Bump in the Road

I'm not a diagnosed depressive. I have other issues. But now and then (and particularly now) I just get intensely down in a way that I don't know but assume is depression. It's as if some twenty-foot tall giant with huge boots is just crushing me with his feet. And, yes, it does make you want to do anything at all to get out of the situation. My T says I have to tough it out. Look the misery straight in the eye and figure out why it's happening. And she's probably right. But if I had some alcohol right now I'd drink it, but I don't (no money).

This happens maybe twice or three times a year when the external aspects of our economic situation get particularly gruesome and I have to deal with people I'd prefer never to have met. I just want to do anything at all to get away from this down. Which of course is why I'm writing this. Writing a relevant post in PC does indeed help. Just the writing it down.

For all I know this may be the wrong place for me to post. Perhaps it's just for people with permanent (semi-permanent?) depression. At least with diagnoses. What say you all? Take care.

ygrec it sounds like situational depression. something or an event causes the depression. i was taught some useful tools for this. one of them ironically was if everything fails-situation-my T asked-"what is the worse thing that could happen to you?" i replied death. my T said well we know this won't kill you so you can get thru this.
btw mine feels like a truck on my chest!
http://www.depressionhelps.com/event...al-depression/

Back when I was supposed to be clinically depressed, I was told that what you're describing here was situational depression. It differed from CD in that SD has a cause or trigger.

Oops!

madisgram's got it covered!

Hello, Ygrec23! I'm a card-carrying, diagnosed depressive. In the days before the diagnosis, my depression didn't care it wasn't diagnosed. Now, tagged with an official diagnosis, it still doesn't care about it. It lives and does its thing without reference to the clinical label.

I am perfectly content to inhabit this specific forum with anyone who feels PC has value regardless of their labels or lack thereof.

I agree with everyone else - this area is for depression of all types and OF COURSE more of the posts will deal with chronic depression. Basically, there are more people who need to come to a site like this for longer, or feel they benefit from this type of site, who struggle with something long term than someone who has situational short term depression.

that doesn't mean you can't gain from this area, and that you won't find people going through similar things and learn.

Depression covers a lot of different types of depression - it's a blanket term for a lot of different things with certain similarities.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and even though it's for not so good reasons I'm glad you're not drinking. I wish you had MONEY to drink but at least, not having that money has stopped you from getting stuck into that potentially harmful cycle of drinking the worries away.

hope you feel better

I'm one whose situational depression turned into Major Depression reoccurant & ended up on permanent disability because of it Hit at the age of 43....in & out of the mental hospitals, eating disorder treatment, with more sui attempts than I can even remember.

Who would have even thought that just loosing one's career could have caused something like that to hit me.......sure wasn't anything I would have guessed even a year before it hit. Have to admit that a bad marriage didn't help my situation any either.....but I really didn't know how bad it was until I realized how incompetent my husband was at caring for things when I wasn't able to anymore.

I know that feeling down hit me harder just this last weekend.....when I have to deal with trying to keep a bill out of collection because medicare is stupid enough to pay for x-rays required by a chiropractor but won't pay for the radiologist to read them.......that really down feeling hit me.....so I can relate to the really down feeling you get when you have to deal with the financial situation you have found yourself in.

At least you aren't as irresponsible as my husband was & just completely ignored everything that had to do with the financial mess he got us into. He didn't even bother to respond to the IRS when they sent him a letter claiming that back taxes were due.....almost a year later after I left him, all our mail was being forwarded to MY FARM & I found out (the day before my birthday). Yep.....that's how an irresponsible husband handles situations.....maybe so he avoids the depression.....hmmmmm. I just relate him to an ostritch.....he sticks his head in the sand & can't figure out why he keeps getting kicked in the rear. I really don't think that avoiding responsibilities reduces depression either.......I think your T is right....you just need to step up to the plate & deal with it. Sometimes the only way to resolve things is to plow through them I get them INTO THE PAST.......I'm sure that your wife is there to support you & you don't have to go through it alone.

Yes, eskielover, you're right and my T's right. Just blow right on through the problem, come what may, and when you're out the other side you'll feel better, regardless of what happened. I have other original family members who reacted as your former husband did. They just lived in a dream world. If they didn't have people who would rescue them (and they did) they would have wound up living on the street. Not something I have any intention of doing. Give me hot water and air conditioning, as well as three hots and a flop, as they used to say. Take care.