[PeaceKeeper93]

I am so angry and depressed. My dad has his own business, and I have no social life at the current moment. I don't have any friends and the people I do know are people that are extremely christian to the point where it's suffocating, and I can't hang around that, cause I am free spirited. I live a very lonely life, and that is why I am trying to get a job and I am set to go to college in the fall. But...my dad has these workers and I took a liking to the one. He was alot of fun! He brought so much joy in my life, and I wasn't depressed. I felt that he lifted my depression. This guy named Mike. Mike and I were starting to get close but we remained friends. We are just platonic friends, but my dad saw that we would text each other and such. Maybe Mike said some things? I am not sure, but now out of nowhere my dad doesn't want to use him for work. My dad said "I am no longer using Mike, I don't even want him at the house" I could understand if Mike messed up a construction job my dad had, but he doesn't even want him at the house? Makes me think it's because he doesn't Mike around me.

I am not a stupid girl, I know where my boundaries are. Thus why I am just platonic friends with Mike. But my dad did this in the past. He used Mike back in the summer and when Mike and I would talk he would stop using him on jobs and get other guys. It was annoying, cause I would fall into a depression, cause I looked forward to seeing Mike. Cause mike really filled my life with happiness, and my dad is taking that away from me. I know I can hang out with Mike without my dad, but I still live with my dad and I would be afraid if my dad found out he would get really mad, even though I will be 21 in a couple of months.

But now I am depressed more than ever. I was having a good time with Mike always coming here to the house, and now my dad is taking that away from me. Knowing that I have always had depression and that I don't relate to anyone. My dad doesn't care, and is acting like an asshole. I hate him, cause now I am in a deep dark place again, cause I have nobody around me I can relate too like Mike. So what should I do? Or if you have any thoughts please share! Thank you.

[Jess113]

Hi, and sorry this is happening to you...
I think that you shouldn't let your dad's feelings (like anger) get in the way of Your happiness. You're an adult; you can see who you wish. And it's a great thing that you found somebody that can make you feel better.
Is moving out a possibility? Then you won't have to feel so restricted because you won't be "under daddy's roof".
Best of luck to you..
Much love..

[PeaceKeeper93]

Originally Posted by Jess113

Hi, and sorry this is happening to you...
I think that you shouldn't let your dad's feelings (like anger) get in the way of Your happiness. You're an adult; you can see who you wish. And it's a great thing that you found somebody that can make you feel better.
Is moving out a possibility? Then you won't have to feel so restricted because you won't be "under daddy's roof".
Best of luck to you..
Much love..

Thank you so much! I appreciate your kindness. I can move out, but it would just take a long time, cause I would have to save up for an apartment. I don't even have a car, and I know I have to work for that. I am trying to get a job, but I know I shouldn't let my dad get in the way of my happiness, but I am cause I know where my bread is buttered, and even if I had Mike here I am afraid that my dad will kick me out or something, and I have absolutely nowhere to go. I have to respect my dad's wishes and that is to not have Mike around and I think that is what is making me so upset. I am stuck, and now I am a severe depression cause I guess I can't see Mike anymore, when he lifted my spirits. It just really sucks cause there is no way around it unless my dad uses him for jobs again, is my only hope. I am just so angry and depressed, but thank you for your kind words, and I appreciate it alot.

[Jess113]

Of course
And I understand working towards things. I don't have a car and won't get my license back until October, and that makes it difficult to get a job. I can't talk to my boyfriend while I'm on probation (daddy issues as well) and he was the only person that could lift me up and make me feel happy and whole. So, believe me when I say I totally understand why you're depressed about this.
I just keep having to tell myself that when I get off probation, get a job, get a car and a new place to live and I can talk to my biggest supporter again, then all will be well. It will take time and patience on my part, but telling myself that I can work towards it, then everything will be okay again.
Good luck!!

[Idiot17]

I have no advice, just letting you know you're not alone in having a controlling father and the like.... (((((hugs)))))

[PeaceKeeper93]

Originally Posted by Jess113

Of course
And I understand working towards things. I don't have a car and won't get my license back until October, and that makes it difficult to get a job. I can't talk to my boyfriend while I'm on probation (daddy issues as well) and he was the only person that could lift me up and make me feel happy and whole. So, believe me when I say I totally understand why you're depressed about this.
I just keep having to tell myself that when I get off probation, get a job, get a car and a new place to live and I can talk to my biggest supporter again, then all will be well. It will take time and patience on my part, but telling myself that I can work towards it, then everything will be okay again.
Good luck!!

Wow! I am so sorry you are going through the same as me! But you sound really strong, and that is great! You have very good points and I do hope you achieve all of your goals Thanks for the support! You also have my support! and yeah I just have to keep moving forward, and I have to try and get myself out of this emotional turmoil. It's so hard though cause I feel like I was hit with a ton of bricks, like everything was going great, and I was laughing more, and having more fun cause Mike was always at the house, and he is such a funny person that he can do anything it will just make you laugh, lol. So I hung around him more and I was laughing at what he was doing. I guess my dad saw this and became an asshole about it. My mother is sympathizing with me, she agrees, that my dad is acting like an asshole. My mother even said "Why would your dad take away what is bringing a little bit of joy in your life? Is he that dense? Or is he doing this on purpose? It's really messed up of your dad to be that way, knowing your mood is different when Mike is around" I agree with my mom, I don't understand. She's going to talk to my dad and find out the real reason why he doesn't want Mike around. Cause for my dad to say "I don't even want him at the house" makes me think it has something to do with me and it's not job related. Cause if it was a job I could see my dad saying something like "I am not going to use him for jobs, but he can still come to the house and hangout, but i'm just never using him" Then I would think it really is job related, but he literally doesn't even want him at the house? Makes me think it's something to do with me. But oh well. Sorry for the long reply. Also I am sorry about your situation, but you seem to have a good positive, strong attitude, and that is really great!

[PeaceKeeper93]

Originally Posted by Idiot17

I have no advice, just letting you know you're not alone in having a controlling father and the like.... (((((hugs)))))

Thank you so much though for commenting! I do appreciate it! And I am sorry you have a controlling father! Hugs to you, my friend.

[Jess113]

No its all good.
By the way, you're very lucky that your mom understands.
Mine sides with my dad.
I'm trying to be strong...daily trying to hold myself together...because, like you, my only bit of happiness has been taken from me.
Thanks for supporting me...you'll always have my support as well.