[hollands1980]

I am pretty sure that I have been in depression for a long time. I have been overwhelmed with 4 kids , animal, and a husband who is a truck driver. I didn't have the energy to keep my house in order. Now I have lost my kids . They are in dhs custody. Now i have to redo my house. Between my 4 yr old and my animals messing in the house. I have 3 special needs children. It was too much. Without the kids i feel like nothing. I hope my mother can get temporary custody. I really need someone to talk to. My 6 yr old has odd, my 4 yr old i believe has adhd, my 1 yr old is behind developmentally, and my 2 yr old daughter has no problems. I love my kids.my 4 yr old has destroyed my house. My life is so messed up and i don't know if i will ever have my kids but even if i get the house in order.

[(JD)]

((((hugs)))) I'm sorry you are suffering so! Things won't always be this bad... try not to think about the whole big picture, that's just too much to try and think about when you're depressed.

Do what you can. Can you find a therapist and seek counseling? I think that is important to help you help yourself.

As for the house, make a list... and then do what you can when you can. Do your best... try not to beat yourself up over the situation...you can get out of this at some point imo. TC.

[ozzie]

Welcome to the forums, hollands1980. It sounds like you are really hurting right now. I hope you can get some professional help. Have you ever had counseling?

As far as the house goes, take it one day at a time and do what you can. Keep talking to us as that will help too.

[Christina86]

Hi hollands1980. Welcome to PC.

Wow, it sounds like you're dealing with an awful lot. I agree with what has been said, have you ever considered counselling?

Getting a house in order is hard work. Don't try tackling it all at once, break up the work into smaller tasks (makes it more manageable).

*hugs* (If okay)

[sujunew]

welcome hollands1980.
sorry to hear how tough things are for you right now. Sounds very similar to what has been going on in my life for the past 3 months. My 6yo was put back into care then after my hubby and I split and she didn't cope too well. She has several medical problems, including having had aa stroke and brain injury, and these factors have contributed GREATLY to her severe behavioural problems. The day before she went back into care I had chairs etc thrown at me, and she smashed her bedroom window... My 2nd daughter has had her own probs incl. being blind in 1 eye. Both girls have been dvptly delayed but no2 is catching up very quickly now. So yeah, I have 2 special needs chn and so much politics going on too. I really understand whwere you are right now. Myhouse is SOOO unclean I am horrified but coz of being so emotionally/ mentally drained by all this stuff I keep putting it off for another day. I do try to do 1 bit of houseework each day tho. Today I tidied up all the books and junk that had made it onto the sofa. A small thing but it adds to the total picture of a clean house . Sorry I've done nothing but ramble... but sometimes it helps to know that there is someone else 'out there' who is in a very similar position to you.
Take care, and just look after yourself during this quiet period, Sometimes doing that can make the whole situation SO much more managable, or at least it helps make you feel a little bit better.
xxx irish

[sujunew]

-oops. sorry about all the typos etc. I am (literally) shivering as it is so cold in the room with the comp, and my fingers are shivering too lol

[katheryn]

((((((((((((( hollands1980))))))))))))
4children are a handfull without any added problems, just take your time go slowlly,
my aunt who suffered with depression gave me advice last year she told me to get myself better so i can help my hubby , now we are helping each other, take care you can do this

[steph2133]

I can really relate to the kids being overwhelming. I have four of my own and I babysit for eight others. The housework just gets pushed aside, especially when I am depressed. The best thing for me is make a list of everything that needs to be done in the house. Then break those tasks into even smaller pieces. Like if the kitchen needs to be done, break it into dishes, counter, floor, etc. Then hit it one thing at a time, maybe 5 min at a time, as soon as something is done, cross it off with a fat bright colored marker. Then you can say you may of had a bad day but at least you crossed one thing off the list, or however many you get through. I don't know if it will help you but I know it helps me. I hope you are feeling better.