything works out for you, because you do deserve to be loved and love in return and i pray you get that, im on alot so if you ever want a friend to talk to, im here

Thanks Feeling Sad...I really appreciate it..

Sounds like that particular woman has the bigger problem, not you!

I'm with Perna on this one- the woman sounds a little messed up--

doesn't sound like it's you at all--((HUGS)) theo

You have to believe that you are the same as everyone else.....Don't feel so alienated.....because everyone has the same hopes and fears as you....even the ones we hope to befriend or love...we just have to drop the fear of anxiety and rejection...because we ALL have it....you are not alone....believe me....Reach out and you will see that you have the same needs and hopes as everyone else......Good Luck....Y

But she is a good person...and I care deeply for her and would never do anything to hurt her and I thought she knew that...

Okay, I am a woman--let me tell ya sumpin a bout some women--they play games wit ya head-----sounds like you have met alot of this type of woman--you may even seek them out- I know I used to seek that type of nasty man out--the type who'd beat me up and emotionally destroy me- to all others, he'd seem great, intelligent, funny, etc. but with me- he was a monster-i used to purposely get the wrong guy-i didn't think i was worth better--so now i don't look anymore--last one ended in a horrific divorce
a mess-two grown kids who hate me-a mess of my whole life-
Now, to me, it sounds as if you are looking for the wrong kinda woman-women who've been abused? Dontcha think they may want to take that out on you?
I don't know--Are you having a problem with your self worth? Try to look at all your relationships objectively--what were all the women you went with like? What was their history? JMO--You are worth a good woman--Theo

I think she will realize that , give it some time, she will come around , you will see.

(((((((((((Horsey))))))))))))))

You are a good person, and you deserve the best my dear friend, I"m a little short on words at the moment, but wanted you to know I"m here and supporting you

Lots of love
Typo

Been thinking about this, pondering--you know what i came up with? Men love women who are mean to them and treat them badly, and women like men who are mean to them and treat them badly...did you ever notice that?

The pursuit of the unattainable--an old game- but still a practice in the boy / girl game--we all want what we can't have.

So make yourself unattainable? Play hard to get- stop being so nice?

ya neva know-lol hugs- theo

I am sorry you are going through this. It's not like you were going to do anything sexual to her with the webcam or anything. Hang in there' you will find her.

Thanks everyone, I'm feeling a bit better now...

<hugs>

I'm sorry I don't have any advice... Just wanted to let you know I'm here for you. I know you can find the strength to recover from this and move on... Time will help, but I agree, you deserve a woman who cares about you and loves you and won't lash out at you. I hope that you will be able to realize that, because once you realize you deserve better you will get it.

Keep your chin up; we're all here supporting you.

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Ro

Great reply!! i totally agree!