Did you ever get the feeling that you were doing something wrong but nobody tells you that you're doing something wrong? You honestly don't know what you're doing wrong but from the reactions from people, you know you must be doing something wrong but you can't figure out what.

[Overcastbutclearing]

I often think the same thing. Mostly due because I have low self esteem. And, I don't believe anybody would like me.
Not sure if you feel that way too or not.
It is a very difficult feeling to resolve!

Jax, i do that. don't know why either. just our minds, i guess. xoxoxo pat

SJ and Pat, you're probably right. It's more then likely my own wheels spinning from my own insecurities.
Thanks

[hillbunnyb]

Me too. It's like I miss some social cues that others pick up on. I try to behave in a socially acceptible way, you know, act normal, but when I do "it", people react like there's abooger hanging out my nose. I cultivate my eccentricities as a defense and to boost my self esteem...... hehe, I'll show ya weird, hehehe it gives them a context for me that takes the pressure off all of us. (added to my dxs: Aspergers Syndrome which explains a lot of this social stuff.)

[Lexicon78]

I feel the same way a lot of the time. You know people don't like what you're doing or the way you're doing things but they say nothing. I hate that. It really makes you kinda paranoid about what they are thinking and really does a job on your self-esteem.

[(JD)]

Well, sure! If it's something that's crucial, I stop and ask if there's a better way. Otherwise, I go right on and do. They don't call me eccentric for nothing.

Hi again,
Thank you for understanding. Sometimes I get to feeling like an alien. It's a consolation to know that I'm not alone.
Sky, your response made me laugh. I wish I had that kind of confidence.
It feels like I'm always missing social clues but nobody will clue me in.
And with friends-people you really care about, it bites. You'd think they could talk to you about an issue they were having with you but they would rather avoid any conflict. So, in them avoiding the conflict, they pull away and you're left standing there wondering "What did I do?"
I guess that's how you know who your real friends are, though. Friends aren't afraid of creating conflict to resolve an issue with you.

[kimmydawn]

Jax, I do that LOTS, then later (when it's passed) realize that it was high anxiety for me.

Might that be what's going on right now?

Be safe,

KD

Yes, yes, yes!
I'm safe. Thanks
Hugs for everyone!

[Hopefull]

Yeah, I do that. I work a cash register and deal with costumers a lot. So, I find that I stand there sometimes and try to figure out if I did something weird with my body language or facial expressions. I worry that people will think I am totally lunny. However, a co-worker reports back to me that I am good with people. I am completely mistified by her view of me being good with people when I failed to learn a lot of social skils. I had no friends as a kid and so I failed to learn what normal people take for granted. But, most people don't have hardly think much of us being a little weird.

You just brought back memories from when I use to cashier. I loved working with customers. Out of every 1 mean customer-there were 10 nice ones. But that one mean one can really get your goat and wash away the other 10, if you let them.
It's good to have someone who reinforces your confidence when you're feeling a little off.