Lately ive been feeling worse then usual
It seems like everyday something bad happens and things just get worse
by the minute
If its not school, its home , if its not home or school, its something else
But there is always something
I'm going to visit a psychologist next wednessday but im expecting ill just freeze up like always or that she doesnt care about me.
Someone wrote a letter I can use to help me explain whats wrong.
So if I freeze I got a plan B but what if she doesnt care? or nothing will work? or what if she gets me commited and ruins my future?
Im just so stressed about everything allready and this is making me lose my mind .
Anyone knows what I can do about this ? to feel less stressed and anxious.

[Lexi232]

ok, first, take a deep breath in and breathe!
This sounds so stressful, i'm sorry you have to go through all of this!
Try not to worry on the "what if's" .. i used to combat my what ifs with turning it around..
What if she doesn't care; to what if she does care.

having a plan b like you do is a really great idea!
Question, would she really be in this profession if she didn't care? if she just doesn't get you, are you able to find a new one that will?
That last one, about getting commited is my number one fear as to why i dont like talking to people who have that authority to do so. But I am able to combat that fear with the way i word things. such as there's a few things that will get one commited instantly, but if you say it like you feel a certain way, but don't plan on acting on it (the emphasis on dont plan on acting on it) they listen and are willing to work things out with you and what you want, and dont want.

Maybe just talking it out with your pdoc at the first about how your stressed and anxious about what you want to talk about, and need some advice on how to ease this? (it can also break the ice)

(((((((Jarebear)))))))))!!!!

[mgran]

She won't get you committed, I can tell you that for sure. And she wouldn't have entered into her profession if she wasn't planning to help those in need. She will care.

Bring your letter, so that even if you freeze up she has some idea. Just be brave, I know it's a huge step, but I honestly believe it will be good for you. And again, she won't get you committed. You're not a dangerous person.

[justfloating]

((((((((Jarebear)))))))))

It's absolutely terrifying talking to anyone, particularly strangers, about the problems we're having. I've been there. I'm still there, most of the time. But it is so worth it! I suffer from depression but getting help has allowed me to live my life despite it, and I've learned a lot about myself as a person along the way. My hope is that in taking the brave step of seeking help, you will do the same.

As for your fear ... it's your psychologist's job to care. It's what she went to school and got trained and now gets paid to do. Mental health professionals are special people, because they get it. They get that this is a hard process for sufferers, and they get that those with mental illnesses are normal people under extraordinary strains, and best of all, they know how to help. It's REALLY scary opening up, and I think your idea of a letter is brilliant, but once you do open up to someone about how you're feeling it's going to go a long way towards helping you get better.

Best of luck at your appointment!

[Patriciann]

I have a lot of stress when I'm going to talk to someone about my depression for the first time. After I leave the meeting I wonder about why I was so stressed when here it turned out so well but I think my depression causes me to worry sometimes when there is no need to. I like the idea of turning the negative thoughts with the 'what if's' into positive ones. Sending you gentle ((())) to help give you a bit of comfort.

[TL]

My dearest jare...you will not be committed! Just think of me sitting there with you holding your hand in quiet support when you talk to her. Mom

[Perna]

Originally Posted by Jarebear

but what if she doesnt care? or nothing will work? or what if she gets me commited and ruins my future?

Stop with thinking about the future at all and work to staying right here, right now. You can't know the future but you can influence it by sabotaging yourself, making up and believing things like that the person won't care or wants to ruin your future.

Worry is only possible because you have a wonderful imagination and use it to hurt yourself instead of help. If you have to imagine things about the future, which no one can know, then why not imagine good things? Why not imagine that you will get a wonderful, caring, helpful therapist who will be an ally and make things easier for you?

[pgrundy]

What helps me is to stop thinking about the future at all and stop the 'what ifs' and just focus on what do I need to do next? What is the next right thing?

I know it's hard to do that, but to the extent that I can do that, things go better. Most of the time the stuff I'm worried will happen never comes close to happening, while stuff I never expected does happen--both good and bad.

Your psychologist is trained to help. Hand her the letter and let it go at that. That's the next right thing. She'll take it from there and wherever it goes will get you closer to better! Hang in there!