Worst things people have said to you?

Second worst thing
You know, if you had sex with me you'd feel better.

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Hahaha wow, reading through these unhelpful snippets of advice amuses me so much, mostly because the person who gives me the most awful advice is myself.

When I'm depressed, I'll internally scream at myself to, "Just do something! Just be more positive, it's not that hard! Go for a walk! Maybe if you didn't eat so much trash, you wouldn't feel so bad!" Which will all eventually lead me to the conclusion that, "Wow, I really am a pointless loser." I've always been meanest to myself.

Well, pertaining to other people telling me ignorant things, it's helpful to note that I haven't told many people at all about my depression. And I'm (apparently) really good at hiding my symptoms. So I confessed to one of my close friends about how I'd been feeling, that I hadn't been diagnosed by a professional but I had most of the symptoms of major depression. His first responses: "Don't self-diagnose. Just don't, you have no idea what you're saying," before inquiring any further into why I believed I was depressed.

Then, after he thought a minute, he got this disgusted look on his face and sneered, "Hey, if you're really depressed, you shouldn't be going out and getting drunk every weekend. That's really unhealthy."

I literally stormed out of the classroom afterward.

I feel this. It's so hard to validate your own negative mental experiences when there are people actually dying and suffering elsewhere. Sigh.

The worst one I've ever been told is... "You chose to be unhappy. Just choose to be happy."

Yes because I decided I want to be depressed and I want to feel this way everyday. I want to not be able to function, to think or anything every single day. It's such a fun life. Grrr. It drives me crazy!

That is horrible! 😧

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today it was being told I was too young to have problems and need anykind of help.

I HATE THAT!!!
Not only am I anxious and depressed and tired, now I got people thinking I'm on drugs!!!!




this makes me laugh especially when they give an example...I know the intent is to add perspective but I wonder if they would still say that if there was a person standing next to them that supposedly "has it worse"....everyone actually has it the same because everyone will go through crap in thier lifetime, its how you relate to it and if your mind will let you...belittling someone's struggle is ridiculous and that's exactly what that type of "advice"is...

I think some people are stuck behind thier own eyes and only think in 1 or 2 dimensions. So instead of understanding they think they know everything and wonder why you aren't on board. It couldn't be possible that medication is not about "magic pills"



Anyway the most annoying thing I hear is, "smile, it can't be that bad"....

Frowning isn't all that bad either, its a part of life and gives a human being depth.

hmm...someone who gets it

My mum thinks I'm happy when I'm not, one day I'll be really sad and she'd be like "it was going so well." NO IT WASN'T, YOU DON'T KNOW THAT! And then when she talks to my GP she's like "oh she's seems really happy." I have a good way of hiding it.

"You'll feel better once winter is over and it warms up outside."

Right. Because the weather is to blame for me falling apart. I know some people have seasonal affective disorder - my cousin does, for example - but to suggest that just because someone is severely depressed they will feel better when winter is over is just like writing off the issue. "There! Sun's out! Problem fixed!" doesn't apply to a whole lot of us. I'm just as much of a train wreck in July as I am in January and when I tell people that (if I have the energy to respond to them in the first place), they often seem affronted, like I'm over-dramatizing my situation, or defensive, like they were just trying to help so why do I have such a bad attitude and write off their solution so quickly? Argh.

I think most people are well-meaning but don't like not being able to fix the problem. It's a helpless feeling, in a way, to want to help but have no clue how to do so, so lame solutions get offered up a lot. I'm guilty of doing it, I'm sure. But it sure is annoying when you're the one suffering and you just want to feel validated.

"It's all in your head, just start enjoying things like other people."

This one really pissed me off.

Not sure about the english expression but my family always say to me: Stop crying and Grow a set to life.
In spanish: deja de llorar y échale huevos a la vida, what means stop crying and take on life.
i would like but i cant

i want to you live.

What really bothers me is that I shared with my husband a couple of times and now when we argue, he brings up things I've said while in a vulnerable state. That really hurts. I now don't feel like I can trust him with my deepest, darkest thoughts.

"You need to get off them medications, you're completely normal."
This one really irritates me, I just feel like saying do you know what pain and suffering I go through on a daily basis and you want to take away the only things helping me to cope.

Another one,
"You just need to make some new friends."

"If you eat right and exercise you won't be depressed anymore. Medication is bad for you"
"You should be stronger than this"
"Just get out of bed it is easy"

You just don't try hard enough...
Your *** is getting flat...I had gained weight
Other people get depression and just get over it..
Just go to work and you will be fine.
Your pdoc doesn't know what he is doing...(been treating me for 10 years and I trust him implicitly...)

You don't need therapy...you just need God. Let's pray....God forgive her...

You're worthless.
You're too ugly to f***.
You're just too sensitive.
We ALL have problems...get over it.

Yeah, in Spain we say that bulls are seeing better from the wall that means that it is easiest see a problem when it is not yours.
I hate to hear "you aren't trying hard"

"You're not depressed, depressed people don't smile"

"I know a lot of people take medication, but it really bothers me you take medication for depression"

Your life must be horrific. It must be hard to just get out of bed every morning.

"i am plenty sick of nonsenses. That's life, matture an carry on"

"its just a phase.. its nothing..youre just over reacting"- my mom

"Have you tried exercise?"

Yeah. I tried it this morning. And I fell to the ground crying because of my depression.

"Have you upped your meds?"

...

"God never gives you more than you can handle."

He must think I'm Superman.

Oh, I forgot.

"Try being me for a day."

Ironically, when you stop smiling, you get the opposite.

"Depressed people at least try to be happy. You don't try, so you just want attention."

Can't win.