Sex scares me a lot...like a lot. If anybody touches anywhere on my upper thigh or lower waist I will literally scream or panic...even cry. It makes me uncomfortable to think about shoving something up there.
I have been sexually assaulted when I was a teenager, I am now in my 30's, I have had 1 man in my life and now got rid of him because he was a sex mad man.

From being a teenager I have had depression through this and have been on medication from then too.
I really think from the assault has caused me to have this problem I think now I really do need help.

I am hoping that I am not alone with this problem, really kills me everyday.

I would agree that the assault was probably the root cause of the issue. Therapy would be a great place to find out and work on it. Good luck

[Nammu]

You are not alone. As a survivor of CSA it's hard. People tend to have two reactions, become promiscuous which gets judged harshly if you are a female or want nothing to do with sex which also gets remarked on for being uptight. Either way therapy helps, try and ignore those who don't get it. My fear has gotten better but it doesn't help when ignorant people make thoughtless jokes.

[likewater]

You aren't alone. Sex is really complicated and any type of abuse or assault makes it very, confusing /scary. Therapy can help tremendously and then having a partner that is loving and understanding and loves you with or without sex helps. May angels surround you.

[ToeJam]

Might sound strange coming from a married guy who has been with the same woman for near 15years… but sex scares the hell out of me also. My fear stems from childhood operations, the ridicule that came with that and other factors which I’d rather not talk about.

It’s coming to a point now where I’m going to have to bite the bullet as the wife’s clock is ticking and she really wants at least 1 child.

I’ve broached the topic reluctantly with my T (relationships are her speciality and she pushed that conversation), but it’s been put on the back burner for now till we address other pressing issues. I know those sessions are going to be joint (wife will be there), so kinda bricking it lol.

For you it could be worthwhile talking to your T (if you have one)… but end of the day relationships do not have, nor need to be sex based (we have stayed strong regardless of my shortcomings)… companionship is the glue that binds.

[Pierro]

Being sexually assaulted as a teenager must have been horrific for you. Its stopping you from moving on with your life. Would you be ready for therapy. I mean mentally ready. Best wishes.

[Stronger]

You are certainly not alone, my dear! I feel the exact same way. I was also sexually abused as a kid. Sex scares me. Even seeing sex on tv gives me hypervigilance. It's horrible.

Originally Posted by ladygunn3r

Sex scares me a lot...like a lot. If anybody touches anywhere on my upper thigh or lower waist I will literally scream or panic...even cry. It makes me uncomfortable to think about shoving something up there.
I have been sexually assaulted when I was a teenager, I am now in my 30's, I have had 1 man in my life and now got rid of him because he was a sex mad man.

From being a teenager I have had depression through this and have been on medication from then too.
I really think from the assault has caused me to have this problem I think now I really do need help.

I am hoping that I am not alone with this problem, really kills me everyday.

That sounds absolutely terrible and just an awful thing to be going through . My heart is with you . Many hugs times 10.

You have experienced one of lifes worst terrors. You are continuing to suffer from it.

I am not a shrink, nor have I suffered like you have - but I would have to assume that your reaction would be very normal. I hope you find someone that someday you can fully trust. Someone who makes you feel safe and warm and loved. The way you should feel.

Gods blessings to you.

[Idiot17]

As you see your not alone. i'm paranoid as well for similar reason.
Hope you can work through it.
Good luck.

Thank you for so many replies, i feel a little better knowing that people are out there to talk to, i have been in contact with the Sexual assault referral centre and have a appointment next week, so i am hoping this is the first step to getting a better life.

[Lobster Hands]

I'm a guy so maybe it's not the exact same with us...I was sexually abused as a kid by my neighbor. And my older brother was sexually abused by a babysitter.

It makes me completely scared of everything sexual all the time (except when I'm manic...and then I become hyper sexual). I hate it and it's not fair.

My brother on the other hand is the complete opposite. He's told me that he's had way to many girlfriends and....basically he's in therapy and it all stems from being sexually abused as a kid.

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[littlemiss44]

That is horrible what happened to you hunny. You are definitely not alone. I was sexually abused by my brother. And to top it off when my parents found out I got in trouble and was told it was non sense. Shows you how ****ed up my childhood was. Anyways I've ALWAYS had trouble with sex and intimacy. There are certain areas that I cannot be touched in or I get very jittery and I have to stop having sex with my partner. Its been hard to deal with for many reasons but most of all something was taken away from me...and I can never get it back. My right to really have a healthy sex life. I've talked with my therapist about it and it does help. I really feel bad for you. I'm hoping you'll find some healing thru this upcoming appt thru the sexual assault referral. Just like some of the others have said...good relationships are NOT based on sex. It's about two people who genuinely love eachother. Feel free to pm me as I'd be happy to be a support for you. You'll find great relief from therapy. I know I did. Hugs

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[jadeprincess01]

sex also scares me, having ED, I have performance or stage fright, I dread thinking about sex with someone I fear it will not work, I fear the rejection. so when I get hints of their is a possible of sex that night I really dread going out.