Worst things people have said to you?

The very worst response that I ever got from my parents and my sister is that it's "All in my head". No, it isn't. The worse thing is that they never tried to understand what I was and still am going through, ugh! Even my husband has that mentality as well which sucks!

Basically, we're supposed to suck it up and stop "whining" about everything and stop being so "sensitive". Most people are very ignorant when it comes to these issues. Even worse, is that many of them just don't care about these issues at all and what we're going through. It's as if our emotions are a huge inconvenience to them.

"you're paranoid" "you're just feeling sorry for yourself" "Don't get defensive, now"

I was told last night by my aunt that she's tired of hearing about my depression and to buck up.

I think that sometimes the things that people haven't said to me are the worst...for example, I was with family yesterday for the first time in quite a while, and nobody said anything to me at all...the silence was deafening.

It's what's not said that I cannot cope with, especially if you have paranoid, borderline traits like I think i do.
In uk depression often wears a mask. As soon as that slips it is hard to get any empathy, if you get irritable, and show feelings, you are sidelined and ignored.
Is that just me?

....I think that happens alot, spacegeek1. Even before I was ever diagnosed, a lot of my family kind of knew something was not quite right. If something very important happens in our family, they won't tell me. The only way I'll find out is if it "slips out" between family members when I happen to be in the room. Even then, they're not even saying it directly to me--only each other. One example, is that one of my younger sisters recently got diagnosed with MS. I was the only one who didn't know--she contacted everyone about it except me. The only reason I found was because my stepmom and oldest sister were talking to each other, and I overheard my stepmom say something about "!!!!!'s diagnosis." I asked what diagnosis they were talking about and immediately my stepmom clamped up and turned away, and I had to ask my sis about 2 or 3 times before she would even tell me. I asked my kids if they knew about it and apparently, they've known for quite some time now.

"You're always trying to play dumb."
Another time my oldest sister was sure a friend of ours was giving her dirty looks, and thought it was because, since I was "always pouting," I was giving off the impression that I was being abused.

Shortandcute that sounds awful!
Just what I meant.

I don't listen!

Selective hearing so all the **** comments that sink in and hurt I just smile now.

Which is good because sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me.

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Im tired of living with you
Why would anyone want to be around you
You bring everyone else's day down

"You're a teenager and your hormones are just acting up. It's normal, you'll get better when your hormones calm down." ~ This little gem from my own sister, who, believe it or not, has gone through depression herself and is normally very supporting in helping me with my struggles...

You know you're ****ed when the most supportive person you have in your life says that.

Also, my mom was drunk once and we got into a big argument over something (I can't even remember what it was now) and she brought it up, saying basically that everyone was tired of hearing me whine about my issues. What the hell?? It really pissed me off because I know I try my damned hardest not to make my problems a burden on other people. So I guess asking for a little support now and then is "whining" about my "issues"...huh.

Apart from these things...the whole "starving children in Africa" thing.
That one just really grates on my nerves, I've heard it so much.

Eat your peas because kids are starving in Africa. Well ship my god damn pees to them then.

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You don't have illness or depression isn't an illness. You have mild depression. Have you always been that way. Your really hard on yourself. Or you take things too personally. Do high intense exercise so that it tires you out so you can sleep better. Calm down.

If someone said that to me, I'd be really offended.

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That depression does not exist at all and all I have to do is put a smile on my face and pull myself up by my bootstraps. Said to me by my estranged father/sperm donor and his wife when I told them I have Chronic Major Depression (and a whole lot of other stuff I thankfully never told them I had) I tried to explain how it affected my life and my daily activities or lack of activity. They said in shock...."What do you do all day, then?" I have made the conscious decision years ago to not have him or her in my life. I have also decided to not have anyone in my life who invalidates my truth or judges me or is cruel or rude to me. This can be and has been a lonely decision, but the relationships that I do form are now quality ones and not measured by quantity of relationships.

"You don't suffer REAL depression/bipolar if you don't take meds"

"you are just LUCKIER if you can cope and do things! It's not your efforts, if you were truly bipolar, you would not be able to do anything for yourself!"

"You are ignorant and unsupportive"

"you will kill yourself one day"

(and of course the whole level of insults bordering on threats for my activism lately... that is much worse that somebody telling me I will be fine when I feel like dying or disagreeing with me about chemical imbalances...)

"oh what happened? You used to be so strong"
"just find something to keep yourself busy"
"nobody likes you anymore"

being told to lower my expectations of my life is worst.
what I need is a perspective for the future, some hope. not somebody to tell me that I shouldn't expect anything to be better. that makes me want to give up.

Being laughed at.

"You're a lazy asshole"
By my own grandmother. Quite inspirational.

A good perspective, one that will serve you well.

Being told I would never work again and given long term disability at age 28.

"It's because you're lazy." "The only way to not feel depressed is to actually get up and try to work out or just do something with yourself. You're not truly depressed so that's all that will help." "It is easy, you just don't want to do it." ~S/o
"What are you, depressed?? Want me to take you to the head doctor???" ~mom. She was mad, so I understand, but it still stung.
"If that truly is an issue for you, if you really think what just came out of your mouth is logical, then you really need mental help. Best of luck to you." ~dad

Get a life - friends
Sadist-(stop inflicting pain to your mum by acting sad or down and keep locking up in your room and find friends rather than sitting down)
Worthless- friends
Get over it- sister
i dont know what to say ready- sister
his not normal - teacher
his crazy- cousins
be social- classmates
"stop acting like you lost everything"

very GREAT question! Thanks for asking!

Worst things people have said:
"It's all in your head"
"Life is what you make it"
"Snap out of it"
"Be happy"
"There are people worse off"

And topping the list:
Pointing out my physical flaws which I already hate myself for!!!!