bad news

I got a call today telling me that I didn't get a job that I had really, really wanted. (I had two interviews for it, and they checked my references) I am heartbroken, and also feeling overwhelmed that I have to start the job search process all over again. I had been so excited about the possibility of getting out of my current job, which sucks the life out of me and is a major contributor to my depression. I don't know what I'm going to do now. Is it too much to ask, to have good luck, just once? I'm feeling really awful right now.

Oh I'm so sorry to hear you didn't get the job! I know the idea of searching all over again is overwhelming and frustrating, but eventually you will get the result (a job) that you're hoping for.

If you can take any positives from this, at least now you have more experience with interviews, and that might you help get the next one you apply for!

Remember people can apply for lots of jobs before they actually get the job, but you will eventually get one. Like, the person who got THIS job, they might have been for another 5 or even 10 interviews before this one and got turned down for it. Your time will come.

You have every right to feel **** right now, but when you've done that enough, then I'm sure you can pick yourself back up and try again. x

Sorry this happened, garden gal.

Sorry to hear you didn't get the job you wanted. At the risk of sounding extremely corny, please remember that when one door closes, many other doors open. Who knows? You might end up finding a job that you like even better than the one you didn't get. Best of luck to you in your job searching!

Hi, garden gal!

Boy, I've been in your position more times than I can count! And by no means because I lack the training, skills and experience that's needed, all of which I have in full measure. It's just a sign of the times, hard times, economically bad times, times when getting a good job is much, much tougher than when the economy is going great. So, first, you must understand and accept that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. Really. No kidding. There are so many overqualified applicants for every single job opening now! You really shouldn't let it add to your depression. It's just not a reflection on you personally. There really is someone to blame, those dorks who created the fake boom that ended in 2008. And you and I and all other regular people wind up having to pay for it with a tougher job market. You WILL get a decent job. It will just take longer than it would have in 2003 or 1993. And NONE of your struggle is your own fault! Don't let yourself get depressed over that. If you know anyone who grew up in the 1930's (they're almost all gone by now), ask them about what they faced when they tried to get a job. Things now are still better than they were then. Buck up. Chin up. "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again!" (Fred Astaire)

I have worked with people who have been laid off from jobs they had for most their lives. Finding a job is not easy, but I learned through working with others on job seeking techniques to look at the positives. You did get two interviews, and do you know how many people applied?If 80 applied and you were one of the interviewees then you are to be commended for getting to that point. Never, never give up, the person hired may not like the job, and you may be called in to interview again. Send a note stating you remain interested in the position and why you want to work for the company.

If you have a job center near you, take advantage of the job seeking workshops that are offered, learn all you can to be that one candidate that stands out from all the rest of the applications. Best of luck to you.

How are you feeling today, Garden Gal? Has the sting of the disappointment subsided any?

Rohag,
Thanks for asking... I'm still really disappointed, but I applied for 5 more jobs yesterday. Hopefully I'll get a call about at least one of those applications. None of them were as exciting to me as the job I didn't get, but I think they would all be better than what I am doing now.
Right now, I'm feeling really awful and ashamed of myself. I am completely broke, and haven't paid my rent yet. (I missed a paycheck because of my medical leave.) I asked some friends for money, which they did lend to me, but they also sat me down and talked about budgeting, etc... I feel like such a loser. I feel so humiliated, I wish the earth would just open up and swallow me. Sorry to be so negative... but I really hate myself right now.

Sending some hugs!

Sorry to hear that things are a bit rough right now. I'm glad your friends were able to help you financially, even though it sounds like maybe they weren't as sympathetic as they could have been about the situation.

I'll be thinking happy thoughts for you, that things get better soon.

Best of luck on finding a new job!!

((((Garden Girl))))

I also found out this week that I didn't get that job I was interviewing for. It's such a tough market. Ygrec23 is right, this is definitely not about you. The economy is so difficult and the competition for any position is substantial. I have been looking for a while and have also experienced the same thing. You need to feel great that you not only received a call, but had two interviews. In such a competitive job market, that is a huge affirmation to your skills and qualifications. You just need to keep putting yourself out there and believe that the right role will come for you.

It wasn't your time and it wasn't the right place. I know that's not what you want to hear and when people used to say that to me, I would disregard them. But now I really believe that the right role is out there for all of us if we keep putting ourselves out there.

Good luck, stay positive. I am going through such simmilar circumstances and am happy to chat any time. Feel free to PM me if you like...if I am slow to respond it's only because I haven't logged on.

Hugs...Feddy

My thoughts are with you Garden Gal. I'm so sorry to hear about that job, hope a different one comes through... Just keep taking care and *try* not to be too hard on yourself. It's a strong thing to ask for help, even though it doesn't feel that way. Just "go along" with your friends "budgeting plan." (I sometimes think to myself about that... what does my dad think I'm gonna spend this on, a new Cartier bracelet? Some fancy shoes? Ugh.) Instead, I've gotten to the point where I'm shopping at the "all for a dollar" store when I have to. Keep your head up, hon, I know things will get better. The important thing to know is that you just deserve to feel better. Be gentle to yourself.

E

Very nicely put elana05!

Did you find a new job yet? Anything new?

SophiaG,
Thanks for asking. I have actually been doing pretty well mood-wise, and haven't been having many depression symptoms these last few weeks. I'm really grateful for that. I had a second interview for a job that I want last week, and am waiting to hear back. I'm still a financial train wreck, but if I get this job, that will help. I'm also going on vacation on Tuesday to the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, so I'm really excited about that.
Sorry I haven't posted for a while... I sometimes feel a little awkward about posting when I'm doing well. I know this is probably silly, and that it might actually help others feel a little more hopeful. But I also want to be respectful of those who, at the present moment, are struggling more intensely.

garden gal

((((garden gal))))

Hoping you get that job

Rhiannon

Actually I think posting here when you feel alright would bring you down so maybe it's a self-care thing to stay away when you feel better.