[roxiannabell]

So I left High school after metriculating with rather average mark in 2007, got a job few days later and stared working.in 2009 i had saved enough money to do some of my grade 12 subjects over via corrospondence ( i could not go to night school becuse only the "previously disadvantaged' can go. determinded to go to university and study medicine ( we dont really have colleges here) rewrote the exams 3 times and have the marks to get in but because im dyslecxic and dont fall into the category of "previosly disadvantaged" I have been regected from 6 unversities!!!!!!i dont see the point anymore of trying to do anything. this is a life long dream that i have worked so very hard to achieve for nothing. i sound so very rasist, im not but why must i be pnished for something i didnt do/ something my pairent fought against? im stuck doing dead end jobs i really hate and make me feel like a 3rd class human. its not fair what did i do to desrve this? my life has gone by while i have been working to achieve my goal. my husband said i should just find a new goal but how can i when for as long as i can remember this is all iv wanted. he is normaly kind of supportive of me but said that he cant for this because its a "pipe dream'!He also said that he was glad that i did not get in because i can now consentraye on 'real things'. How can he say that? i read medical text books in my free time so that i would not fall behind. when everyone i know was living and enjoying life i was studing for sweet nothing. iv looked on the internet to try and see if there is a way for me to study medicine corrosondence but i could not find anything. there must be a way surely? this cant be it can it? Please someone help me. im so lost right now i feel as if iv lost my identity. please be nice and not say mean things im really hurting alot right now.

[Sam2]

The thought of saying mean things to you never even crossed my mind. Getting into college can be a stressful, ego smashing experience. Depending on the field you want to study, your past performance, whether you are in state or out of state and any recommendations from former teachers are all thrown into the acceptance pool along with your GPA. Getting into a college can be scary, frustrating and ego smashing.

I went back to school 11 years after I graduated from high school. My GPA wasn't that good because at the time I was so depressed, I didn't care about much of anything. First, I went to a community college to raise my GPA. After that I transfered to a private college. From there, I started applying to several veterinary colleges. What I was told later by one of the teachers in the vet school was that there are things that weigh more than your GPA. Most colleges want their students to do well and graduate, because it makes the school look good. They choose the students they feel have the best chance at graduating. They look at other things you were dealing with in your personal life during the time you were taking classes. Keeping a decent GPA while having to work at the same time, or having a family you are supporting.

Apply to as many colleges as you can. if you don't get into a college, find out why, and try to rectify whatever the accepting commitee didn't like. Keep applying. During both my undergraduate and vet school, there were several students who had applied several times before they were accepted. Just because you don't fit what a college wants this semester, you might fit in the following semester. Don't give up on your dreams. sometimes it takes patience and multiple tries to get where you are going, but don't give up.

The same goes for life. Don't judge yourself so harshly. Whether or not you are accepted by colleges has no bearing on who you are as a person.

Since you have applied to colleges where you are, you can look into colleges in Mexico, the caribion or other areas. Often times they will take students who don't have the best G.P.A.s. They aren't bad schools. I had people in my class that had transfered from those areas and were just as good as the students who got their education in the states. Don't listen to people who tell you that you can't do what you want. If you put the work in, you will succeed.

Sam2

[roxiannabell]

Thank you so much. Do you know of correspondence schools that take people that are not is the US? Maybe that would be my best shot, I phoned some of the places today to find out exactly why I next got in and the general answers are; " your mothers illness during your grade 12 year is just an excuse for bad marks" ( my mom was going for kemo at the time so I got a after school job to try and help pay the bills, I also missed a lot of school because the only hospital she could go to was 2 hours away so I used to go with her so that she would feel a bit safer on the train) ( after all we went through to help her she gave up and died) A lady at the department of higher education said that my chances of getting in where made even lower because 1. both my pairents are dead and the universities don't like taking "risky students" 2. I never went to private school and 3. My lack of " AA"( affirmative action) status . So as far as South African schools go my chances are very low. So depressing. Maybe everyone is right maybe I am chasing a pipe dream. Maybe I am not meant to do this. But what now??