?????Rejection

How do you cope or deal with rejection?

Rejection for me means that I am %#@&#!, a no good trash and that I'm not worth their time. It brings my avoidancy way up and I fall in isolation because I feel that is where I belong, alone.

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I don't cope or deal well at all. It's a huge trigger for me and one I find it hard to work at.

Rejection for me means I disappointed someone and reinforces my negative opinions of myself. Like you, I run away and isolate. I hide. I get really scared and anxious.

I'm working at recognising that there can be disagreement without rejection, and that there can be ending of relationships without that necessarily meaning rejection. It's a very very hard one for me, though.

Caroline

I feel worthless. Full stop.

I also don't deal well with it. But, I also will try to hurt or ward off someone first to make it seem like I am the rejector not the rejectee.
It is difficult to deal with when you feel like %#@&#! on any given day all by yourself then you have someone who pushes you away.
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I don't "cope" with rejection at all well

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You all are priceless in my book!

I do my absolute best to not take rejection personally. In fact, I can say that I've gone so far as to convince myself that rejection was NOT personal, even when it WAS.

I am a firm believer in being honest with oneself, but rejection is a very difficult emotion to process. Therefore, for my own stability, I avoid thinking about it. I can't do much about the situations where I've already been rejected, so there isn't much point in dwelling on them, and in fact spending too much time dwelling on where we've "gone wrong" just sets us up for future rejection. IMO, people tend to be very cautious about getting too involved with people who are sensitive to rejection -- it feels like a setup... like it's only a matter of time that they will be considered "the bad guy" for not responding as the sensitive person hopes they will. "Fear of rejection" is, IMO, one of the biggest priorities to work on in therapy, because that particular fear controls one's entire social and professional life.

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and no hugs for you........

Thank you so much, sj.

Hugs to you.

Caroline

I feel rejected now

thank you, fuzzy.

Caroline

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That's exactly how I am.

I'm in that mode presently and feel way lower than anyone I come in contact with-- like you said-- I'm not worth anyone's time. I isolate and struggle with communication.

mandy

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LMo

eh... I use to to feel awful being rejected, and go into isolation to ponder what the hell I did wrong.

Now I find myself getting mad and fustrated that the other person either doesn't understand, or that they really think me and my opinion is not worth the trouble in dealing.

I feel horrible, so in return I start treating others horribly...then go hide somewhere to avoid rebuttals.

So I guess your not alone in the situation of rejection, and that is a type of relief in itself.

Sorry this post wasn't much of a help as it was an personal soap box...

" that particular fear controls one's entire social and professional life"

Yes it does. I'm going to use the " I " here. I have a terrible fear of rejection because it hurts me so much. But when it comes to work or facing up authority I have a very good control on it and I will, without hesitation, make my way. This is because, even if I respect everyone, these people do not touch my heart. It's when that I have let people touched my heart that I will fear rejection because it was the people that I love that have rejected me in the first place. They have, in a way, teach me that people cannot love me and that people would rather reject me then love me. Rejection and love can go hand in hand together and build what I call my avoidancy. But this is only me.

Thank you so much for talking about yourself on this subjet. I really have appreciated.

time0

I find that I don't worry at all when I'm with some people since I don't really care what they think, but those who I really care about, I worry about them rejecting me.

The way I cope with rejection is to avoid placing myself in a position where I could be rejected - i.e. total isolation. It's left me emotionally crippled but I can't manage any other way.

Warm thoughts to all.

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Thank you for sharing!

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