[Vossie42]

I'm not much on keeping a clean house. I have other things to do. I would have to spend at least two hours each day to keep my apartment clean. As it is, it's not something you would see on a reality TV show. It could use some dusting. I could wipe some fingerprints off stuff. It is very cluttered. But that's all.

I would like it to be clean, organized and picture perfect, but I'm not willing to put forth the effort. I'm pretty okay with it but other people are not. They criticize me for it and will not come over to my apartment. Even my mom doesn't want to visit me. People complain of the animal smell. (I have a parrot.) My apartment does have a bit of a pet store smell to it sometimes, but how is that offensive? And these people call themselves animal lovers!

Okay, so the messy housekeeping is probably a symptom of my depression. But why do people care so much about that? How would they feel if I told them to lose weight or wear makeup because their appearance was offensive to me?

I don't date because I don't want to expose myself to criticism about my housekeeping skills. That and I have no libido, so what's the point?

Sigh. It's a struggle just to take a shower sometimes.

[Miswimmy1]

I'm sorry things are so tough right now (((hugsss))))

[optimize990h]

I am a PC member who commiserates with you. You are not alone. That was a calm rant.

[Vossie42]

It isn't just right now but always. All the same, thanks for your support, Miswimmy1!

[Vossie42]

LOL! What really got me was when a fellow I was dating came over and said that he was upset that I didn't make any effort to clean up my place before he came over. He felt it showed disrespect and lack of interest toward him. I told him that I had spent two hours frantically cleaning the place and that it was sparkling compared to before. He said "Oops." And that ended the date and I never saw him again. Granted, that was a little extreme. I even laughed at his hyperbole that the state of my apartment showed disrespect toward him. That was a doozy!

[Lab_Rat]

When I'm feeling crummy, nothing gets done. Other days I see what I can do in 15 min. You'd be surprised what you can do in 15 min. Then later in the day I'll set the timer again. Sorry people aren't wanting to come over.

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[winter4me]

It is funny, in a way, but I Know when I was growing up fewer houses were all clean and sparkle and coordinated than I see today --- I loved the early Woody Allen movies for the fact that the plates didn't all match, nor did the furniture, and things are just lying about...it seemed more real to me. I grew up in one of the few "spotless" houses in my neighborhood, and always felt more comfortable in the others. What looks nice and clean, I learned, is not always so---it is just the facade. Clean and comfy, not too much, is nice, but boy, I find it hard to maintain just the basics...and I have learned to feel embarrassed about myself etc...

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by Vossie42

LOL! What really got me was when a fellow I was dating came over and said that he was upset that I didn't make any effort to clean up my place before he came over. He felt it showed disrespect and lack of interest toward him. I told him that I had spent two hours frantically cleaning the place and that it was sparkling compared to before. He said "Oops." And that ended the date and I never saw him again. Granted, that was a little extreme. I even laughed at his hyperbole that the state of my apartment showed disrespect toward him. That was a doozy!

I LOVE THIS STORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! proves some people think it is all about them and how they think things "should" be.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by Lab_Rat

When I'm feeling crummy, nothing gets done. Other days I see what I can do in 15 min. You'd be surprised what you can do in 15 min. Then later in the day I'll set the timer again. Sorry people aren't wanting to come over.

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I can relate to this answer, for sure!

[anneo59]

I can really relate to all this, but I do feel better when I get something done. I try to time myself, and limit myself, so it's not so overwhelming. Seems to help. The people that live with me and those that come by do seem to notice and appreciate. I believe they associate the messiness/cleanliness of the house with my mood and mental health! Don't really have any of the hoarder ****-type probs though, when I'm on a tear, away it goes. Just often don't get that way enuff, I guess. Can sure relate! The best!

[Vossie42]

It doesn't help that I don't even have 5 feet of counter space in my kitchen. Yet my bedroom is huge and I don't use all of it. Hmm, maybe I should do some rearranging....

I can relate to this as well. I get the rude comments as well about my messy room, not taking showers, and not combing my hair. Normally I just ignore the rude comments. Like someone said earlier I do feel a lot better when get something done. Just making my bed alone is a huge accomplishment for me and I makes me feel like like I did something that day.

I hope things get better for you. Your're not alone.