[freefallin]

I'm almost 25 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend, am about to be homeless because no one will hire me, can't afford the medical tests I need because I have no money since no one thinks I'm worth hiring, my family acts like I'm not a member of the family, and I have virtually no friends.

So basically, nobody thinks I'm worth anything.

I've been trying to find a job for months, and I can't find anything. I've probably applied to hundreds of jobs already. I'm almost out of my savings, and I don't have anywhere to go if I can't pay my rent, so I'll just be living on the streets. I can't move back in with my dad because my younger sister is a NIGHTMARE...as in, she makes disgusting messes all over the house that she refuses to clean, and they eventually begin attracting fruit flies. The house smells nauseatingly awful, and it fills with fruit flies regularly. You can't even eat in that house without fruit flies landing on your plate. That's not even the half of it, though. She's also physically violent and screams all day long. I'd be better off sleeping under a bridge that living in that environment again.

I have a bachelor's degree in English and professional communications and decided to go back to school to take pre-medical prerequisite courses so that I can apply to medical schools in a few years and actually attain a degree that means something to employers. The thing is, in order to get into medical school, you have to job shadow doctors and volunteer to show your commitment to the community and healthcare industry. I have contacted dozens of doctor's offices asking if I can job shadow, and they all either don't respond to me or turn me down. Nobody is willing to help me out. Nobody thinks I'm worth investing in.

Not even my school's counseling center will help me by letting me at least talk to somebody. I went over there for an appointment, and they refused to see me since I am not a full-time student. They told me to go to an outside psychologist. I can't afford an outside psychologist because I have no money since no one will hire me. So basically, I'm depressed to the point that I'm scaring myself, and not even my university thinks I'm worth saving by giving me someone to talk to.

I don't know what I did to be so rejected by all of society, but I can't take it anymore. I did everything society told me was "right." I went to college and graduated with a 3.95 GPA. I made an A in every single college course I took with the exception of one. I'm not a felon or anything. What in the world makes me so undesirable to EVERYONE?

All I do is sit in my apartment and cry anymore. Every time I try to better myself, I hit a wall. It's become pretty apparent at this point that I'm just useless to everybody and nobody thinks I'm worth investing in to give me a chance at gaining some experience so I can become less useless.

I have no idea what to do. I'm depressed, I'm scared, and I'm sick. What am I doing wrong, and what do I need to do to fix it before I wind up living on the streets? I never once thought in my life that I would be Googling ideas for places to sleep when you're homeless, but that is what I've been doing.

I just want to be able to work. That's all I want. I mean, it's not all I want, but at least it'd give me some purpose and reason to exist.

Hello Freefallin: I'm so sorry you're in such dire straits! It sounds dreadful. Back when I was employed, I was a vocational counselor. So I know a few things about job search. Something appears to be wrong with yours. I can't tell what it might be from your post. As you say, you appear to have done everything right. But something is keeping you from achieving any success. I'd be glad to communicate further with you about this if you want. Send me a private message.

You mentioned having an interest in the medical field. Could you work in a hospital or nursing home setting?

Anyway, let me know if you want to "talk" further. I'm going to be thinking more about what you have written & if anything further pops into my mind, I'll write another reply. My very best wishes to you...

[Clara22]

This is what I think, what I really think and this is not about compassion or wanting you to feel better. It is not all your fault. You are not absolutely useless. Absolutely useless is this system we are in. Oh yeah, I know in your country (which was mine too, till I moved out a year ago) there are people (too many IMO) that think individuals make their own destiny and that, if something goes wrong, it is their entire fault. That is just an illusion. A young person like you should have more opportunities and, moreover, more possibilities (sometimes, opportunities are there but it is not possible for us to take advantage of them because of several reasons I will not mention here). Oh, no. What you are telling us here surely is related to individual issues, but it is also about social issues that are not under your control. I cannot accept that you judge yourself so hard when you have not created all the issues you have to face now. Some of things you are facing now have been caused for the older generations (like mine). We have contributed to the current status of things, where young people cannot have equal opportunities to access to health care, education, work and other necessary things for their development. You may have made wrong decisions in the past, maybe, but, believe me, it is not all your fault and your are not absolutely useless.
I see you are trying to solve at least one of the problems (housing) so you are taking one problem at a time and that is very good. Again, as an older person please I ask you, don't let the awfulness of this society to let you down and to make you feel it is all your fault.

[freefallin]

Thank you for the offer, The Skeezyks. I PMed you.

The thing is, it doesn't matter if people say, "Oh, you're not useless. It's the system. blah blah." Reality demonstrates otherwise extremely clearly. Obviously there's something wrong with ME if literally all of society is rejecting me. For goodness sakes, I applied even to places like Kmart, and no one is giving me a call. People work at Kmart who don't even have high school degrees, who are flat out rude to customers, etc. If these people can get hired, but I can't, but I can't find any work at all, then something is very, very wrong and undesirable about me.

[Clara22]

I do not challenge your views about there may be things you should change or improve in order to get better results in job hunting. But I think you should have the opportunity to get health care and orientation to get a job. I wish you the best

[freefallin]

Originally Posted by Clara22

I do not challenge your views about there may be things you should change or improve in order to get better results in job hunting. But I think you should have the opportunity to get health care and orientation to get a job. I wish you the best

Yeah, would be nice. Thank you for your well wishes.

[hope2929]

I felt bad when reading your post so I wanted to reply. Even if it's not helpful, know that someone does care, even though I do not know you personally.

Are there any welfare programs in your area? I know being on welfare may not sound like a great thing, but being homeless isn't good either. Welfare programs can also assist people with getting jobs too.

It's great that you went to school & achieved those high grades! It's a shame you are having a difficult time finding employment. I know you feel so rejected right now, but keep your head up & keep trying. I personally know intelligent, good hearted people who have been rejected for jobs over and over again. Sometimes a person may be over qualified, sometimes under qualified.

I do not know what the deal is with these employers, but I hope you make it to med school. As hard as it is to keep getting rejected, keep trying. Don't lose hope. Your future depends on it, I hope you get hired soon.

[freefallin]

Originally Posted by hope2929

I felt bad when reading your post so I wanted to reply. Even if it's not helpful, know that someone does care, even though I do not know you personally.

Are there any welfare programs in your area? I know being on welfare may not sound like a great thing, but being homeless isn't good either. Welfare programs can also assist people with getting jobs too.

It's great that you went to school & achieved those high grades! It's a shame you are having a difficult time finding employment. I know you feel so rejected right now, but keep your head up & keep trying. I personally know intelligent, good hearted people who have been rejected for jobs over and over again. Sometimes a person may be over qualified, sometimes under qualified.

I do not know what the deal is with these employers, but I hope you make it to med school. As hard as it is to keep getting rejected, keep trying. Don't lose hope. Your future depends on it, I hope you get hired soon.

Hi, I'm sorry. I didn't see your response until now. I assumed people stopped looking at my thread once it reached the second page, so I stopped checking.

I did start applying for food stamps, but something made me stop...I think it was asking for information I didn't know, so I closed the application and went to bed. I'll have to figure out where to go to ask someone to help me, I guess, but then I hear it can take a really long time to get approved for any type of welfare anyway.

Anyway, thanks. I hope I get hired too, but I don't see it happening anytime soon. I just keep getting messages saying I'm not qualified or not getting any response at all. I'm just not good enough.

[littlemiss44]

Stop saying yr not good enough. You are just having a REALLY hard time. My suggestion would also be too apply for food stamps and welfare. Food stamps are instant where welfare takes a little more time but not much. If you explain that you are about to be homeless and you can't find work you'll get noticed. Usually when you apply they make an appt for you to see a worker. Then once you get to that appt you'll be assessed and get approved. You did a really excellent job in school. I wouldn't give up not at all. It's tough out there. I know that nursing homes always need good help. Apply there. Ask to speak to the hiring manager. Get yr foot in the door and get noticed. Try looking for jobs online which you probably have. Face to face is always best tho. Keep fighting. You may be forced to live at yr dad's for a few months. I know is horrible and it sounds bad but it's better than being homeless. You are important so never forget that. Starting out is very hard. Don't give up. It's also alot harder cause yr dealing with depression too. I wish you all the luck in the world. Pm me if you want more ideas. Take care.

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[freefallin]

Being homeless WOULD be better than living with my dad, and it IS true that I'm not good enough. I never do anything right and have no job skills whatsoever.

No one gets it. I just want to make myself disappear. I know you mean well, but lying to me doesn't help my situation. I even had a member from this forum PM me that I was "unskilled labor." The reason that I can't find a job REALLY and truly is that I'm not good for anything. I'm not saying that to be dramatic. I'm saying that because it's the truth.

Sorry to hear what you're going through. You are NOT worthless! I agree with what the other posters have said. My best friend has been unemployed for over a year although she has a degree, so don't feel to bad. A lot of people are going through similar situations. As for your job search, have a few people look at it and see if there are any spelling errors or mistakes in them.

A lot of places won't hire you for even the simplest jobs if you don't have relevant experience. If Kmart won't hire you for example, it could be because you are overqualified for the job. As for the jobs that you are looking for, you need experience for a lot of jobs. So maybe it'd help if you lower your salary requirements if that is possible and be more open to taking something in the meantime until you can find the job that you actually want?

You sound way to smart to be working at some low paying job like Kmart btw! Go to a temp agency, that might help you out a bit. Although having to live at home again is horrible, it's much worse on the street and more dangerous I'd imagine. Especially for a woman! Get on food stamps and disability or unemployment if you can. Get a student loan if you don't already have one. Live with a friend or relative temporarily if you can. Live out of a cheap hotel if you have to. Please don't sleep on the streets! If things don't work out, then at least find a shelter you can sleep in!

I'm sorry that I can't help you more. I wish you the best of luck with your situation!

Also, make sure that there are no gaps in your resume. Never put down exact months of a job. Put down years instead such as you worked at such and such place from 2013-2014 and explain all gaps if you can't cover it that way. Even if it's to say that you've been looking for work. Look up how to explain work gaps on here.

The way that you look, dress, and act in interviews really makes a difference in wether or not you get hired for any job. You have to come dressed to all jobs conservatively in a suit or dress. Look up how to dress on here to make sure that you're not doing anything wrong. Know how to answer tough questions and always include a cover letter with every job.

Also, always send a thank you letter to each employer. One other thing, most places scan resumes for exact key words, so make sure that you enter whatever the job posting lists if you have those qualities.

Example, if a place is looking for outgoing and energetic people with flexible schedules who are team players with experience in Excel, customer service, blah, blah, blah, enter that in that order with the exact words!

[freefallin]

I have already had two career service directors look over my resume, and I am applying to entry level jobs. I already got what I could in student loans. There's nothing else I can get without a cosigner. I don't have any friends. I'm about to have NO money. Even cheap hotels cost like $20 a night. Living on the street genuinely would be better than living with my sister. You wouldn't understand if you didn't have to live with her.

I'm really just doomed. There's no point in sugar-coating it.

Thanks.

[fluffbuster]

wondering if you are still looking at this once in awhile. there is always a job out there for everyone who has no experience - it's called being a 'Reset Merchandiser'. a reset merchandiser is one of those people you see sometimes stocking shelfs at Walmart or the Acme or Best Buys or Lowes or Home Depot or Pet Smart or - a lot of other places throughout America. - but they are not store employees - they are outsiders doing the job for only a day (or a night) or a week - or at tops, a month. - it's low pay, usually from $11-15/hr. - but they basically hire anyone that can read [english]. they'll ask you if you know planograms - say yes - a nincompoop can figure out a planogram in under 30sec. - so the spring to fall is their best season - which can keep you afloat till you do get yourself a steady job. just google 'reset merchandisers', narms, set and service, acosta, redi-reps, - there are a gadzillion of these companies out there. then put in to your local school district to be a sub starting in the fall - many places you do not need a teaching cert if you sub (but you do need a min. of a BA). every day you sub you can put on your resume'. and just a note - if you do put in an application to anywhere like acme or walmart or lowes, etc. - never, ever ask for anything above $8/hr - they just won't hire you. hope this helps, if you're still looking.