lonely

but yet i'm surrounded by all these people
i'm here all the time where we have upwards of 8000 members
and i'm working all the time where i see hundreds of people
how could i be so lonely

You can be lonely anywhere. Loneliness is tied to the depth of the connection that you are feeling at that very moment to the people around you. So, I can be lonely anywhere. Sometimes, the more people around the lonelier it gets.
Sorry that you are feeling lonely. I hope you have someone to talk to.

lonely is anytime that you don't feel connected to someone or something. i understand your feelings. i do the same thing myself. xoxoxo pat

I feel the same way all the time. No matter how many friends, family, or just plain people are around me I feel like the loneliest person alive and I hate feeling that way. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way and that you can talk to us at anytime...day or night. We're all there for you.

dont feel connected to anyone. not even myself sometimes. i can make nice and friendly with people, but it doesnt really mean anything. im beginning to think theres very little hope now. i only have few options now.

ty anyway

Kay

Hey Stargazer, sorry you're feeling so down. Do you ever draw just for the heck of it? Doodle even? Might pass some time and fill some of that empty space....... take care.

no i dont draw or doodle i dont want to fill empty space i wanna do something other than just survive cause thats what we're supposed to do

im sorry. it was mean to have directed all of that towards you. none of this is your fault, and i shouldnt have replied like that

Stargazer,
Honey, I know exactly how you feel. I'm married but still feel lonely and in my case don't have any friends in my area to do things and to get out with or just to spend time with when things get rough for meemotionally. Please PM me anytime you needto talk and I'll be here for you.
Love, Sherri

I understand the feelings of loneliness, but the weirdest thing happened as my depression eased, I started to feel less loneliness. I had formed bonds and attachments, I just couldn't see them in my depressed state. I hope that someone will pierce through your depression and show you there is a connection and I hope your depression eases.

I never liked people my own age. Guess still being like a kid and wanting to be older than I really am. 17, an I wanna be 20-something. So I cant hang out with the people I'd like to, they dont want to talk to me cause I'm young. So I never really got close enough to anyone for them to be there for me. Not that I can be there for anyone else, why should I expect that from them. I ask too much.

Ehh..I dont know. I think I'm better on my own than with the influence of others. I dont mind too much anyway.

but blah. thats what i get an 85!! thats a B in english, the subject of all hell subjects, and its not f-ing good enough for those #$%^#*&%#!#$@!#$* people that @$#^^&$ made me and #$%$&^*&&^%*# brought me into this %^#%$^&^%$@%$@%$^%^& world. An 85 out of 100, with 100 being the best, how is that a bad grade when I'm usually failing this term and need to pass next term to get full credit. BLAH thats what.

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Hang in there and keep looking around for opportunities and purpose, close community and a feeling of togetherness can come among those with common interests. I know any interests in anything can be hard when depressed, but sometimes one's old interests or new ones can draw you towards people you will click with.

Best of luck, hugs, love ya "kid"~Down

I'm glad you were able to get that 85%! Forget the others, what do they really care? I'm sorry, but sometimes ppl who don't act like they "should" need to be ignored sometimes. CONGRATS!

Hey, an 85 is a real good grade. Good Job. As for parents, they do that. I never could reach my parents' expectations. If your parents' expectations are too high then just do the best that you can.

im doing the best i can. i used to have good english grades, that used to be my best class, but not anymore. but 85 is great for me when i'm usually getting Ds and Cs. and even though i know the teacher probably gave me half that grade, i'm happy im doing better than i usually am. i'm proud of me, even if it is such a little accomplishment. its the little things that count, right?

Bingo. Baby steps. Most of us can no longer leap tall buildings in a single stride. If you can learn to take pride in small accomplishments you have gone a long way toward coping. Trying to do more than we are able is a recipe for failure and for crushing our self-esteem. Better to set lower hurdles and clear them. It's worked for me. Hardest part was continually lowering expectations of myself until they more or less aligned with what I am able to accomplish.

It's also important that we not beat ourselves up when we don't manage to clear the small hurdles - that will happen. Life goes on. That was then, this is now. What matters is how you are doing in the present moment.

85 sounds pretty good to me. Keep up the good work.

and even though i really should start focus on trying to get into college, doesnt matter anyway, cant take sat for a month. gah. dont think i'll be in college in fall. dont know what im doing then. ut oh

Read somewhere today that it is good to substitute "could" for "should" and "won't" for "can't". Seems like good advice. e.g. "I could start focusing on trying to get into college". Doesn't carry the heavy baggage and guilt of a should. You could start focusing on getting into college. You may decide not to. It's a decision, not an obligation that you have to obsess over. If you decide against it, you are freed up to consider other things without it hanging over you.

Also, how about chippering up your sig line. "Don't mind me, I'm too special for you to understand." Hate to see you putting yourself down in every post

hows that for sig line?

substituting isnt any better, just a different way of procrastinating. i could, but, nah i dont wanna. just my only option of getting away from parents before 18. i just dont have any desire to do anything ever at all. meh. so what..

Kay

Much better

I kinda agree with you on substituting, but suspect it is a good exercise to go through. I plan to play around with it some when I catch myself saying should or can't, which I do more than I should ... but I can't help myself ... I should go see somebody about it, but I can't get out of the house