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Oct 05, 2005, 11:00 AM
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I just found out that my husband's Grandma, who helped raise him while his father was in Nam, has bladder cancer. He is going to be devistated. He is very close to his Grandma as was he close to his Grandpa before his death. Later today, we have to go to the funeral home, then tomorrow to the funeral of his great uncle, Grandma's brother. It is such a sad time for this family.
I am not sure I am able to handle this. I must play the part of the supportive wife now, and I just don't do death. After my parents' deahths this family held me together. I must be there for them! I think I will call my counselor just for safe keeping. As much as I need them for support, I need support too. I HATE CANCER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE DEATH!!!!!!!! I HATE FEELING LIKE THINGS ARE OUT OF MY CONTROL.!!!!!!!
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Oct 05, 2005, 11:52 AM
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I think it is the right thing to do to call your counselor.
Do your best to set up a support network. I understand that you must be supportive but you shouldn't have to be "the strong one" 24 hours a day... you need to have some time when you can grieve too. Maybe your counselor will be able to set up extra sessions or may have some suggestions. Be sure to post here as much as you need to because we are part of your support network too, you can "be yourself" here and not have any expectations or pressure put on you.
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Oct 05, 2005, 11:55 AM
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Hang in there. Talking to your counselor is a great idea. It's easy to get so caught up in serving others that you don't take care of yourself. Sorry to hear your husband's family has been going through so much lately. I get the impression that my family is about to swing into one of those cycles -- it just sucks how these things happen in cycles, doesn't it?
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Oct 05, 2005, 03:54 PM
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Hi,
My husband as recently had bad news about one of his parents' health. It's very sad. And it is hard to support the one you love when you have your own feelings about it, too. Please take time to honor your own feelings, too. I don't know how close you are to his Grandma, but you may also have your own feelings of sadness about this. It's okay to share it with him. You don't have to put on a brave face for him all the time. And it's okay to hurt for his hurt, too. At least that's what I keep telling myself. Take gentle care. gg
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