Getting enough courage

I'm trying to get the nerve to tell my mom about my depression. But I'm scared..... Ever since I've been reading about depression and its causes it seems so much more real and in my face now. Like before I used to think that i could just shake it off and feel better.... I see now with a different set of eyes. I know I have to tell her because this is a life or death situation..... Either I open my mouth..... Or I die. Bottom line. I'm just scared that she's gonna think I'm lying.....and then I'll have no other choice but to prove to her one time that I was telling the truth. And it would be all over. Too late. :..(

Just out of curiosity, why would she not believe you? Have there been other instances where she didn't? If she doesn't believe you, that doesn't mean you have to hurt yourself to prove it. There are other alternatives. I told my mom I was depressed, she thought it was demons and wouldn't help me, so I went to a school counselor and she threatened to call social services on my mom. Hurting yourself is never the answer. What I would do is just tell her and don't let her not believe you. If you genuinely are suffering then do whatever it takes to get the help you need.

Hi gloomyday.....I'm so sorry you're hurting. I know it can be hard to deal with loved ones when it comes to depression, but just to echo (in a way) what Hatter has said.....why would she not believe you? Wishing you all the best ~whimsy

I don't know. One time she asked me if I was depressed and I told her no. And then I said but even if I was I would never tell. That was when our relationship was better....Sometimes everything I do is trying to anger her or is a lie..... You know what..... I don't even care any more..... My whole existence is a lie. I don't even know why I was born. Just to ruin people's lives?! I think it's time I quit.... Once and for all.... I have nothing to look for in life any way....I lied to myself thinking that I was going to start my own band... I'm a total failure

What kind of talk is that? You're only 17!!! You have a whole LIFE AHEAD OF YOU! How can you say that? Do you know what it would do to your mother if you committed suicide? It would KILL her!! You may THINK that she doesn't care, but that's NOT TRUE. She loves you very much! Parents have alot on their mind. They have to think of ways to get YOU into college. They have to think of ways to keep a roof over your head. They have to think of ways to keep the bills paid. If you think YOU have problems, think of your Moms problems for awhile.

Please don't think that you don't have a life ahead of you. You have a great life ahead. You still have college. You still have getting married if you want to and having children if wanted. There are SO many things ahead of you if you think about it. You can do ANYTHING YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE -- but don't kill yourself! That would be a huge tragedy.

Think about what it would do to your Mom. Suicide is selfish. It's PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM. Think about it. Hugs, Lee

Honestly, I think it would better the lives of the people around me. I'm constantly causing drama. Not trying to, but I don't think before I do things. We have sort of a love-hate relationship. We can't live with each other, can't live without each other. So maybe it would be for the best.....maybe. I don't know. Sometimes I feel unloved....

I don't know what to tell you aside from the fact that I feel like this all the time - like a burden, unloved, alone, angry. The thing is, you don't get along with your mother all the time? Neither does any other teenage girl with their mother (I'm not a girl but I do have a sister who has gone through this). These things pass. It's not worth killing yourself over. It's like leed said, you're only seventeen. The best thing you can do is continue to fight to make your life better and become something great. Killing yourself won't make anything better. I'm sure your mother loves you even if you don't feel that way.

dont worry it will be okay

The way you feel right now is the way EVERY SINGLE TEENAGER ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH HAS ALWAYS FELT since the beginning of time. You have raging hormones, you want to fly, you want to test your boundaries, you want to be on your own, you don't like authority figures, etc. Neither does any other 17 yr old, nor any 17 yr old that has gone before you!

When I was 17 I hated my parents because they were both alcoholics and makiing my life miserable. I wanted to get out as soon as I could. And you know what? FOUR DAYS after high school graduation, I MARRIED the guy I'd been going with only to get out of the house. I did NOT want to get married but that was my only option. My new husband was controlling and a real jerk, but I stayed with him for 26 years before I divorced him. It was a horrible marriage all because I wanted to get out of the house.

I want YOU to do something with your life, but wait until it's time. You have a whole lot of tiime ahead. don't do anything foolish like i did.

God bless you and have a GREAT LIFE. Hugs, Lee

Maybe, rather than try and tell your mum first, you could just say to her that you need to talk to someone and ask her to set you up an appointment? If she acts disappointed - which she might, because she is your Mum and I am sure is really concerned and wants to know all about you - you can reassure her that you will tell her once you have talked to someone and got your thoughts straightened out. Would that be easier than trying to explain to your Mum about things you are not really sure of yet?

I'm sure that would make things easier.... Thanks! I'm still trying to figure out what to do but, that helps a lot.