I am such a failure when it comes to relationships..

I had to come here because i seriously need to talk to plus trying to hide it from my friends in puzzle pirates while chatting with someone from okcupid.com (which i will get to that in a minute). I tried going back to dating sites (Well only two I had to deleted the account) datehookup site and the other one was JUST AS worse like coming back to the Second Life game!

They don't want to see me a bloody human being, just a *blank* toy that's it! Even trying to have a conversation feeling like I am winding up in the dead end. After getting disgusting PMs from two pervs and what is worse, I warned the other ladies in the "woman's world thread" It's like none don't EVEN CARE of what I said! So I head on to okcupid.com and ONLY one guy ever got to reply and here is the pitch... the religion wise part! My last two exs failed and LIED to me being a chicken about it makes me think I screw it all up!

Anyway what got both spread apart is the religion even he wants me so BAD but I can't go down that road telling me he's staying chirstian (I'm muslim) which the conversation was on skype! I had to hide my insanity from my friends who are in the same crew with me on Puzzle pirates and the other too I'm chilling with to make my character for the wednesday tabletop game.

He adores me so much his words make me weak to the knees like I have never had that experience before since a friend of mine I know in The beethoven message board typed the same way like the composer!!!

I don't know what to do.. I am such a failure with the relationships and trying to find one.

Perhaps you should try living real life instead of inside a computer.

Been there bloody done that a thousands of times! On the thread I mentioned real life hell as well like I said I been through hell with relationship in REAL LIFE and online! the town I'm in nothing but freaks! even at the dance every guy I know are male *****s and they are scared of speaking to me!!

Hello angeleyegirl,

If I understand, all the relationships that you have tried to have online and IRL didn't function?

And you want some advice for having good relationship?

I am kind of going through a rough time at the moment, so forgive me if I am not myself. I know you needed a reply though.

From personal experience, having both an Online relationship and many "IRL" relationships, the Online relationship was the best. It allowed us to really get to know each other, something we probably wouldn't have done IRL. It allowed us to really fall in love before we even met. I think that it is a great way to handle relationships if you can take the distance. After that relationship ended (which was my final one) I never really wanted to go back to one IRL. Too many people just want one thing, and that's not for me. I want love, not lust. I have given up on it though, as I am still in love with my ex.

I do know how you feel though. All I can really say is practice makes perfect. The best thing to do when looking for a relationship, is to not look for a relationship. Let it find you. Don't be looking for it, just let it happen. Those are the best relationships in my opinion. Look for friends, not boyfriends. That's what ended up working for me. We became friends first, fell in love.

I wish you the best, take care and I hope it gets better soon.

I suggest looking for RL relationships. Disagreeing with what some have said, I think that people really are not always their selves when online. That's not to say some are. I'm pointing out that if you are not face to face, sometimes you say things that you would nvr say in RL. Online relationships and long distance relationships *can* work, but I think you will have a better chance at finding a relationship that is true and will *last* in RL

That said, maybe it's time to quit *trying*. Be yourself, follow your gut, and let your life unfold as it will

i'm sorry but i re-read your post and it said nothing about RL. You need to calm down and stop being so desperate.