[MoAnamCara]

how do we stop the mind -

from thinking about things we want to forget?

from putting the blame on ourselves?

from becoming so angry with oneself?

from wishing we werent alive?

from wanting to run away?

from wishing things currently were different?

from wondering if people really care?

from wanting people to care at the same time of not wanting them to?

from closing ourselves off and not allowing people in?

from wanting to be alone and just be?

from feeling so alone in this?

from doubting oneself?

from being so unsure about our abilities?

from not caring?

from becoming so frustrated?

for wanting not to feel or think?

[Gus1234U]

meditation is the recommended technique for learning to manage uncontrolled thoughts.

the beginners technique is to simply sit and focus on the breath, notice the air go in and out of the nose; feel the chest expand and contract; count on the out-breath: 1001, 1002, 1003,,,, until you lose track, and then start over...

continue to do this until you forget to notice what you are thinking... then do it some more, every day, as often as you can remember, especially when you are feeling tired, hungry, angry or lonely.

racing thoughts are often called the "monkey mind" because they flit around grabbing onto every little thing. learning to focus your thought where you intend to, is like exercising a muscle, you get better and better at it as time goes by.

best wishes,, Gus

[MoAnamCara]

Gus -

thank you. i am trying something similar but today it is failing to help and so the cycle continues.

[kikki27]

Originally Posted by MoAnamCara

how do we stop the mind -

from thinking about things we want to forget?

from putting the blame on ourselves?

from becoming so angry with oneself?

from wishing we werent alive?

from wanting to run away?

from wishing things currently were different?

from wondering if people really care?

from wanting people to care at the same time of not wanting them to?

from closing ourselves off and not allowing people in?

from wanting to be alone and just be?

from feeling so alone in this?

from doubting oneself?

from being so unsure about our abilities?

from not caring?

from becoming so frustrated?

for wanting not to feel or think?

I dont know having this same issues like mind be racing over and over again cant control it makes me so angry

Admittedly,this reply is from someone who thinks as you do.
BUT ,logically I can answer that.Now,will I incorporate it on a daily basis?It seems to depend,on whether I am 'mindful'(aware of my thought process,attitude,where my feelings are rooted,and paying attention to meeting my basic needs)
That being said,the question how remains.And my personal opinion is,to begin with,the above items.Keeping a journal of insightfulness,and tracking your self examination in answering those questions.Also it assists a person to receive a different perspective,because we become very much entwined in our own perception of reality.Therapy can assist you with feedback,insight,perspective,and solutions.You can also make an effort to be mindful and challenge your thoughts as though your thoughts belonged to a friend you care for.We tend to judge ourselves very harshly.Criticize ourselves relentlessly,while the fact is....we are only humans and we fail.You can also use dialectical or cognitive behavior therapies on your own or shared with a T or with people here or irl.Those therapies...mainly dbt...will very much assist you if you really ,really want to be active in changing the way that you feel (feelings that are related to your thinking).Also ,you may truly require an appointment with a regular doctor and a psychiatrist to evaluate whether this experience is due to a chemical imbalance.That's where keeping a sort of diary will come in handy.As you'd be prepared to have more insight into what you've been going through and could give a better picture of it in totality.Wishing you healing and peace within....~W~

[MoAnamCara]

thank you wolfsong -

i am in t and taking meds too. logically i also agree with what you said, it sounds easy. today all failed me. from when i posted as the day went on it got worse to the point i nearly did something bad. i need to share this with my t but am reluctant to do so. between now and then i need to do something to help myself overcome this current state.

I am so happy that you hadn't chosen to take that last step and injure the body.I relate deeply to the coping cutter.You coped this time with out the cutting.I hope you hug you for that!It indeed does sound easy...I cringed whilst I typed it in... for fear of that.I want to think you will force an attempt to try some distractions .((((Hug hug hug))))).You matter!

[MoAnamCara]

Originally Posted by wolfsong

I am so happy that you hadn't chosen to take that last step and injure the body.I relate deeply to the coping cutter.You coped this time with out the cutting.I hope you hug you for that!It indeed does sound easy...I cringed whilst I typed it in... for fear of that.I want to think you will force an attempt to try some distractions .((((Hug hug hug))))).You matter!

no cringing necessary, i understood what you were saying, and your response helped. thank you.

i wasnt talking about cutting and i need not to say anymore here.

thank you again wolfsong.

My badI guess I projected me onto that.I apologize.Happy to know I goofed,trust me .

[MoAnamCara]

Originally Posted by wolfsong

My badI guess I projected me onto that.I apologize.Happy to know I goofed,trust me .

no apology necessary.

Take care.