So sad and lonely...

I am so sad and lonely. My husband left me for another mans wife. I finally got past that and started dating again after a couple of years. But I had to leave my fiance because he became this control freak with anger issues and threatened me so I broke it off now I miss the sweet caring helpful him from the beginning of our relationship. I am just feeling totally unlovable right now.

Break ups trigger my depression like nothing else. You're not unlovable, you just had a break up. It's totally normal to miss someone.

RJ

I think I know how lonely that feels, even though you don't want that particular person there and you can remember how they used to be previously as well. Sounds familiar to me. I'm sure you are loveable. I am just sure.

I would find that even more traumatic and triggering than a "normal" break.

I know how it feels to feel unloved I feel that way myself in any relationship. I dont have many friends but I do have good ones I am divorced myself. All i can say is this you'll find someone out there who will love you hang in there and keep your head up. One thing that I am working on is not letting anyone make me feel that i am not good enough or loveable. It drains alot of energy when I allow them t do that. Are you in therapy right now?

Are you saying you have chosen to be unlovable or that you think that is how you are seen? I've read the encouragement, kind words and supportive words you've given others and that my dear does not come from one who is unlovable.

The warped mindedness(only word I can think of right now) of these two men is not your fault. I does not matter how loveable you or any other woman would've been or will be, when a man has those kind of flaws they are going to exhibit them.

Of course you miss the "good him". It is the love in you loving being loved that causes you to miss "the good him".

I can't speak for you but I've got a lot of love to give and I miss being able to share it with someone who truly loves me and treats me the way my heart aches for. I can go for periods and not feel that longing but it always resurfaces.

Honestly, it is in that resurface time that I realize my heart that I had to allow to be turn to stone can be revived and that there IS hope for
me to be loved as I want to be loved.

You are lovable.