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Jul 21, 2005, 11:04 AM
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So I am a new member and the timing could not be any better. I feel as though everything is happening at once, but one thing at a time. So I guess the first thing is that my boyfriend, who I am in love with and want to marry, just told me last night that his mom has HIV, and my first reaction was do you have it??? Well, in turn this turned into a huge argument because he felt that I don't trust him because if I did than I never would have asked that question. We argued for awhile and he said that I was nagging him to tell me what was bothering him, and that was why he didn't want to tell me because he knew I would freak out. I did, but I love him...however I feel like I may have lost him...
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Jul 21, 2005, 11:18 AM
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Welcome to PC, curlyredcc.
Honestly, your reaction would have been my first reaction as well. I think you were justified in your response. You want to know if you are in danger. That's fair. Sometimes when things happen with my hubby and I get upset, it gets him upset too. However, he has to know (and I tell him) that I need time to react and deal with my feelings too. I need a moment to get all my anger, hurt, sadness, etc out of my system before I can calm down and deal with the situation. Once those emotions pass, I am usually ok. But I have to be allowed to react too. When you get a handle on your emotions, I would go back to him and discuss the situation rationally. If need be, tell him that you have to be able to react to this news too. I hope that made sense. lol Good luck and let us know what happens.
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Jul 21, 2005, 11:19 AM
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Welcome to the forums here at Psych Central so sorry your having a rough time right now.... 
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Jul 21, 2005, 11:32 AM
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well i did just that and called him this morning (he did spend the night at my place)...i told him that i am there for him and my reaction was solely based on being surprsied because that was the furthest thing from my mind...i think that the hardest thing is him feeling as though he can't trust me and he can...i don't want him to deal with things alone...i am sitting at work crying because i can't lose him...the whole story in a nutshell is that we dated 3 years ago and broke up...i haven't spoken to him since...i wrote him a letter with the address i had for him and left my number...he then called me a few days later and said that he hasn't lived in that address for 3 years, but he was going to look for a place for his grandmother...he looked down and saw the letter...we are together because of fate...after we hung up this morning it "seemed" like everything was better, but i still feel like he thinks he cant trust/open up to me...plus i am going thru so much more right now that i am an emotional wreck...
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#5
Jul 21, 2005, 05:51 PM
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Welcome curly, to psychcentral. Seems you nudged "fate" along, though, imo... you did write that letter. Were you already lonely and mulling over the old days? You sound young. Real love will come along some time, I hope you are able to find it. TC
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