[Psyclox]

A friend of mine was told by the doctor that she has the same disease that her mother has and she only has 7yrs to live, her ex who also happens to be a good friend of mine is taking it a lot harder, all my friend wants to do now is take more drugs and drink more she says that there is no point in living life good anymore cause she only has 7yrs left any way she also says that she is being punished for killing her baby (she had an abortion) her ex is devasted by this he loves her more than anything and she wants to die and doesnt care any more and guess who is stuck in the middle again yip ME I don't mind that much but in times like this where I hate myself right now and all I want to do is think about all my crap, now I have to look after those 2 and deal with their problems, y am I such a magnit for people problems do I willing get myself in to these situations %#@&#! I hate it all right now I wish I could just leave everything behind and go away for awhile. Is it selfish of me to want to leave my friends and let them deal with their own problems am I that bad a person. I HATE IT ALL. %#@&#! I HATE THIS LIFE OF MINE.

[dottie]

Hi!

One of the ways in which we experience all that life offers us is in the people we place around us.

Take a good hard look at your friends and if it happens to give you bad vibes. Walk away...and don't look back.

This has nothing to do with you being a good or bad person.

Hang with people that will take you upward. Anything else...is a betrayal of ones own SELF.

Look at yourself and take good care!

~Dottie

[Quay]

Hi,
I think you're on the right track thinking you need to think of yourself first right now. Everyone is responsible for themselves and their feelings. You're responsible for you, doing what you need to keep or get you healthy. Your friends are responsible for themselves, for figuring out their problems and dealing with their issues. It really sounds like you have enough on your plate right now, without taking on their troubles. You aren't being mean; you are doing the right thing. You need to put your problems first right now. Not wrong or selfish, just what's most healthy for all of you.
Don't get me wrong though. It's not an easy thing to do. I know I always feel guilty that I'm not doing more for others, but sometimes we do have to take care of ourselves.
Hope things get better for you, Quay

taking care of yourself is not selfish and by the way I was diagnosed with an inherited terminal kidney desease and told I have four years before dialysis and death if I didn't have a transplant by the end of that 4 years (the amount of time the desease took the last relative--- that was 20 years ago. and I have not had any problems yet warrenting dialysis, I contribute this bypassing the expected death deadline to the fact that I refused to believe that deadline. instead taking it day by day no drinking, no drugs and low salt diet. Sorry diagnosing doctor like I've told my son I am going to live to be 100 and see my grandchildren, teach them how to drive him nuts with whistles made out of straws and then I am going to teach my grandsons kids how to do the same.

so my suggestion is take it one day at a time and take care of yourself. they can take care of their own problems without pulling you over the edge.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((( Psyclox ))))))))))))

[Psyclox]

Thanx all I really do appreciate all the concern I get here. Thanx Again.

[lil_rebbitzen]

*hugs psyclox* One thing I struggle with in my own depression is I'm codependent. And I always have had the habit of trying to help others, but have neglected myself in the process. It's a habit that can make you feel terrible, and it needs to be broken. Make sure to take care of yourself.

I'm praying for you psyclox.