Inner child

Ok....I recently got back from seeing my T, this was our second meeting. We discussed goals for the week and why I do some of things I do. Most of my conversation will focus on my parents in one way or another and my T said, 'Well, what can the Adult 'Frozen' do to help the child 'Frozen'. I had to sit and think a minute, strangly, I found the thought humorous but she was serious. Then she started to bring up the things I just said and I began to cry. Could all my issues be from a hurt inner child???

It seems too simple! I'm just confused right now!!!

((((hugs))))

I'm sorry to hear that you are so confused and upset about things .... dealing with issues that involve how you're feeling towards your parents can be really hard to understand sometimes. Is it something they're doing? Is it something that you're doing, or not doing? Or saying, or not saying? There are so many variables .... but ultimately it comes down to what YOU feel. You can't control what other people do (or have done) but you can control what you can do, and how you want to deal with it. Something is telling me that yes you are trying to deal with this "inner child", the question is what is it trying to say? Are you in need of comfort? Support? ... don't dismiss it, listen to what it has to say.

I hope this has helped..... feel free to pm me anytime if you want to talk.

take good care,
Jacq

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take care ((((((((((( frozen72)))))))))

i've never been big on the "inner child" term.......BUT, i do know that things that did or didn't happen when we were small children impact our adult lives on a daily basis.

can you sit down and list some of the things that you got when you were small and some that you wished you had gotten? take as long as you'd like on the list. it might take a few minutes or days.......put it away and read it to yourself later.....i bet some things will really jump out at you.........

we're always here to listen. xoxox pat

Thanks all!! You know, I did have a really crappy childhood but who doesn't? But I do know, throughout the day I feel as if my dad and/or my mom are living inside my head and I'm actually becoming the worst combination of them both (I'm sure there are lots that feel this way). The thing is, it's all the things I hated. I get so angry with myself because I want the dysfunction(sp) to end here, I want to stop all these bad cycles and I'm not. I can objectively see myself and my behaviors and understand which are bad and which are good but I can't get up or put things into action. I'm just stuck in a big tar pit, struggling for my life but I don't know how to get someone nearby to help me. I yearn for a friend or SUPPORTIVE family member to visit or support me.

Sheesh, now I'm rambling and not making sense. Gosh, it's frustrating, I never seem to be able to communicate what I 'need' to say.

(thanks for listening!)

John Bradshaw has an excellent book

Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child

How Your Wounded Inner Child Contaminates Your Life

Here is an excerpt.

http://www.spiritsite.com/writing/johbra/part5.shtml