Depression, grief or both

Ever since my mom died I haven't been what I call my new normal. I cry every single day when I think about her. I have a hard time even getting out of bed to go to work and have called in sick on days when I am perfectly well physically but just couldn't handle another day with a bunch of yahoos who don't give a darn about anyone. I can't concentrate on my work and when I do I mess things up. This morning I spent over an hour on one project...didn't do intermittent saves...and lost the whole thing when the program crashed. I don't want to be at home because I get no comfort there. My daughter is grieving too and I can't handle it. I feel like I am tumbling into a bottomless pit and that I will never hit the ground. i just want someone to hold me so I can let it all out and have that person to really understand and give me the sympathy (in person) that I need so desperately. Everyone here has been great. I'm not getting it IRL.

I am so sorry for your loss. She must have been a wonderful person and grandmother

Your question is a good one. Everyone experiences grief differently and there is no time limit. At the same time people in grief do sink into depression. It would probably be called situational depression unless you have a strong history of clinical depression. Situational depression would usually be handled through therapy rather then meds. Meds is a possibility but I suggest a grief therapist first.

I bet your daughter has the same need to be held. She can be as much a support to you as you to her.

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I agree with Michanne about the grief turning to depression. I did the same when my mom died but I was already predisposed to it anyway. I don't know if you have done this and been refused but have asked someone to give a hug or to just hold you for a while. My husband was at a loss of how to help me, so when he asked one day what he could do, I told him to just hold me. If you are not married you could ask a friend as Michanned suggested I'm sure your daughter needs it too.

It will take a while to work through the stages of grief. You might want to see a therapist to help you through this so you want feel so alone.

When my mother passed away I literally took to my my bed. I grieved terribly for ten long, pretty much wasted years. She was my everything, I am an only child and I was lost without her. Please accept my deepest sympathy.