With no one and nothing.

I think I've reached a point where I'm truly out of options that will help. I've been feeling intense loneliness and I think it's causing me to also feel physically sick now. Nausea and great pressure in my head...All I keep returning to is how I've failed to bring and end to my isolation, no matter how much I try to involve myself with other people. I feel so shut out it seems nearly impossible I still even exist. As if I'm not supposed to now.

It may have a lot to do with fear. How much longer can I really go on and it still be possible to thrive somehow? If it's already too late, there really is no point or hope. I have no relationships keeping me held to any belief my recover matters and I guess it's about time I stopped trying so hard and worrying about 'what if'. The worst is just about everyday now.

What else do you do when there is no one? I can't distract myself from it anymore. It's grown to be so painful remaining alone like this.

(((((mortalache)))))

I'm so sorry for your suffering and loneliness. You aren't hopeless or alone.

I'm a natural introvert and hermit, so I don't have any great suggestions.

I'm not sure whether you are looking for advice on bettering/deepening your connections with people or just going out socializing and making new friends?

Deepening your connections (I would think) would be unique to the person/individual. Therefore, the approach could differ.

If you are looking to get out and socialize more, I can suggest what other people suggested for me when a posted a thread entitled "Breaking out of my shell"...

• Volunteering at the library or animal/homeless shelter
• Meetup.com (site to help you find and meet up with people local to you with common interests)
• Join a book club (I'm a bookworm)
• Get a part-time job that interacts with the public
• Pick up a new hobby (Yoga, knitting, rock climbing, creative writting course, etc.)

Like I said, kind of lame after reading your post, but I just wanted to write you something. Your pain is obvious in your words and they hurt my heart. You aren't alone. Please, keep posting.

Hi mortlake, first of all you are not alone!! We're here for you!! And that connection you need right now......well you know that there are plenty of people on here who can completely get "where you're coming from"!!
And this bit "no matter how much I try to involve myself with other people. I feel so shut out".......well why should you (why should anyone?) make all the moves in forming those connections? It should be others as well as you trying to "bridge that gap" right?
Sure you may have to open the doors a bit to let them in, but they need to be part of that too.
So firstly you: I'm not suggesting you try to go all out/go all the way as you may have been trying to do, but do you think you could throw just a little more of you into conversations? How you're feeling, what you really think, what you really want, what you really need........?
Sometimes people might not even know that there's something/s there to understand in the first place, let alone be able to move from first base in working towards actually understanding without some real clues of what's really going on for you. I know the isolation you're feeling must make it really hard but that's sometimes (not fair I know, but....) going to need to come more from you.
So maybe just a bit more..........in letting them see you??
Socially, now that's a bit different, but maybe give yourself plenty of time for the connections to come, just because they aren't there now doesn't mean they can't be built on little by little by little...............And there are different things you can try too just as paynful said.
And you know I'm going to come to them!! If people are going absolutely nowhere to helping those connections/to "bridging that gap", then I'd say you need to be looking further for others who are going to make a bit of an effort, who are going to be interested in you, who are going to care. And they are out there, even if it just starts for now with us, you know you're not alone!! We're here for you!!
Alison

You are welcome here to make connections.

I am an introvert by nature and enjoy being alone. In the past I have had many friends and found it easy to make them. Currently though I avoid people like the plague. I do have people I talk to online on facebook and by email. That is much easier for me.

I'm sorry that your feeling so lonely and that you haven't no true connection with people to make you going on.
If it gives you some comfort I feel the same way, one of the most important things that keeps me down is the way I am in social situations. I avoid them the most I can't, but I can't keep living this way, specially I don't want to be like this I want interpersonal relations to be meaningfull, I wants friends, I want to joke and to feel free.
I'm trying this for ages, so many years, I can't live with people (I would feel very anxiuos and hate myself) and I can't live without them.
I don't know if your depression as something to do with it...in my case I realize I can't have decent friends because I'm too forgetfull, people aren't real and I'm not real...and when I don't sleep well this triplify. But in the root of everything I know I was a deeply shy girl.
So it's a mix of many factors and the mix makes them all worse and worse like a cicle. I don't know what you have tryied. I've been thinking in some kind of therapy, but at the same time I need to get back my mind.

No, this is very helpful and I appreciate your input very much. It seems I've considered so many things but still hesitate due to fear of failing more often than I want to admit (I hate this about myself). I do work part time in a retail store, and although it's helped me a lot with my social anxiety, I've yet to branch out and feel I can belong with others. Anyway, thank you . A book club sounds like something I'm at a place where I can try. And I'm always up to learning something new...

This is something I never even think about That I don't have to carry all the responsibility of establishing closer relationships, and seeking out others who will be more open to who I am is another very important point. When things don't work out I tend to blame myself entirely, which isn't the whole truth and isn't going to help me move forward with motivation to try again.

To all who have responded, thank you very much for offering your perspective and advice. I truly appreciate your kindness.

Hi,
My pets have helped me a lot when I could not deal with anyone. I do not know if this is helpful at all, but it worked for me. FYI, I am not an introvert, but I became very isolated because of depression and bad adjustment to a new environment.
Hope you feel better soon, please keep posting here. This is a great place

Some good insights.
I would also add checking to see if there is a support group that meets in your area. That way you are almost assured to find people who do truly understand and won't judge.

I went to a dual diagnosis support group for a couple of years and it was my favorite support group out of all I have been to. I think there is a new one in the town I am in now so I need to get over my social anxiety and check it out.