[HarperPitt99]

Im in the middle of an MDD episode - 4th in the last three years. How do you help others understand that you can't just 'relax' or 'get over it'? I go to therapy, take my meds, use my CBT techniques -- but I seem to only have people in my life that can never be part of a good support system. And I'm afraid to ask for help from the people who might be a good support system.

Sigh.

[Leed]

The people in your life who can never be a good support system -- do you think that maybe you should STOP seeing them? If they're not a good support system, why are you letting them into your life? Why do you hang around people like that? If they're family members, sometimes we have to reduce the time we spend with family because they're toxic to us. We have to stay away from them. You HAVE to for your own sanity!!!

Why are you afraid to contact the people who ARE good for support? I'm SURE they'd be happy to hear from you, or would be happy to help you!! Please don't be afraid to contact them. Please go ahead and get ahold of them!!! If they're good for support, you NEED to contact them!!

I wish you the very best. God bless & keep us posted, ok? Hugs, Lee

[Sam2]

Harper,
there is no shame in having a mental illness. Its no different than having a physical illness except that the pain is emotional. You don't have to spill your guts to someone you think might be a good support system. Feel them out with some benign conversation, and slowly get into what you are going through. That way, if they aren't able to be a support system, you won't feel like you gave everything up and were shot down.

Even one person can make a tremendous difference. It took me years to stumble upon someone I could say anything to without being judged or having them draw away. That one person has made the difference between me being on this earth and not.

Please reach out if you can to one of the people you see as probable supportive friends. It can make all the difference.

Sam2