accepting the pain?

I've been in a rough spot lately. I've been feeling more depressed than usual and I've been feeling really empty and alone. I keep writing things like "I can't stand the pain" or "It just hurts so much."

I had a thought today (lots of time for thinking while I'm laminating teaching materials all day in the office..). Maybe I just have to accept the fact I'm in pain? How do I go about doing that? I do feel a little bit lighter today after thinking about accepting the pain. I really want to be happy and it upsets me that I'm not there yet. But maybe I can't help it at the moment and I should just accept the position I'm in right now. easier said than done probably >_<

Hi hezaa

I think thats a good point to be at. Before you can get unstuck it helps to understand what got you where you are. If you cant understand why you got there, at least accepting you are there is a good first step. Then you can allow yourself to explore any reasons for it. Its ok to be where you are. It doesnt mean anything negative about you. It means accepting you are real and have feelings. Feelings can hurt but feelings can be good to. Its ok to know that you hurt and want to feel better.