[WetheKings]

I have no idea how to. I can't get over my borderline personality disorder, and I cannot figure out how to cope with it. The BPD forum hasn't given me any answers or ideas.
The mood swings are ridiculous.
My mom said something to me that for some reason my brain took the wrong way and now I'm just sitting here sobbing uncontrollably and I have no idea why and I don't know how to stop it and I just feel totally out of control when it comes to my emotions and the things I say and the way I interpret things and I'm so sick of not being able to deal with stress and none of my meds work and when I tried a DBT group and they just told me to learn how to do it and when I asked how they looked at me like I was a complete idiot and wouldn't give me any tips and when I ask anybody that has this disorder they just won't tell me what I'm supposed to do and I'm just completely at a loss as to what I'm supposed to do.

[learningursula]

If I was you I would get on the computer and do a lot of studying on the condition you have you'd be surpised at how much it can help you out. That's what I did for my add and my bi-polar,and a couple of other things like PTSD!!don't stop at one article read a few!! good luck.

[wadingthruemotions]

You can also look up info on this site for the blogs, conditions, etc. There is some good info here. That is how I found the forums, by looking up info and finding this site. Best one I have found so far.

Give therapy a good try before you say it doesn't work for you. On that note, therapy doesn't work for everyone as I am aware of personally but that is my opinion and fact for me, not saying you.

If you find you don't mesh well with the DBT group you are in, I do suggest shopping for a good therapist that specializes in this kind of therapy if you can find one. That is key. Not all therapists are good with this type of group and this disorder for that matter.

Talk to those of us here. I listen real well so I am told. I do not have it all together obviously by some of my posts, etc. But I do have my moments and I have knowledge at least of this disorder and all it has to offer us - if you want to call it that.

Good luck and hang in there if you can.

[WetheKings]

Originally Posted by learningursula

If I was you I would get on the computer and do a lot of studying on the condition you have you'd be surpised at how much it can help you out. That's what I did for my add and my bi-polar,and a couple of other things like PTSD!!don't stop at one article read a few!! good luck.

I've looked up so much about it. I understand therapy will help, every website tells me that. I'm seeing a therapist, but it's like I have a mental block that won't let me get past the superficial issues and I don't trust her enough to talk about the stuff that really has caused my bpd. I'm working on my bipolar, and it is getting better, but it's really the bpd that's wrecking my life.

Hi,
I totally understand where your coming from.
I don't know if you have insurance.
But I would keep trying to find a real good therapist
that deals with BPD.
Try to see if there are any therapy groups so you can
share what your going through.
You could start by doing an internet search
Type in the search engine your question and don't forget
to add your city.
Or try calling your local Crisis line and ask for help.
I myself don't place much stock in DBT.
I don't know how old your are but if your a teen
try looking up some local or national hotlines for help.
That's another option.
Some therapist will allow you to pay a sliding scale.
You may be eligible to get Medicaid to help with mental health
treatment.
Don't give up please.
If I can keep trying then so can you.
Your Mom hit the nail on the head with your BPD.
Give her a big hug ok?
Lets see........(thinking here)
If I can be any help let me know.
I search the internet for help all the time.
That's it for now.
Your recovery is important.
Just keep finding that help.

[Sistah]

Originally Posted by WetheKings

I have no idea how to. I can't get over my borderline personality disorder, and I cannot figure out how to cope with it. The BPD forum hasn't given me any answers or ideas.
The mood swings are ridiculous.
My mom said something to me that for some reason my brain took the wrong way and now I'm just sitting here sobbing uncontrollably and I have no idea why and I don't know how to stop it and I just feel totally out of control when it comes to my emotions and the things I say and the way I interpret things and I'm so sick of not being able to deal with stress and none of my meds work and when I tried a DBT group and they just told me to learn how to do it and when I asked how they looked at me like I was a complete idiot and wouldn't give me any tips and when I ask anybody that has this disorder they just won't tell me what I'm supposed to do and I'm just completely at a loss as to what I'm supposed to do.

I hope that you're not trying to deal with your problems on your own, other than this forum. Continue to look for a good therapist and even try another DBT group. What I found really helpful was taking several hours to look at what other people on this site have written about what you are going through. Look at the different threads by typing in certain words in the search box: bipolar, emotions, DPT, borderline PD, ect. It has really helped me to know that others are dealing with EXACTLY what I'm dealing with. Good luck, God bless you, and peace be with it.

[shortandcute]

I'm sorry you're going through all that right now. BPD is not an easy thing to deal with, and it can be so overwhelming! The OP's all seem to have some good advice here. There are a couple of websites I like to go on to that have some worksheets that are pretty helpful:
www.psychologytools.org
www.getselfhelp.co.uk
I'm not sure if they have anything specific to BPD, but they have worksheets that help you keep track of your moods, help you figure out a plan for yourself, etc. And they're not all complicated, either.