Never done this before

So I have said for years that I am ok...but I know now that I am not. But I am not suicidal, manic, or anything, I am just really sad. My oldest is 8 and my youngest is 6, so I cannot really say its post baby. But I am not ok, I drink alot and if I don't drink I take sleeping pills so that I can go to bed and be ok in the morning to take everyone to school and be the good mom. I shouldn't be depressed, good kids, ok financially, my husband is an *** but I knew that before. I just am not ok...but I don't have really severe issues that I alway thought would be considered "depressed". I don't want to be a burden...im just really down...always. Is there any help or am I just being silly?

Welcome, just thekidsmom. I am glad you are here. You will find psychcentral to be a really caring and warm place.

I do think there is help for you. And you are most definitely not being silly. I understand the continuous feeling of being down. You are certainly not alone. Spend some time reading the threads here and please post anything you'd like. I think you will find a lot of compassion and a lot of helpful advice.

Have you ever talked to your doctor about how you are feeling? Would you consider going to visit a psychiatrist if for nothing other than to have an evaluation (basically they just ask a lot of questions to determine if you do have something "wrong"). Visiting a doctor would be a good first step in the right direction. If you aren't ready for that yet, still talk to us, we are all here to listen and help, if we can.

Hello and welcome. You are in the right place. I don't have "really severe issues" either, but I also struggle with being really sad. Perpetuallysad is right. Talking to your doctor about how you feel is a great first step. He or she can really help and may be able to get you on a good path to getting better. You don't have to feel this way forever, there are things you can do to help yourself. Being here is a good first step and reading about what others have gone through will help you understand that you are DEFINITELY not alone.

Sometimes I also feel guilty about my sadness...because I have nothing "wrong" with my life either. I have a kind husband, a loving family and a stable job. Yes, I've had challenges with my work and as part of my personal therapy I am trying to find a new job, but so many people out there have it so much worse than me. But what I've learned is that it's not about everyone else, it's about me and my emotions and my feelings. Everyone's experience is unique. Focus on you.

Stay here and stay with us and talk to you doctor. Good luck!

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Hello, justthekidsmom. You may well benefit from an antidepressant. Give it a thought.

I am new also. Your not being silly. I was a child of a family who drank a lot. I don't drink much. I do usually have a glass of wine before bed and I go to sleep right away. But having finally addressed my ADD, which I denied for many years, I find that sleep is not a problem. I almost loss my wife because i would not seek help. I am very lucky to have found the the person I married. I just decided to take a test online for ADD. Boy! Was I on the high end. I then decided to try Adderall along with focusing on positive communication with my wife and family. I have decided to erase all the negative responses that went along with the ADD. What a change in me!

I can assure you that if you are drinking a lot, this is not helping your sadness. Alcohol is a depressant. What do you do when the kids are in school? Remember, you are special and you need to also take care of you.

If I can be of any help, please post.

Best, Jerry

Hello & Welcome, Justthekidsmom!
Exactly. Although depression may ride the coattails of stress and trauma, it can invade your life all on its own.
Yes, there's help. No, you are far, far from being silly -- even if your feelings scream "Silly!" at you constantly.

You are definitely not being silly and I hope you can get the relief you deserve. When you are felling sad or down or depressed but you still have to wear the mask of being the good mom, it can be exhausting, and that just feeds right back into the cycle of feeling sad. shaggy

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You deserve to feel better. Please dont dismiss your feelings. They are valid and valuable. Please seek help. We're pulling for you.