how to get over my extreme pessimism?

Am a very pessimist person and it's affecting me deeply, I can't seem to see anything positive in the future and of course I hate my life. It's also driving ppl away from me and they say that to my face I guess no one wants to be around so much negative energy.
what should I do? if you have any personal experience on getting over pessimism please share.
It's really a big issue for me

are you POSITIVE that you are pessimistic?

Hi.
Sometimes if we are depressed, everything looks bleak. Its true that people tend to turn away from others who see the negative in everything. Emotions are contagious, and they don't want to be dragged down into a bad mood.

Think of being at a grocery store. If the checkout person is in an up mood, it makes you feel better. If they are grumpy and look like they would prefer to be anywhere but there, it rubs off on you.

The best way I know how to change your outlook is to try and remember that when you are dealing with people, keep whatever negative thoughts you have to yourself. Smile, even if you don't feel like it. There is a time and place to let out your negative feelings, this forum being one. I think you will find that if you put forth a positive outlook, even if you don't feel that way, people will again gravitate to you. Its not easy, that isn't what I'm saying, but there is a link between what you do and the way people treat you. Sometimes it even changes your attitude. You start to believe your own "faked" optimism.

Sam2

Hello, Hoyam. I have not gotten over pessimism, but I have had some success in not broadcasting my pessimism. I think I've done this primarily through

• developing and acting out a 'public persona,'
• employing humor,
• self-censoring my speech, and
• withdrawing from social situations when necessary.

I'm not advocating any of the above. It's what I do to survive.

90% of life is your outlook. I am not really a pessimist, I consider myself a realist. Nothing is ever perfect, and nothing is ever as bad as it could be. It can always be better just as it can always be worse. Once you accept that - the next step is trying to see the good in life and have a better outlook.

I was heartbroken and going insane over a girl for well over a year. It was bad. I SI'ed, I didn't speak to anyone. I walked around like a zombie. Finally, one more time I tried to contact her. We actually got back together, and not long after she decided she didn't want me anymore. I asked her about it, and she told me it was over for good. I went to bed crying. Woke up with a whole new attitude. I just decided life wasn't so bad, and I literally underwent a change that happened overnight. I was really elated for a while. Always joking and happy. It took a couple of months and I came back down to earth. Now things aren't wonderful, but they aren't horrible either.

It's all about the outlook. And yes, sometimes it can be easy to just snap your fingers and change your outlook. You just have to ask yourself, is it worth it to have the attitude you have right now? If it isn't, only you can change it.