Worst things people have said to you?

Paralian · Jun 03, 2014, 05:56 PM

"What are you going to do, kill yourself?"

"You do want to get better, don't you?"

lizzyjb · Jun 04, 2014, 04:47 AM

"you are not trying so hard"

birdpumpkin · Jun 04, 2014, 07:57 AM

"You'll be alright..." "You have to rise above it." "Get strong."

shortandcute · Jun 04, 2014, 08:46 AM

"If you had a job, you'd be happy to get out of bed, 'cuz then you'd have something to live for."
"I know of a company who hired a boy with down's syndrome and he's able to work."
"You look like a homeless person."
"You always look like you just rolled out of bed."
"It's your fault everyone thinks I'm so controlling."
"You just want everyone to think you're losing it because you like that."
"You just don't have much self-esteem, kiddo."

emmyk · Jun 04, 2014, 09:10 AM

"You're worthless"
"Just shake it off"
"Just Calm down!! Its not that hard!"
"You need to get over it."
"Just stop taking the pills."
Oh, and from my doctor- "I don't think you're trying hard enough."

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Puffyprue · Jun 04, 2014, 09:30 AM

"no one would ever wants someone like you"

Jun 04, 2014, 02:03 PM

Just yesterday, my husband's daughter told me to just use my "willpower" to combat this nasty depression. If only it were that easy. If it was a matter of willpower, I wouldn't be depressed because I can be a very tenacious person. I told her she doesn't understand depression! Okay, its probably not the worst thing anyone has ever said to me, but it was bad (ignorant) enough.

shortandcute · Jun 05, 2014, 12:32 AM

"Well, we don't have the luxury of getting social security, we have to work for everything we get." (this was coming from a woman who's daughter is disabled, and they could've gotten-and still get=social security for her, but refuses to because social security is the devil; as a result, her daughter has gone without much needed care because they didn't have the money)

pisces22 · Jun 05, 2014, 01:04 AM

I can't remember the worst thing but today my sister who doesn't know much about what I'm going through even though she has mental issues as well, yelled "stop avoiding life" when I was laying on the couch and then later that day I came in the room and was yelling "what are you doing here? GET OUT!!!" and if hurt but I kept quiet and left the room. Later, I think she realized that it was not okay and brought me my favorite chips and cookies and was trying to play around with me but I just have no energy and felt really bad.

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waiting4 · Jun 05, 2014, 01:18 AM

"calm down! relax!"....yeah, that sucked pretty hard. Especially, with the attendant laugh when I pointed out how much it hurt and how inappropriate it was.

herethennow · Jun 05, 2014, 11:10 AM

"don't stress stress!" like no one in this world ever gets stressed and i am the lone soul who gets stressed. -_-

Chameleon33 · Jun 05, 2014, 01:51 PM

I've heard something incredibly stupid. Someone ones told me I'm too beautiful to be depressed. I mean seriously, that's one of the most stupid things I've ever heard. How can anyone be too beautiful to be depressed, so if you're good looking that means you're happy?? Well, I guess I dont even need to explain what's so stupid about that comment. And I'm not even beautiful, I don't think so.

Secretum · Jun 05, 2014, 02:13 PM

"Everyone goes through that."
"I think you read too much on the internet about mental illness and decided that you have it."
"I get depressed too sometimes. When that happens, I go do something to make myself feel better."

Ughhh, the ignorance of people!!

Jun 05, 2014, 02:52 PM

Last week, my husband told me he was tired of having to "defend" me because I haven't attended social functions for months due to the severity of my depression. I asked him if he would have to "defend" me if I was sick with cancer or undergoing chemotherapy. Talk about making me feel more depressed. My 16 year old also told me two weeks ago that all I do all day is lay around.

JustTvTroping · Jun 05, 2014, 03:15 PM

"You're just a freak!"

"No matter where you go, your past won't leave you. You know all too well that you can't go back to being that cheerful kid you used to be."

I can't completely remember what my parents said, but it was along the lines of "Deal with it."

The rest is only composed of laughter.

IchbinkeinTeufel · Jun 05, 2014, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Secretum

"Everyone goes through that."
"I think you read too much on the internet about mental illness and decided that you have it."
"I get depressed too sometimes. When that happens, I go do something to make myself feel better."

Ughhh, the ignorance of people!!

That last one, ... Jeez... reminds me of when people say "Oh, I'm a bit OCD about that." I get what they're saying, but it still irks me. I've probably said it myself, in the past, ... but then I have OCD. Hah

usered · Jun 05, 2014, 06:48 PM

"You just need a girlfriend." Because nobody in a relationship is ever depressed. What? Only slightly less annoying is the person who hijacks my depression and thinks its really all about them and how you can't handle that they have a significant other that's not you. Get over yourself. Also, when people suggest any of the ten things that any website about depression lists. Like I can't google. I try to remember they are probably trying to help, just don't know how.

waterknob1234 · Jun 05, 2014, 07:02 PM

"You are so negative, you need to just try and be happy."
"You need to learn to let things roll off your back."
Gee, I wish I could let things roll of my back

tigerlily84 · Jun 05, 2014, 07:08 PM

I haven't dated anyone in several years, and my stepmom asked if I was dating anyone. My stepmom said "God you're pathetic" and then started laughing at me.

"You're worthless."

"I predict you're going to end up just like your mother."

cookfan56 · Jun 05, 2014, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by dandylin

What really bothers me is that I shared with my husband a couple of times and now when we argue, he brings up things I've said while in a vulnerable state. That really hurts. I now don't feel like I can trust him with my deepest, darkest thoughts.

Me either. And for that reason I often want so much to leave my husband and yet I can't, because I emotionally can't handle what a divorce would do to my child.

It's the neverending conundrum. Yet he thinks that divorce is just fine for kids. It's only me who has the misgivings. So clearly I'm the one who cares more for her.

doyoutrustme · Jun 05, 2014, 09:57 PM

Sometimes I wish people would say what they think. It feels patronizing when people say they understand or care

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sunflowerseeds · Jun 05, 2014, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ToeJam

It's not those terms that get on my goat... bemusement perhaps and if anything I just nod and smile.

It's the hostility that you can get from people that don't understand and decide to stick in the knife as for whatever reason they think you're making it up.

In the UK, there is definitely a mentality amongst some of 'put up and shut up'... which is something I actually do to the best of my ability (in real life interactions that is), but at work for example, the news slipped that I had depression (was signed off of work)... and one particular nasty arse hole has been making snide comments at me left right and centre.

Came to a head about 4 weeks back when I was having a really bad day and my tolerance was low... so I exploded, told him to keep his hateful opinions to himself and what else he could do (use your imagination). Caught him totally off guard as I'm quite passive most of the time... and he went crying to my boss. My boss who knows what's going on just shrugged and said he wouldn't do anything... and essentially told him to 'put up and shut up'... which made me smile.

We haven't talked or interacted since then.

Way to go!!! I think that part of the problem some of us (those who suffer from depression) is that we don't say what needs to be said...and we don't stick up for ourselves but you did and that was great!!!

shortandcute · Jun 06, 2014, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnyfan

Last week, my husband told me he was tired of having to "defend" me because I haven't attended social functions for months due to the severity of my depression. I asked him if he would have to "defend" me if I was sick with cancer or undergoing chemotherapy. Talk about making me feel more depressed. My 16 year old also told me two weeks ago that all I do all day is lay around.

My sister has done something similar--it was a few years back. We were going to the same church at the time, and I would ride in with them. Some days, I just didn't feel up to it. Well, sometimes people would say like, "Oh, ###### didn't come with you today?" or something like that, just what people do. Apperantly, she thought the people were attacking her for not bringing me, so she would tell me, "What am I gonna tell everyone if you don't come? " so I would tell her "Tell them whatever you wanna tell 'em!" She would get really panicked because she was so worried that everyone was going to be mad at her for not forcing me to come with her, and carried on about how sad and depressed everyone was because I didn't show up, blah, blah, blah. Then, I would come back the next week and it would always turn out that it was never like. I mean, people there always seemed happy to see me, but they werent mad at my sis or ready to go off the edge because I didn't show up the week before.

Bigmike727 · Jun 06, 2014, 02:39 PM

"You're just going through some things all young adults go through"
Um, I don't think all young adults hear demons talk to them or see spirits or are paranoid or have suicidal tendencies.
"It's not only you who feels like they are losing their mind, plenty other young people like you suffer from depression"
I appreciate the attempt to comfort me, and while that is true, it honestly does not make me feel any better.

shortandcute · Jun 07, 2014, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung

That last one, ... Jeez... reminds me of when people say "Oh, I'm a bit OCD about that." I get what they're saying, but it still irks me. I've probably said it myself, in the past, ... but then I have OCD. Hah

...yeah, but when people flippantly say it like it's just some kind of joke or something, it's a bit irritating at best; I kind of feel that way when people joke around like that about being bipolar, or just decided someone else is "bipolar" when that person is just having a bad day or something........

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