apparently all i do is play games with my husband, he's so sick of me because i cant stop getting upset about him texting other women, i dont trust him because of his lies to me before. This is just a stupid post. I feel like doing it. He told me "go ahead you fn stupid old broad"...you drag us through the **** everyday, I cant take you anymore.....He believes I will never follow through, its just a game to him.....I'mgoing to be so embarased I will probably not visit this site again. I'm so tempted to leave everything behind. I cause everyone pain everyday. I never should have been a mother. I am useless. I make things worse everyday. I cry and he has his fist in my face and tells me he wishes he could do something to me, he's on a peace bond so he would have to really snap to follow through with his wishes, but what he is doing is driving me to take care of his problem "ME" myself. I hate what I'm saying. I cant help anyone...he is someone I rely on to help me, I'm so stupid...

[Leed]

Honey he is ABUSING YOU! What in the heck is going on? He keeps texting women, and of COURSE you don't like it! What woman would? Of course it makes you angry. And he keeps doing it! And you ask him to stop and he calls you horrible names? Thats abuse!!! Then he goes ahead and THREATENS YOU with physical abuse??

What kind of "man" is he? Has he ever hit you? Or does he just threaten you? Honey, you need to get out of there.

Do you think, by chance, that marital counseling would help? From the sounds of him, I really doubt it because he sounds like the kind of man who thinks he's right about everything. I doubt he would listen to any counselor, but it's worth asking him about. Who knows what he might say. But ask him. See if he'd go. If he will, then make an appointment ASAP.

If he won't, then you should get OUT of there as soon as you can! He's abusing you. And you have children, right? Take those kids, and run. And make SURE you file papers in court for CHILD SUPPORT. He's got to help pay for those kids!! I hope you have somewhere to go --- perhaps your parents, or friends -- just somewhere until you get on your feet. Yes, it will be difficult. But you CAN'T bring up those kids around him or they will think that talking to women like that is acceptable !! They will think that ABUSE is acceptable and of course it's NOT. Don't bring your kids up in that environment! Children learn what they live!

Best of luck sweetie, and God bless. keep me posted, will you please! I really care. Hugs, Lee

[reader522]

I am new to this forum but I don't think you should leave this site. If it gives you just a little bit of comfort then stick with it. Your husband does not seem to understand that you need people to talk/vent to. He also does not seem to understand what he is doing to you. Keep your head up Kelly and get outside profesional help if you feel that is what you need.

[doodlefrog]

I agree with Leed, he is abusing you. It is really sad that the people who we should be able to rely on, the ones who should be supporting us, sometimes take advantage of our vulnerable state instead.

I haven't been a member of this site for very long. I thought I was the only one going thru some of these situations, but browsing through the posts, I see now that I'm not.

My husband has had the habit of becoming distant, cold, and very critical of me when he has found a new female "friend" to text, call, etc. If I ever said anything about it, it was always my fault- I'm too sensitive, too insecure, too jealous, crazy, I won't let him have any friends, whatever. He's convinced me over the years that a LOT of things were my fault. I am finally seeing that it's just not true.

Please do not let him convince you that everything is your fault. It takes two in a relationship. You do not control his actions, words, behavior- HE does. I don't know if he follows through on his threats of physical violence. Even if he doesn't, he is intimidating you, manipulating you with guilt, and abusing you with his words and his actions. You deserve better.

[adam_k]

I doubt everything in the relationship is your fault. Especially if he treats you this way. A husband should not have his fists in his wife's face and intimidate you. You right to get upset if he is texting women and cheating on you have a right to be upset. I'm sure you married him and expected it to be a monogamous relationship. You have the right to be happy and not to be intimidated by your spouse. People have disagreements and arguments, but there is a limit to what a person should do. Do you have family you can stay with when he gets like this? Do you have means to provide for yourself and children? I hope you find a way to get into a better place or find a way to reach him and tell him you won't let him intimidate you.