[lexiesbaby]

My girlfriend of almost a year just broke up with me. It really feels like my life is sinking lower and lower. mShe said she couldn't cope with all the pressure I was putting on her. Over the past few months I have been in hospital 3 times for overdosing. I feel terrible for waht I've done to her but I really don't feel that I can cope without her, I don't know what to do. Can anyone please help me?

[Rapunzel]

When you care about someone and they keep hurting themself, that's really hard to deal with. I think you recognize that the pressure got to be too much for her. She has to take care of herself and it sounds like that means getting out of the relationship. Sorry. You need to take care of yourself too, and nobody can help you unless you are helping yourself. When other people care more about you than you do, and work harder to get you better than you do, it doesn't work and they get frustrated and even if they love you and care about you, they will eventually give up because you keep rejecting their help. It isn't enough to feel bad about it - you have to work on getting better, and not overdose again.

I hope I haven't been too blunt, but that's the way I see it, so I'm being honest with you. Yes, it's hard. If you want to hang around here you will find people who can understand what you are going through because a lot of us have been there too. We can provide some sympathy and encouragement. Still, I hope you are ready to work on your problems and try to get better. (You are seeing someone professional, I hope?) I'd like to help you, but nobody can unless you are willing to help yourself.

Take Care

<font color=green>"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung</font color=green>

[lexiesbaby]

I understand that but it still hurts so much knowing that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist and a councellor and I'm on anti-depressants but I'm still not feeling any better. I feel absolutely terrible for what I've done to her and wish more than anything that I could take it all back

[Rapunzel]

Keep trying to get better. Then when the time is right you will meet the right person. Or maybe she'll even come back to you.

I need to take my own advice. When I hurt myself, I don't care about it, but it hurts my husband a lot more than it hurts me. I feel terrible about that too. Maybe that's a start right there, huh? Feeling bad about hurting the people who care about us.

Take care of yourself. Getting better takes patience and hard work, but it will be worth it.

<font color=green>"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung</font color=green>

[Foolish]

Hey Lexiesbaby, thank you verymuch for your private message that I got today. Already from that I can tell that you are a very caring person.
I wanted to respond mostly to your second post in this since Rapunzel covered what I would have said as well very nicely. I wanted to talk about this sentence in particular

"till hurts so much knowing that she doesn't want to be with me anymore."

I truly believe that she wants to be with you but just can't handle it anymore. As Rapunzel has said in her first post I believe "It's hard to care for someone when they continue to hurt themselves" or something along those lines. It's true what you said, we are in the same boat and I know what it's like to be let go in the same fashion. No it's not a girlfriend that is telling me they can't handle it, it's close friends that I have had for years. They have finally had enough of seeing me hurting and can't continue being my friend. It hurts like a banshee but you need to know that time is the only thing to make thing's better not "Rush Phsyciatric Assistance" or things like that. Although it may work for you who knows, also talking can for some people but I know that only tim will heal me and in the meantime I just try to focus my mind on being at peace with their decision. Try working on it and see what happens...
Sorry that this post wasn't spectacular or the most moving griping post ever but I hope it helps.

Ian

Death Calls Us All, How Long We Prolong It Is Our Choice

[Duchess]

Hay Colette,
welcome to our forum... I hope you are feeling a little better today.
you know I dated someone for 8 yrs and I thought he was my soul mate untill one day he came home and told me he was no longer in love with me. we lived together @ the time and I swear I thought my world had ended. but it didn't, it only begun. I know you probably miss her very much. but if you give it wings and let it fly, it may come back and if it doesn't it wasn't ment to be ... Life's a ***** and then u die. so listen I was looking into Surrey University out in the UK. I want to go to school to be an Audio engineer. I live in New York and I love music. they say Surrey is one of the best universities for that. how are the schools over there??? well I really hope you will keep posting... you've found a truely peaceful & caring family with us.....
LOVE YA ALL!!!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~HUGS & KISSES DUCHESS~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

ABOUT THE NINTH HOUR JESUS CRIED OUT IN A LOAD VOICE, "ELOI,ELOI, LAMA SABACHTHANI?"~WHICH MEANS~"MY GOD, MY GOD,WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?"
~MATTHEW27:46.
MY GOD,MY GOD WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?WHY ARE YOU SO FAR FROM SAVING ME,SO FAR FROM THE WORDS OF MY GROANING?~ PSALM 22:1

[jessiejames]

When my boyfriend broke up with me I felt disjointed like I was no longer a complete person. I mean this was someone to whom I had given everything I had to give. All I wanted to do was curl up in a little ball and hibernate, the pain was too much to take. I guess that's normal when you love someone and lose them.
But the pain is gradually subsiding as I am sure it will with you. Time heals all broken hearts, the old saying goes. I am sure she still cares about you, but it is not easy sitting by and watching the person you love hurt themselves. Give her time and space and who knows maybe she will come back to you. If fate decrees otherwise, maybe this is a sign that you need to take care of yourself first and find out who you really are, before you can be ready for a relationship.