[rhode island red]

My sister helps me with my finances because in addition to my depression and other mental illnesses, i am a compulsive spender. Saving money has been a HUGE issue for me (as I am sure it is for a lot of people). Recently, I recieved a large sum of money from my parents and my sister had "recommendations" about what to do with it. I did something a little different. Well, she sent me this email that totally ripped me. I didn't even read the second paragraph. Now i'm too anxious to do so. I know she loves me and is trying to help. I know she's not a professional but i have a very weak support network. she's all i have outside of my therapist.

i don't talk to anyone outside of these two people about my mental illnesses or my financial struggles. noone else would truly understand or give me the patience i need all the time.

just wondering if anyone else has similar issues. thanks.

[Rohag]

Hello, Rhode Island Red! Though I am not a compulsive spender, financial dealings frequently trigger me. I handle them as little as possible. Also, your not reading the second paragraph of your sister's email makes perfect sense to me. I'd probably print it out and give it to a trusted other to review and summarize for me.

Is it possible you could ask your therapist about getting professional financial advice for yourself? I believe some folks in the money world have experience with protecting the interests of people with mental illnesses.

i should probably learn to manage money better too!

during my last mannic episode, i blew hundreds of pounds in 1 day on amazon (seriously!)

and even when i'm not mannic... i still can't manage them- like i tried coming up with this plan... that i'll only spend 20 pounds in a week (to order stuff from amazon). but that turns in to 60, then 90, and it's like... why bother even trying to figure it out?