Any other college students out there riding the struggle bus?

College has been awful lately, I thought this was supposed to be the best years of my life but so far they seem like the worst. I got all As last year but now I'm basically failing. I keep missing class and not turning in homework. I have a job but that just bums me out more because it's a crappy minimum wage job. I feel like i'm always worried about money, or my grades, or about not having friends. I only have a few good friends and i'm starting to get annoyed with all of them so i'm yelling at them and I am ruining the few relationships I have. I feel so much pressure to join clubs and get involved on campus but at the same time it's so hard for me to leave my apartment. I just want to be alone. I don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life and I feel like I need to know like right now. I'm afraid I won't get a job after college because my GPA won't be high and I don't have a lot of extracurricular activities or references. I'm only a sophomore and everyone says I have time but I don't see any hope for the future, I only see things getting worse. Is there anyone out there in college who is having similar feelings? or who has been through a similar situation and has any advice?

Sorry this was so long, I just had to vent.

Well first off I'd maybe try to quit yelling at your few good friends, and ruining relationships you have with them..is there a specific reason you're doing that? Also do you get college loans...is the job nessisary? If you don't 'need' the job maybe it would be a good idea to let it go and focus on college....seems like maybe you're just putting too much on your plate and its stressing you out which is effecting your grades, and relationships.

No ones forcing you to join clubs or get involved on campus...if you feel those would be good things to do...take it slow, and maybe try out going to like one club see how that goes and go from there.

Hello, Erikank. I know this has come up before, but have you been able to talk to a counselor or doctor about what's going on? Your introductory post is full of the kinds of symptoms that, if they go on long enough, would make me think it wise to get screened for depression and for those conditions (thyroid problems, anemia, etc.) that can mimic depression.

And how's your sleep?

Hello erikank, unfortunately Im going through the same things. Im in my second year of college and its been a living hell for me. I too got excellent grades in my first year then come second, I totally F*cked up. I have major depression and lately its been hard to just get out of bed. I get wanting to be alone, yelling at your friends, feeling the pressure to be more active in school. Sadly I can not tell you how to make things easier than maybe see a therapist to talk out your frustrations. Im here if you want to talk. Hope things get a little brighter!

I'm in my second college (though it's not classed as a college as it's not government funded) because after completing a two year course at a private college and failing maths twice there, I'd spent months trying to find work and getting nowhere. End result was the job centre lobbing me in the place where all the jobless young people end up. I've not got any friends there, all I want is to be left alone there and getting up to go there is a real struggle. Because I fear I may fail again and never get a job. Just end up stuck in this vicious cycle of being nowhere.

Of course British colleges are different from other colleges. My only advice is, seek help and don't let them eat you alive. Speak up... Don't suffer in silence.

I've yet to talk to anyone mostly because I feel uncomfortable doing so, it's much easier for me to express my feelings through an anonymous online post. My sleep isn't great I can't fall asleep at night so I end up sleeping during the day.Thank you for your reply.

Sounds like we're in the same boat. I'm a junior in college and have the crappiest grades I've ever had in my life. I have only a few friends here, am worried how I will survive college, and even if I do, worried if I can get a job.

It's not fun :/

I recently graduated in July, and let me tell you, it was hell. I have bipolar and it was in remission when I started college so first bit I did well. Got manic, made the deans list. Then crashed. I flunked 2 semesters, was hospitalized and took a medical withdrawal for a year and a half. Went back, did ok fall semester, spring semester went downhill again, hospitalized over spring break, only was able to finish the semester cause my mom moved in with me and took control of my life. Had to make up some credits over summer semester, but finally I was finished! These were not the best years of my life. I had friends pre-hospitalization at my job, but lost them all when I took my time off and moved. I tried to join clubs but I never felt welcome. My degrees in theatre so I was somewhat involved, but not to the degree that everyone else was or that I should have been for successful completion of my program.

If your minds not in it now, I'd suggest taking a break, getting your brain sorted out, and then going back when you feel ready. It may take time.

I'm in college right now and I'm on academic probation for too low of a GPA, and I think my GPA might be too low again this semester because I'm falling into the same habits: skipping class, not doing assignments, sleeping too much... I have no extracurricular activities at all, nor did I have any in high school either. I don't have a job because I'm too socially anxious about the job interview and interacting with people. And I have one friend but I'm getting annoyed by him. So I can relate, and it truly sucks, I'm sorry.